Why do men run scared when women tell them how they feel? (96)
mastic55Long Island, New York USA167 Threads 6,859 PostsComedyLover: I'm don't understand why men run scared when a woman says I love you, before they do.
Because that means she found a bank statement.
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nataliemkd: It's worse if they say I love you and don't back up their words
The way I see it there are two meanings to the word I love you.
The first few months when you are together you might be in love and it is a great feeling. I do have the tendency to say "I love you" at that point. It doesn't mean it implicates anything, it's just an expression of how I feel at the moment.
After few months the in love phase passes, and it grows to either love or separation. If it grows into love than the word I love you has a totally different meaning and it implicates a lot more.
The way I see it there are two meanings to the word I love you.
The first few months when you are together you might be in love and it is a great feeling. I do have the tendency to say "I love you" at that point. It doesn't mean it implicates anything, it's just an expression of how I feel at the moment.
After few months the in love phase passes, and it grows to either love or separation. If it grows into love than the word I love you has a totally different meaning and it implicates a lot more.
That's a very vague attempt at trying to put love into little boxes......
I don't think that is possible...... love is whatever it is at any given moment in time.
Maybe you mistake lust for love in those first few months ?
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Englishman55: That's a very vague attempt at trying to put love into little boxes......
I don't think that is possible...... love is whatever it is at any given moment in time.
Maybe you mistake lust for love in those first few months ?
I don't think that is possible...... love is whatever it is at any given moment in time.
Maybe you mistake lust for love in those first few months ?
It's not just lust when you are in love. It's also the belief that you have a lot in common with your partner, and the feeling of comfort and happiness when you are together.
Love is something else, it is the moment when "me" becomes "us" and it is more lasting feeling. JMO
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nataliemkd: It's not just lust when you are in love. It's also the belief that you have a lot in common with your partner, and the feeling of comfort and happiness when you are together.
Love is something else, it is the moment when "me" becomes "us" and it is more lasting feeling. JMO
Love is something else, it is the moment when "me" becomes "us" and it is more lasting feeling. JMO
I believe I have a lot in common with many of my friends and feel comfortable and happy to be with them...... that does not mean I love them, more that I like them.
I do not quite understand your example of the "me" to "us" part either. ?
Are you saying that when it is "me" it's just lust and when it becomes "us" then it is love ?..... which is basically what I was intimating at.
I would also be interested to know if in any of your relationships, you can honestly say there was a particular moment in time when you could say it went from "me" to "us".
I would venture to say that it would happen over time, rather than be one minute.... "me" the next minute "us"
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ComedyLover: Yes, he did. We are fine now. I'm just so happy.
Good news! I like Hollywood giving us a happy ending. Congrats. Remember to smile often at him.
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ComedyLover: I'm don't understand why men run scared when a woman says I love you, before they do.
there's a very standard and running joke in chinese culture that explains this. being married is like living in a walled city. everyone inside wants to get out and everyone outside wants to get in.
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ComedyLover: I'm don't understand why men run scared when a woman says I love you, before they do.
He who loves does not say I love you.....................
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How long were in the relationship when you told him you loved him?
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Trossy: How long were in the relationship when you told him you loved him?
I would think this is interesting to know, but probably has no bearing on anything. All of us travel into and out of love at different speeds. Some might fall in love at first sight and others may take years.
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In response to: I'm don't understand why men run scared when a woman says I love you, before they do.
Men run scared from me all the time and thats when i just look at them..
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Big_John: I would think this is interesting to know, but probably has no bearing on anything. All of us travel into and out of love at different speeds. Some might fall in love at first sight and others may take years.
I fall in love in one month and out of love in one year
The ones who lasted longer we probably the real thing
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considering most women are stuck-up i find it amusing that women will say i love you, men run because most women want him to behave or be a good boy example no more strip clubs so men say screw you cause we don't want to be tied down and be controlled or bossed around and put up with your mother.
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nataliemkd: I fall in love in one month and out of love in one year
Pencil me in for a year starting in 2011!!
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Some have tried and regret it venusenvy: Two questions...Have you met in person?? is it possible hes married or in a relationship? Hmmmm: confused:
I was wondering the same thing. Whether or not they've met in person has some relevance to this situation. First, it's relevant to the reality of the professed emotions (love not being likely sans physical meeting, so the likelihood of illusion is much higher), and second, a day without communication is less grievous for those who know each other in person, I think (though one day isn't particularly grievous in any case; sometimes it's the best medicine during a disagreement).Third, if your relationship is exclusively "virtual," that places a different and often more problematic set of difficulties, where ceasing communication might be more significant than in a "Real Life" relationship.
I'm glad to hear you've re-established contact. For what it's worth, I see nothing at all alarming or unusual in the man's response or in your situation in general. Love ain't easy - particularly the initial feelings of vulnerability until your relationship clarifies.
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Ambrose2007: I was wondering the same thing. Whether or not they've met in person has some relevance to this situation. First, it's relevant to the reality of the professed emotions (love not being likely sans physical meeting, so the likelihood of illusion is much higher), and second, a day without communication is less grievous for those who know each other in person, I think (though one day isn't particularly grievous in any case; sometimes it's the best medicine during a disagreement).
Third, if your relationship is exclusively "virtual," thatplaces creates a different and often more problematic set of difficulties stresses, where ceasing communication might be more significant than in a "Real Life" relationship.
I'm glad to hear you've re-established contact. For what it's worth, I see nothing at all alarming or unusual in the man's response or in your situation in general. Love ain't easy - particularly the initial feelings of vulnerability until your relationship clarifies.
Third, if your relationship is exclusively "virtual," that
I'm glad to hear you've re-established contact. For what it's worth, I see nothing at all alarming or unusual in the man's response or in your situation in general. Love ain't easy - particularly the initial feelings of vulnerability until your relationship clarifies.
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I3estman4u: Look dude. I have had many chances at having a "knock-out, hot" woman. But the looks only go so far. You are only saying that because you don't know her, lived with her or even had a argument with her. You want to know where the real beauty lies? In her PERSONALITY & CHARACTER. And that, my friend, you don't know by just looking on the outward appearance. It's because of people like you, that they enter into relationships in a shallow way and wonder why it blew up on them. I think this is my biggest fear about women...that they don't have a deep-seated idea on what's important in their partner and their role to have a great relationship.
Right now, I have a 20 year old wanting to date me. But again, until I see something of essence, it won't happen.
Take it easy, Bud. The lady needed a little tenderness, in my opinion, and I felt like being there. I'm aware it's not about looks. I just felt like giving a lady a nice, genuine hug. Is that all right with you? Here, you can have one too. and thanks for the letter.Right now, I have a 20 year old wanting to date me. But again, until I see something of essence, it won't happen.
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How could you say I love you? because all is virtual you dont know him.
Give him some space and time probably, he is not sure about you and the men prefer actions no words
Let him to appreciate you ,is not easily to say I love you.
LOVE TAKES TIME
Give him some space and time probably, he is not sure about you and the men prefer actions no words
Let him to appreciate you ,is not easily to say I love you.
LOVE TAKES TIME
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i have had women tell me they loved me and vice versus,those words never stopped anyone from leaving yet, and never will, love is strang like that, it comes and goe,s just like the words. so enjoy the moment while it last, for it could be the last time you ever hear those words come from honest lips, and believe we mean it every time we say it...good luck and i love you..
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