how many feel they have been damaged by uncompassionate parenting? (89)
giftmagic: my hand is up.
but, my thumb is down.
but, my thumb is down.
Good morning Magic ... though it is Good night in Down below. Talk about the vast of distance
So back to you question.
Could you a wee elaborate what do you mean about Uncompassionate?
It is a huge topic to ponder on. And I would say it would be very usefull to discuss ... especially in times when children have more rights than us, parents.
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CAn a page in the "History Book" be turned??
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Konigsberg: Good morning Magic ... though it is Good night in Down below. Talk about the vast of distance
So back to you question.
Could you a wee elaborate what do you mean about Uncompassionate?
It is a huge topic to ponder on. And I would say it would be very usefull to discuss ... especially in times when children have more rights than us, parents.
So back to you question.
Could you a wee elaborate what do you mean about Uncompassionate?
It is a huge topic to ponder on. And I would say it would be very usefull to discuss ... especially in times when children have more rights than us, parents.
yeah i understand your question Konigsberg, and, how
would you like to be called: "magic"? great title to be born here with yes? thanks...
i felt it could be useful to many to open the door and express the pain inept parenting had caused and suggest
toward some healing maybe.it always helps many to talk and the pains of some help the many then.
so, if it hurts guys let's hear it. you may actually heal another for stating it and touching their hearts too. the pain of the child in the parent teaches new ways of relating if we want it to, doesn't it?
when people hurt, it is only the love that is missing between us, isn't it?
you can call it 'loneliness' or sadness or looking for a partner but in truth is healing we need together, one at a time or all together...
toward that end i hoped to stir the pot and see what cooks for us all coming together on the theme in passing?
so Konigsberg tell us all now: what's biting you most from your childhood and upbringing that never should have been? what will fix it and how and when?
tell us whatever you like? but tell us how we can help fix it again too? if we all want love in our lives we have to learn how to fix it so it can bloom in our hearts again... yes?
there is your theme now let's hear your story so other's can relate and share their's two... if you want to?
and yes Konigsberg the topic is as big as you choose to see it...
isn't it?
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giftmagic: yeah i understand your question Konigsberg, and, how
would you like to be called: "magic"? great title to be born here with yes? thanks...
i felt it could be useful to many to open the door and express the pain inept parenting had caused and suggest toward some healing maybe.
it always helps many to talk and the pains of some help the many then.
so, if it hurts guys let's hear it. you may actually heal another for stating it and touching their hearts too. the pain of the child in the parent teaches new ways of relating if we want it to, doesn't it?
when people hurt, it is only the love that is missing between us, isn't it?
you can call it 'loneliness' or sadness or looking for a partner but in truth is healing we need together, one at a time or all together...
toward that end i hoped to stir the pot and see what cooks for us all coming together on the theme in passing?
so Konigsberg tell us all now: what's biting you most from your childhood and upbringing that never should have been? what will fix it and how and when?
tell us whatever you like? but tell us how we can help fix it again too? if we all want love in our lives we have to learn how to fix it so it can bloom in our hearts again... yes?
there is your theme now let's hear your story so other's can relate and share their's two... if you want to?
and yes Konigsberg the topic is as big as you choose to see it...
isn't it?
That's all Water under the Bridge!would you like to be called: "magic"? great title to be born here with yes? thanks...
i felt it could be useful to many to open the door and express the pain inept parenting had caused and suggest toward some healing maybe.
it always helps many to talk and the pains of some help the many then.
so, if it hurts guys let's hear it. you may actually heal another for stating it and touching their hearts too. the pain of the child in the parent teaches new ways of relating if we want it to, doesn't it?
when people hurt, it is only the love that is missing between us, isn't it?
you can call it 'loneliness' or sadness or looking for a partner but in truth is healing we need together, one at a time or all together...
toward that end i hoped to stir the pot and see what cooks for us all coming together on the theme in passing?
so Konigsberg tell us all now: what's biting you most from your childhood and upbringing that never should have been? what will fix it and how and when?
tell us whatever you like? but tell us how we can help fix it again too? if we all want love in our lives we have to learn how to fix it so it can bloom in our hearts again... yes?
there is your theme now let's hear your story so other's can relate and share their's two... if you want to?
and yes Konigsberg the topic is as big as you choose to see it...
isn't it?
