Ah, what the heck. I'll take the general consensus of "good girl by day, bad girl by night" vote.
On the other hand, though, I really don't mind if she's a good girl in both. Just as long as she's not "bad" in the sense of romping around and whatnot.
I'm single mostly because I have yet to find a girl who's willing to stay with me, and not leave me for "something better" when it comes along (which, coincidentally enough, just happen to be ex-boyfriends that they were cheating on me with).
To be honest, what scares me more than anything else is the thought of opening up to someone.
It's strange, I know, but when I think about it...I've lived pretty much my entire life relying only on myself. But in a relationship, as it comes to be, I'm expected - no, obligated - to open up to this person, and rely on them for support.
It's not necessarily like it's a bad thing; in fact, it's a really good thing. But the thought of doing so still makes me hesitate at times, and as a result, I think I'll always be doomed to failure when it comes to completely opening up to someone, unless I've spent a lot of time with them.
Although my logic tells me not to jump into arguments where people bash each other, every time I see one on a scale that escalates steadily, I have to state a simple truth:
If everyone's so mad about him "bashing" others via insults and statements...then why return the favor by doing the same to him?
Speaking objectively, and with an open mind, stating that his words could be wrote as bot script, or calling him a "bad" guy simply for expressing his opinion - as rudely as that may be - simply proves that in trying to fight against his cruelty and rudeness, so to speak, the only thing that's being accomplished is that you're "falling to his level", using the phrase loosely.
It's an endless circle, when one person simply goes back and forth with another. All it accomplishes is bringing up anger, frustration, or even hate.
From the viewpoint "outside of the box", as it comes to be, I find it easier to simply ask a person nicely to avoid being "rude" or "obnoxious" (yet again, using the terms loosely), and simply moving on. Not to say that you shouldn't defend yourself if you're being called names or whatnot, but...to be honest, what does it matter?
In the end, when everything's said and done, the words he says - as well as the words said back at him - are simply nothing more than words on a white screen, on a forum that emphasises being nice.
From what I see, for example, on the left hand side of this text box that I'm writing in, there's a list of rules. Might I suggest that we all take a look at rule number #1?
Anyways, that's my two cents, and I'm terribly sorry if this offends anyone. I'm simply choosing to state a simple point.
As much as I'd like to say otherwise, I have to agree with the statement that for every one happy moment, I get ten sad ones. Speaking from personal experience, of course, but...
I dunno. In a way, I make my own happiness when I need it, and let the sorrow comfort me when I'm alone. It's complicated to explain. But I understand it, though. =3
But, like I said, sometimes it takes a keen eye to notice the "good ones" in terms of personality and character. A lot of the good ones, at least from what I've noticed, aren't the outspoken ones, and that makes them oh so much less noticed because of that.
Long distance relationships can be killer, sometimes, but the best thing to do would be to look to the future - plan events together, like meeting each other or whatnot. Keep the future in mind. That way, not only do you have something to really look forward to, but it keeps the relationship from appearing like there's no hope for it.
Being honest at all times is definitely necessary, as well. Trust is more valuable in a long-distance relationship, and even more important than a "normal" one, mainly because you two aren't around each other as much.
To be perfectly honest, whenever a date doesn't necessarily go as planned, I be as honest as possible, and as nice as possible.
For example, one date I went on was to a restaurant, and as her and I got to talking, it kind of progressed to where there were things about her that kinda creeped me out (long story).
So, I told her straight up - that she wasn't quite exactly what I was looking for in a relationship partner, and asked if she'd be happy just being friends, at least for awhile.
Exactly my viewpoint. Everyone has their own baggage, if they've been in a relationship. The key is in recognizing this "baggage", coping with it, and moving on.
Indeed. I personally have the habit of associating it more towards women than men, mostly 'cause a man's personality and character is easier to figure out, judging my opinion from experience. ^^;
Coincidentally enough, no matter where I sleep (whether it be a couch, bed, or whatever), I can't go to sleep unless I'm cuddling something. I don't know why (or, well, not EXACTLY, anyways), but I guess I kinda got so used to having my arms around something, that I just can't go to sleep anymore unless I am.
So, usually I grab a pillow and cling to it. XD Most of the time, I start out laying on my side, but I tend to move around a lot in my dreams, depending on what they might be (nightmares are troublesome...-.-"), so I wake up in any number of odd positions sometimes.
I'd have to agree with the personality aspect. People who have a hard time opening up to their significant other often has a hard time expressing their problems and whatnot, and while she's being all angsty, the guy's wondering what the heck's going on.
Of course, this is all HYPOTHETICAL...no real experience behind that...~shifty eyes~
^^ But yes, personality and character have a lot to do with whether or not people are clueless to each other, because it still boils down to communication (or lack of). At least, in my opinion.
@arabella - A lurker? Assuming that you mean that I was simply browsing until I joined, the answer is no. I joined yesterday, actually. But the stupid thing wouldn't let me post or send anything to anyone for twenty four hours, so.......I had to wait until I got on today to actually greet myself. ^^
And to everyone else that may have posted while I was writing this, hello! Thanks for the welcome!
Everyone cheer; someone else has decided to make themselves known. XD
Seriously, though. Being the new person in town, so to speak, I figured I might as well introduce myself, and say hello to everybody. ~waves enthusiastically~
I hope my goofiness doesn't become TOO much of a hassle around here. ^^;
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RE: quotes and proverbs
A more serious quote that I keep in mind when I go through life, no matter how hard it may be:"Hard things are put in our path not to stop us, but to call upon our courage and strength."