I was being asked to IM with a couple of men who I had no interest in. The problem was they were trying to IM or send emails almost every day even though I pretty well made it clear I had no interest. I hate it when men make pests of themselves like that. It was like they're desperate or think I'm that desperate as well.
I'm just a bit confused right now. I know in my heart that I'll probably not marry but I do want to have a companion of some sort. It's just difficult because of the shift I work and other factors in my life.
It has to be a mix of following your head and following your heart. We need to have some sort of standards but maybe the standards are not as high (but not too low) compared to when we were younger.
My sentiments exactly. I have to go with how I feel especially when I need to feel comfortable about the situation.
I've been told by friends that if a man who's a distance away from me wants to meet up, he should come here but still meet on neutral grounds (not where I live but someplace public). That way if something happens, I can bail and he has no idea still where I live.
I'm very unsure about this one. I'd like to meet someone but I'm also nervous at the same time. With all the scary things that have happened, I'm not sure if I'm willing to travel someplace else by myself being that I'm a single female. I'd rather meet someplace neutral or have the man travel here. I don't know if that would be considered selfish of me but it would make me feel a bit more at ease with things. Does that make sense?
I prefer to go about 5 years younger to about 5 - 10 years older. The reason is that there is a variety of men then to choose from. The older ones are more mature and the younger ones can be quite mature for their age and also a bit more playful.
I rarely make first contact (if ever) cause of the times I have, I never got a response back. I feel that if someone is seriously interested in me, they'll contact me.
The last person I saw was Gowan when he played at our local Food Festival (about 5 or 6 years ago). He now performs with Styx and has been at the casino in the Falls a couple of times with them and is returning in a solo performance in the next couple of months (I think June).
I joined on March 19th and have enjoyed myself here. It seems like a very comfortable spot to be (that's what I've experienced so far). I'm also a bigger woman but have the intentions of losing some weight (mainly for health reasons).
Congrats to the both of you (and to the others who've made their long distance meetings to something much more meaningful). This shows that sometimes it's worth the risk when it comes to meeting someone from farther away than you first expected. I've been notified by a couple of men in the States (I live in Canada but it's still a distance from where these men live) and I'm seeing where this is going to take me. I'm not getting overly excited just yet but it does give me hope for the future.
I agree in regards to the younger men. I don't mind if the man is just a few years younger (I'm 45 so I don't mind responding to someone as young as 40) but when I get these 20something and 30something men, I don't answer. I try to answer when I can but not all the time.
I'm not too sure but I think I'd go with what is connected to the hands and lips. It also depends on the situation (ie if I want a good massage or do I want to be kissed).
That's good to know. I've been contacted by a couple of men in the States and I'm here in southern Ontario so this does give a bit of potential hope. I've been contacted by a couple of men who live between here and Toronto and there has not been any sparks at all (or after a few times emailing, they simply stop communicating).
The only way I'd go younger is if the man was only up to 5 years younger than me. I've had some guys who are in their early 20s or 30s who have contacted me (on another site) and I just think to myself 'Ah no way'.
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Just stopping in to say hi since I'm pretty new here myself as well.
I guess it wasn't me after all.
I guess it's just a matter of time.
Do I dare comment? lol
Bonus!! Congrats.
I'm good. 
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