"We don't regret the Past,nor do we shut the Door on it".
It's all in the "Big Book".
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HJFinAZ: CAn a page in the "History Book" be turned??
howdie, do you think history can't change is outcomes from your future for looking back and wondering HJFinAZ?
inept parenting leads to pain causing a withdrawal from bonding with our parents. they punish or restrict, and, think they are doing it right still.
we remember its pain but often don't see we can deliver it even as we lived it again. so many were punished instead of loved and their hearts are scarred still.
how was your heart scarred HJFinAZ? how would you like to feel instead?
how has it altered your approach to love and to life as its been led...?
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giftmagic: yeah i understand your question Konigsberg, and, how
would you like to be called: "magic"? great title to be born here with yes? thanks...
i felt it could be useful to many to open the door and express the pain inept parenting had caused and suggest toward some healing maybe.
it always helps many to talk and the pains of some help the many then.
so, if it hurts guys let's hear it. you may actually heal another for stating it and touching their hearts too. the pain of the child in the parent teaches new ways of relating if we want it to, doesn't it?
when people hurt, it is only the love that is missing between us, isn't it?
you can call it 'loneliness' or sadness or looking for a partner but in truth is healing we need together, one at a time or all together...
toward that end i hoped to stir the pot and see what cooks for us all coming together on the theme in passing?
so Konigsberg tell us all now: what's biting you most from your childhood and upbringing that never should have been? what will fix it and how and when?
tell us whatever you like? but tell us how we can help fix it again too? if we all want love in our lives we have to learn how to fix it so it can bloom in our hearts again... yes?
there is your theme now let's hear your story so other's can relate and share their's two... if you want to?
and yes Konigsberg the topic is as big as you choose to see it...
isn't it?
would you like to be called: "magic"? great title to be born here with yes? thanks...
i felt it could be useful to many to open the door and express the pain inept parenting had caused and suggest toward some healing maybe.
it always helps many to talk and the pains of some help the many then.
so, if it hurts guys let's hear it. you may actually heal another for stating it and touching their hearts too. the pain of the child in the parent teaches new ways of relating if we want it to, doesn't it?
when people hurt, it is only the love that is missing between us, isn't it?
you can call it 'loneliness' or sadness or looking for a partner but in truth is healing we need together, one at a time or all together...
toward that end i hoped to stir the pot and see what cooks for us all coming together on the theme in passing?
so Konigsberg tell us all now: what's biting you most from your childhood and upbringing that never should have been? what will fix it and how and when?
tell us whatever you like? but tell us how we can help fix it again too? if we all want love in our lives we have to learn how to fix it so it can bloom in our hearts again... yes?
there is your theme now let's hear your story so other's can relate and share their's two... if you want to?
and yes Konigsberg the topic is as big as you choose to see it...
isn't it?
My childhood was the happiest time of my life and I thank my father for using Leather thick belt on my butt ... quite often. I use to be a very naughty child. And I thank my Mom for not interrupting those Procedures.
Thanks Dad!!! Thanks Mom!
I wish you have a great evening Magic!
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Conrad73: That's all Water under the Bridge!
"We don't regret the Past,nor do we shut the Door on it".
It's all in the "Big Book".
"We don't regret the Past,nor do we shut the Door on it".
It's all in the "Big Book".
Precisely!!!!!!!!
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HJFinAZ: Precisely!!!!!!!!
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Everybody's past shapes them into who they are , for some its a good experience for some not so good , I think if you come to a stage in life where your not happy its good to look back and see how this has happened , from that point on it becomes easier to change
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giftmagic: howdie, do you think history can't change is outcomes from your future for looking back and wondering HJFinAZ?
inept parenting leads to pain causing a withdrawal from bonding with our parents. they punish or restrict, and, think they are doing it right still.
we remember its pain but often don't see we can deliver it even as we lived it again. so many were punished instead of loved and their hearts are scarred still.
how was your heart scarred HJFinAZ? how would you like to feel instead?
how has it altered your approach to love and to life as its been led...?
inept parenting leads to pain causing a withdrawal from bonding with our parents. they punish or restrict, and, think they are doing it right still.
we remember its pain but often don't see we can deliver it even as we lived it again. so many were punished instead of loved and their hearts are scarred still.
how was your heart scarred HJFinAZ? how would you like to feel instead?
how has it altered your approach to love and to life as its been led...?
