Gateside Forum Posts (41)

RE: Number 1 Turn Off on Online Dating Sites?

I personally have a problem with guys who initiat contact and say they would like to hear from you and when you reply, they don't seem to make enough effort and you find yourself the one doing all the work in terms of getting to know them and they take days to reply to your messages or sometimes not respond at all, what's up with that?

RE: Would you give your email or talk to someone that will not post a picture on here?

oohh! I know...maybe this is the perfect solution to get rid of scammers once and for all lol, we all know they don't read pro files, hhmm! wonder if they would bother if we were all faceless.
Personally, I don't mind if some one prefers being faceless but don't contact me!!!. Its tedeous enough filtering daily through mail with pics tryna find Mr right,how much more investing time on faceless people as well? Why should they be so privillaged as to have a one way view? Fake or not I want a pic, the truth will come out eventually and I see no crime in tryna find love online,if you are single and available,so no excuses. If I can go through the trouble of righting up a profile and posting my pics up then I expect the same from anyone who contacts me.

RE: Who would like to visit Turkey one day?

Hi, jokes aside, I am planning to visit Turkey early 2011. I import ladies fashion internationally. I hear Turkey has great quality clothes, non branded offcourse. I would like to establish suppliers for my botique.

we can exchange contacts,I wouldn't mind having a tour guide and maybe I could be the first CS member you get to touch YAY!!!

RE: Job Creation! Obama does the best possible job concidering Reality!

Hi there hottie! and thank you!

RE: What is you most favorite book & why?

Life & Times of Michael K

He is a brilliant South African Author,this book is deep, dark,sensitive and graphic, with grim humor. It touches your soul and haunts you long after you have read it.

RE: Do you like cats?

I just said it...I don't like them, hate is a strong word.

RE: Do you like cats?

Nope! I grew up in a household/culture where cats were and are still associated with witchcraft and a black one is deffinately a no go, if it crossed your path, you should turn back as it is bad luck. More than that I find them creeppyy!!!,scary and unhygienic to keep inside of the house.

I met a guy I really liked here on CS but I was put off by the fact that he owen and lived alone with 3cats, he also made it clear he cannot live without them.

RE: How long have you been single?

Hmmm! I have been divorced for almost 2years but hey nature calls now n again...a girl gotta do what a girl gotta do

3 months until 4days ago

RE: Would You Date someone Who Lives in another Country??? What would you look for???

I would..guess that's why I am on an international site as opposed to a local site, unfortunately it would be more easier for him to move to my country than visa versa. Anyone wants to immigrate to South Africa? :) Still one of the easiest countries to immigrate to due to shortage of skills. It's the in country right now..lots of buzz about it, great employment and business opportunities as can be found in a developing ecomomy,great weather,no natural disasters,exchange rate is 8 to the dollar, ten to the euro, and 15 to the pound. We have some of the best beaches in the world,some of the best hotels and restaurants, safari, cheap labour, great property including beach property, large plots for next to nothing, domestic workers to clean your house and look after your kids. As a foreigner with euro/dollar/pound...there is rediculously great value for your buck. Any takers?

RE: Cutting contact without saying a word...

Hi there!

Thank you, I live in Fourways, I think I have seen you before but I didnt comment...your forum was about an internet dating article? can't remember the details.

RE: Cutting contact without saying a word...

Hew! I feel your pain girl...let him be...it will all get better with time...if he cared enough, he would have said something but then again you said both your lives are currently complicated, maybe he is overwhelmed with his own stuff and wants to deal with it on his own plus he is talking via your friend. Accept it and give him space as much as its difficult.

Is it acceptable to explore more than one relationship online?

Hypocricy was meant on my part...you will see this if you re-read my post. Offcourse you have plenty of choices but if you chose to get to know me better romantically out of all the profiles here on CS...surely you must be willing to give us a chance without any other interferences...that is just how I feel and just like nobody is obligated to me, I am not obligated to get into something I am not comfortable with either. There is a saying that goes "you teach people how to treat you" and believe me if they genuinely are keen on you, they will tow the line.

Is it acceptable to explore more than one relationship online?

my sentiments exactly...as a matter of fact we did agree to hide our profiles while we get to know each other. After the confrontation he said I must have misunderstood him and he would have never promised to do that as he has friends here he chats to daily which could have been true but the misundersanding part was deff not true.

Is it acceptable to explore more than one relationship online?

