How many of you really think that perhaps reluctancy to parttake in doing the housework is one of the major fundation for arguments between your former ???
Either way this seems to be his way of doing things. No one knows what he is doing nor why. He might as wll be running away but chasing after him wouldn´t and doesn´t work. So patience is the only alternative.
Now don´t you just go jumping to conclucions, my dear lady. Lots of regularities and normal things and need are still managed even though I might be pesuaded to agree with you in the slightest.
I knew it. I´ll go first then. I sort of remember that the utterly few times I happened to be watching Man.U the lady desperately wanted me to take out the garbage after only 10 min´s of play. I just couldn´t understand why the timing was so important. Couldn´t it wait a few hours ???? Perhaps I´m the only one here that ever had to struggle with this unique situation.
Just be cool. It´s a pest to sit and wait for a reply of this nature with all the doubts and self questioning to follow. But that is part of the process. Give it the time it takes and try to take your mind of the question. Do all the things you always wanted to do but never did quote-ing the cliché.
Hey Steve, life is not supposed to be that way. Don´t stay cooked up somewhere. Women are nice but not the whole thing. You seem to be a good "pen". Get fun out of writing more here. I really don´t know if you do, but if you don´t, start. It is rewarding! Thanks for you input. Nonni
There is a company named Pimsleur that makes soundbooks with teaching material for languages. English - German and vise versa. These you can find on the net. Also a good practical thing is to read the morning paper every day. Just a few sentences and gradually you find that you are easing into the language grasping how to make use of your work.
There are no short cuts but it is amazing how much you can learn in one day by just listening to a language sound file. Let grammatics be a project for the future.
I find what you say to be very logical and in zink with what really is going on. We in our search for "love" let so many conditions hang in the balance. If I was poor and letting you know it I´d have small chances in comparison to find a woman. She´d think I couldn´t provide. If I´d be rich, funny, nice looking but a "grunt" my real chanses would be minimal if you´d know. Nobody wants a bore. But you wouldn´t know it until later.
So. All we seek can only be varified by personal test.
Precisely!!! We tend to seek out the paths we know. The unknown is frightfull. Then still we ask. Why did we lose what we had. Were the initial choices wrong to begin with. I suspect that we let these questions lie perhaps afraid to disect not admitting where things went wrong in the first place.
Why do some marry many times and always devorce and then some only once and it lasts.
Very common response to this intimate question. Tell me!! What are these things to "want the same thing"?? and "go further where"??
These proclamations do not get us anywhere. Are we talking economics or distances. We are all special and it is for the partner to undisclose where these specialities lie I´d think.
Companionship can come from so many sources. A dog for excmple. Collies are the best. I know.
Sorry for perhaps being a bit blunt but defining what we search for is a precise science if we mean business. Know what you are looking for and admitting there are many that can fill these shoes and you will find happiness with someone of those. Amazingly easy too.
The reason is we are so many looking for the same thing. The only problem is just that we visually come in so many different formats and shapes that the choices get hard.
The Alpha-male is the ruler and mating partner and no one else. I´m still not trying to raise an argument. Much rather the question of wheather or not we feel if it might be true in our own experience.
What made us do the choices when we sought out our mates when the world was young and we with it.
Ah.... The bonding ties of life long partnership is mostly found in the "bird" community and nowhere else. An excuse or not it does justify setting other behavioural boundries out side societies ruling in human societies. But the simmetry in mammel behaviour is there explaining the primal instinct.
The behaviour of wolves is more a pact savouring the pupps. A flock society that is protecting the offspring rather then acting in monogami. The wolf hirearki is more like a "harem" structure then monogami.
I will not make excuses for men. My mere intent is to set out the question and arguments are most welcome.
It is a delicate place to be if you are looking for the one and only. Since we have the multiplicity of choice the media brings us, we can look at people from all corners of the world.
If we don´t submit to the problems and discard because of distances we could all have 10 choices and no way of making up our minds who is it really. That is emotional chaos.
Don´t we all have the capability to love everyone we meet. Isn´t it just an intellectual choice that we decide to nurish. Giving up ones searching for the right one and settling for the second best that perhaps would turn out to be best.
I tend to think we aren´t honest enough in our search and self description. Are we what we say we are in our presentation or are we really quite different. Believe you me we know what we are admittedly or not.
I really do think I know what men want. I also think I have a good idea on what women want. Primal in men is the distribution of theyr seed. No matter how many children there are they will always want more. Primally but perhaps not intellectually and the behaviour is poligamic.
The woman´s behaviour is monogamic in return. Seeking out the one she thinks would secure the best future for the offspring. Culture has forced changes to the intellectual aspect of it all desturbing the primal drive.
Right on. I´sure I had some 1.2 sec role and now you know a famous guy. he he he. Sorry. Fame is addicstive.
Hi Perhaps we all are a bit desperate resourcing to media so unnatural to our way of normal communication. Time has delt us thease cards and we must deal with them the best we can. Meaning partner search.
But it puzzles me to see how many of us never mention the negativities that we bare. It seems to me that we are all model citizens. No flaws what so ever.
That in itself is a fundamental deception to the dream we harvest.
The Swedes are special as most nationalities, I suppose. They are an old nation of the "assembly line mentality". Order and "on time" is ever so important and they officially care about the individual. They helped me bring up three children to University degrees and for that I am thankfull.
But.
Sweden has accepted many foreigners from a waste diversity of countries through the years and as allways good or bad people are amongst these visitors. Keeping in mind the love of order there have been some faults in how people in Sweden have realized what kind of people the visitors are at times. Some come there without education and even illiterate. Some come from countries of unrest with scars on theyr soules that the Swedes have no comprehension of. Some come because they can live a comfortable life on welfare and it is this group of people that unfortunately has set the general attitudes.
While in Sweden visitors have a harder time then locals to get a job. This is somewhat caused by the general beliefs that visitors come there for the social benefits and not to participate in society to the fullest. Reluctancy or perhaps opportunities to learn the language and be accepted that way also plays a part in how visitors are treated and one big contributor is the lengthy time visitors are stuck in the system beeing "treated" for legal acceptance. Hoards of people have been stuck in "immigration camps" for up to 10 years while theyr papers are in the grinding mills of immigration laws.
All in all Sweden is a friendly place to live in but it is difficult to get "close" to people there and they are very true to theyr culture and not so keen on learning about others.
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Let us men talk about housework.
How many of you really think that perhaps reluctancy to parttake in doing the housework is one of the major fundation for arguments between your former ???