I was abandoned by my mother and left with an alcoholic father when I was 5 years old. Today I am the caregiver for my 88 year old mom, the love is MINE, all mine..
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Conrad73: That's all Water under the Bridge!
"We don't regret the Past,nor do we shut the Door on it".
It's all in the "Big Book".
"We don't regret the Past,nor do we shut the Door on it".
It's all in the "Big Book".
yeah a great philosphy but most aren't living it, are they? and many a snag gets caught in the torrent going under that bridge...
i had a rigid uncompromising stepmother from age 2 who believed absolutely every punishment i wore no matter the degree was right. they thought they loved me and treated me well, seeing i was so rebellious, and they never understood why?
the depths of my rebellion destroyed 20 years of my life. i could have been a victim or a rebel, but, in the end now all that's left is that i hate her still.
unfortunately now the shoe is on the other foot. they loved me and punished me to 'do it right' constantly and i fail them still.
now they wonder why i won't ever respond. they don't understand i grew to finally see emotional brutality and love will never cause love to be returned ever, not then nor again.
on the positive side, it made me write an interesting 400 page book on it called: LOVING - how we all distort it and how to fix it. its never been published yet.
never been seen by any, but will be one day. it showed me how the pains of our past are faced in our lives again. until, we solve those keys leading us to experience it in the dynamics of our relationships with life again and again.
'keep the home fires burning'... won't you guys?
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I'm sure many have but prefer to keep it in the past...as some others have already mentioned. And yes, the damage can be detrimental.
Peace & Love to all
Peace & Love to all
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almera03: Everybody's past shapes them into who they are , for some its a good experience for some not so good , I think if you come to a stage in life where your not happy its good to look back and see how this has happened , from that point on it becomes easier to change
and, welcome to our nightmares almera03...
right on. so, i thought i would see how many agree???
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HJFinAZ: I was abandoned by my mother and left with an alcoholic father when I was 5 years old. Today I am the caregiver for my 88 year old mom, the love is MINE, all mine..
i was abandoned with an alcoholic father when i was one and perish the thought of ever looking after either of them from his next coupling for a day ever again!
err, have you got something in yr eye there mate???
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hopefloats: I'm sure many have but prefer to keep it in the past...as some others have already mentioned. And yes, the damage can be detrimental.
Peace & Love to all
Peace & Love to all
welcome hopefloats...
AND...???
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Its great that most of us can forgive and forget the past but Sometimes it all gets to you.
Sometimes its like a story book you read and you can keep it firmly in your past but there are things that can open up the wounds and it bloody hurts..
Sometimes its hard to be strong and make the most out of life and sometimes its easy.
I just realised... I hate rollercoaters. I want to be on a Gondola
Sometimes its like a story book you read and you can keep it firmly in your past but there are things that can open up the wounds and it bloody hurts..
Sometimes its hard to be strong and make the most out of life and sometimes its easy.
I just realised... I hate rollercoaters. I want to be on a Gondola
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RillyNiceGuy: A person must know that it is their present that makes them who they are.....not their past.
Exactly!
Things from my childhood and past which upset me aren't for a public forum as they are strictly a part of my private life.
If you dwell on things that at one time upset you then it can be a downward spiral and you're wasting energy, thoughts, your life and your time on something which you cannot change.
Anything that happened can be something which you can gain strength and grow from though...absolutely anything.
It depends on positivity, learning from experiences and then letting bad feelings go.
There is no point in keeping hold of pain as it will stop you moving on.
Talking about it can help some but also can take some people right back down to where they were and how they felt all over again.
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HJFinAZ: I was abandoned by my mother and left with an alcoholic father when I was 5 years old. Today I am the caregiver for my 88 year old mom, the love is MINE, all mine..
I was also abandoned by my mother and adopted by her brother who molested me when I was 32 years old. He and his wife thoght of me as a responsibility, just someone to feed. No love or compassion whatsoever came from them. When I had my daughter I made sure she knew she was loved.
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but, my thumb is down.