I hear you...we agree to disagree...If someone shows a romantic interest in me I expect he will be focused on getting to know me better until such time he has decided I am not the one...others are off limits, I will be not entertain anything else.

Is it acceptable to explore more than one relationship online?

Thank you, from now on I shall take it all in strides...you have all been great.

Is it acceptable to explore more than one relationship online?

Hi there Laura!

Good to hear from you and thanks always for very constructive and kind responses.

Is it acceptable to explore more than one relationship online?

sounds very familiar

Is it acceptable to explore more than one relationship online?

Wrong choice of words,I guess cause English is not my first language...I am not that dumb.

Is it acceptable to explore more than one relationship online?

Point taken.

Is it acceptable to explore more than one relationship online?

Is it acceptable to explore more than one relationship online?

Hi JMO, I guess I am not as guarded and percimistic when it comes to love but am quickly moving that direction. This is my first online dating experience ever.I truly believed that people come here with good intentions like myself to find the right match. I have been proven wrong twice. In my culture,it used to be a norm for a man to stop a woman on the street and ask her to be his girlfriend. If she says yes... tha is it but it is quickly changing and doesnt happen often as we have become more westernised and its becoming more difficult to meet a man hence we have to resort to online dating which is still considered as taboo by a lot of black people my genaration and seen as a cheap way of finding a partner and not a great dinner table conversation with the futute inlaws,friends and associates alike.

Is it acceptable to explore more than one relationship online?

For some that doesn't need a discussion but an assumption is made that it is a given that one cannot fully give themselves to more that one person cause their focus is distracted by the other person or people.

I think exploring one relationship at the time is fair to the other person as you give them your full and undevided attention until you can determine whether they are right for you or not...then you can move on. That is just me again.

Is it acceptable to explore more than one relationship online?

Thank you jac for your kind words, this is my first post...I was very scared as some people can be vicious on here.

All in all I am happy with the response from everyone.

Is it acceptable to explore more than one relationship online?

Thank you, you are very sweet, that is precisely the reason why I posted,to hear people's different perspectives and I can see now that I was wrong. This is an international site with a diversity of people from different backgrounds. In some culture's there is no such thing as dating..that is why you find a lot of profiles here stating the fact that they are looking for marriage,not stating oh! but I need to test drive you first lol. Other people believe in love at first site. I have heard of people testifying that when they first saw their now partner, they knew right away they would marry them. The experience is an eye opener though thaks again.

Is it acceptable to explore more than one relationship online?

Thank you, you are right, its more lack of trust than jealousy and it sterms from my previous relationship. It seems like my wounds have not quite healed.

Is it acceptable to explore more than one relationship online?

Call me stupid,gullable or whatever...that is why I thought I'd put it out there for the experts advice cause its something I have been battling with. Where I come from...in real life anyway,its not acceptable to date more than one person, its considered imoral, even if its not physical dating cause emotions get involved and people's hopes are built up and feelings get hurt when the other party decides they like you less.

People are not like shoes u get to try on number of pairs at one time and then chose one.

The fact that a person makes contact in the first place means to me, they already genuinely like what they see but still need to see more interms of your personality, traits and character, if that works both ways, then you can move on. I find one's judgement in multiple dating gets blurred as one tends to not be fully present with either date.You feel like you are a center of attention with all these options.So and most of the time one ends up with nothing. That is just my opinion based on my brief experience on here and in real life.

Is it acceptable to explore more than one relationship online?

When you accept someones invitation to get to know them better with the hope that your chats will develop into a relationship...does that mean other online suitors are off limits? Is it regarded as cheating to be exploring more than one potential.
When I joined CS, I had a couple of interests contact me simaltaneously. I was very keen on both of them and though I would eventually choose one,(Hypocritical I know). When I found one of them online the next day, I was very jealous and accused him of being a cheater.He compared me to his ex. The confrontation turned into a nasty argument which led to the end of the relationship within 24 hours of our introduction,it was not all my fault but nevertheless I regret the incident and wish I could take it all back.I have since discovered that people come on here for other reasons other than dating,e.g for blogs and forums. I feel stupid

RE: signs u r falling deeply inlove

Thank you Laura, wish I could see your face to know who is being so kind to me...anyway I respect your choice.

RE: signs u r falling deeply inlove

I see you checked me out there Ocee...do you approve?:)

RE: signs u r falling deeply inlove

I see u checked me out there Ocee...do u approve? :)