Why do men run scared when women tell them how they feel? (96)
ComedyLoverCharlotte, North Carolina USA1 Threads 12 PostsI'm don't understand why men run scared when a woman says I love you, before they do. 
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ComedyLover: I'm don't understand why men run scared when a woman says I love you, before they do.
Maybe because you might want us to be at the same place and the same time you are there.... Relationships develop differently for the two involved! Be patience....
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ComedyLover: I'm don't understand why men run scared when a woman says I love you, before they do.
I think it is because they dont feel the same way and now what are they going to do hurry up and feel like you do and can be a scary place for some think about if you the women was told by the man I Love you but you did not feel the same are you heading for the door too????
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ComedyLover: I'm don't understand why men run scared when a woman says I love you, before they do.
I have often found it to work the other way as well.. ------ This thread is Archived ------
ComedyLover: I'm don't understand why men run scared when a woman says I love you, before they do.
I don't know why this is, either, but it sure does seem to be the case. Maybe that men do have a difficult time giving up bachelorhood, the old "I don't want any strings, " etc... You're right--it is that way (?)------ This thread is Archived ------
I feel like such a fool for saying it too soon. He blurted it out first and then took it back. (Sounds like, "The Nanny.") Then I told him I loved him a few days later. He's been avoiding me for the past day. Whereas, we were talking several times a day. Maybe he's thinking about it? 
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ComedyLover: I'm don't understand why men run scared when a woman says I love you, before they do.
I have been on the other side being told I love you and I didn't feel the same for him. I started sabotagging the relationship. Which wasn't fair but, thats what my brain did until I finally broke it off. For me I hadn't even been divorce 2 years yet and was just dating and he was more into it than me.
So I think it all depends on the person and situation. When you say it I think the other person has to feel safe that if they don't feel the same way they can continue the relationship until they are ready to say the same if it is true for them and they are ready.
This is just my thought... Good Luck and Let Love
- What you think about you bring about!
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Fear of intimacy, fear of commitment, fear of accountability, give hime some time to think about it. You are a beautiful woman, if hes at all smart, he will come around. 
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If he was in a past relationship where he told some other female he loved her only to be cheated on or she left him.He may be scared that the very same thing may happen so telling him that have freaked him out.If you say those 3 words first because he may want to have said them it could backfire.Since you've already put the pressure on him in hopes he'll say the same thing too.I guess some men get scared and some don't.
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ComedyLover: I feel like such a fool for saying it too soon. He blurted it out first and then took it back. (Sounds like, "The Nanny.") Then I told him I loved him a few days later. He's been avoiding me for the past day. Whereas, we were talking several times a day. Maybe he's thinking about it?
You can't honestly mean you have to worry, do you? You're a knock-out, lovely lady! Well, whoever doesn't love you is a hopeless idiot--I can tell you a thousand per cent you will have the best guy this world can offer. You're beautiful.
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ComedyLover: I feel like such a fool for saying it too soon. He blurted it out first and then took it back. (Sounds like, "The Nanny.") Then I told him I loved him a few days later. He's been avoiding me for the past day. Whereas, we were talking several times a day. Maybe he's thinking about it?
Play possum. There is nothing as alluring as a woman who is unavailable. And beautiful. Make it stick, and make it hurt. You have ALL the artillery. What a gomer if he doesn't see how wonderful you are.------ This thread is Archived ------
Evidently, he takes it seriously. That's not necessarily bad.
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ComedyLover: I feel like such a fool for saying it too soon. He blurted it out first and then took it back. (Sounds like, "The Nanny.") Then I told him I loved him a few days later. He's been avoiding me for the past day. Whereas, we were talking several times a day. Maybe he's thinking about it?
Could be. Allow him the room to feel his way around the idea. We all have different reasons for doing what we do. And many times, it only makes sense to the one doing it.
For me, when I'm in a relationship, I wouldn't run away, but run with it.
Good luck.
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ComedyLover: I feel like such a fool for saying it too soon. He blurted it out first and then took it back. (Sounds like, "The Nanny.") Then I told him I loved him a few days later. He's been avoiding me for the past day. Whereas, we were talking several times a day. Maybe he's thinking about it?
Rejection and no answer is a difficult thing to handle. He must have saw something in your eyes and face when he first said it to you. He is probably trying to figure out what went wrong. Go to him in person! Show him that you truly love him.
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bob1959: Evidently, he takes it seriously. That's not necessarily bad.
that's a good point, too. All of it should be looked at for a very fair appraisal. Love's tricky, and funky, complex. Thanx for this input I had not measured into the mix-------- This thread is Archived ------
rohaan: Play possum. There is nothing as alluring as a woman who is unavailable. And beautiful. Make it stick, and make it hurt. You have ALL the artillery. What a gomer if he doesn't see how wonderful you are.
Now that was what I was thinking! I'm glad you said it. If he gets all freaky because you said "I love you" and wants to cut off contact with you....leave him alone and give him a dose of his own medicine. Maybe then he'll get things into perspective.
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rohaan: You can't honestly mean you have to worry, do you? You're a knock-out, lovely lady! Well, whoever doesn't love you is a hopeless idiot--I can tell you a thousand per cent you will have the best guy this world can offer. You're beautiful.
Look dude. I have had many chances at having a "knock-out, hot" woman. But the looks only go so far. You are only saying that because you don't know her, lived with her or even had a argument with her. You want to know where the real beauty lies? In her PERSONALITY & CHARACTER. And that, my friend, you don't know by just looking on the outward appearance. It's because of people like you, that they enter into relationships in a shallow way and wonder why it blew up on them. I think this is my biggest fear about women...that they don't have a deep-seated idea on what's important in their partner and their role to have a great relationship.
Right now, I have a 20 year old wanting to date me. But again, until I see something of essence, it won't happen.
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lovely4u7da: I think it is because they dont feel the same way and now what are they going to do hurry up and feel like you do and can be a scary place for some think about if you the women was told by the man I Love you but you did not feel the same are you heading for the door too????
This ^ , and also, if he's a decent guy and is not in love with you, he will not want to use you and lead you on - he probably feels it's best to break it off before you become too attached if he does not share your feelings. This is actually a good sign in a guy, I think
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