beautifulyou Forum Posts (57)

RE: 3 Words to Describe you !

Ethereal - Spiritual - Belgian

RE: What Should a Man Smell Like ?

I tend to like masculine scented natural oils.

I'm attracted to scents that are clean, fresh, but not too strong.
I can't deal with strong scents because well, they're simply too strong and can be highly distracting.

I don't care how good looking a guy is; if I have to appreciate his good looks from across a long hallway, or speak to him through a megaphone in order to stay at "odours length," the date is over before it began.. deal breakers for sure LOL!

So no, I wouldn't date someone who didn't take care of basic hygiene. It says a lot about someone who doesn't care for his own body. Having said that though, there are people who have serious difficulty controlling bad breath or body odour for a variety of reasons, yet while I most certainly have compassion for those folks, I'm not going to date them.

Seriously Sorry

RE: god fearing - why this question?

I think the statements "I'm God fearing" or "You must be God fearing"
are simply fear based statements, born out of dogma.

I do not fear God, nor will I ever.

Will I fear LOVE Itself?

Never.

RE: WhAT mOsT attract yOu IN mEn's OR wOMeN's face ?

Eyes and lips...

sorry, can't just choose one

RE: If you name your greatest motivation in life thus far, what will it be?

Hands downs...

Love.

RE: Being Taken for Granted or the Victim of Game Playing?

You share your thought that "she should tell me if she is no longer interested or if she has met someone else, etc. After all she is 34, she is not a child."

The river flows both ways. You are not a child either. You can choose, as an adult, to simply share with her that you notice a change, and ask what if anything that change means. Why would you decide to go against your own personality and become the "a**hole" if it's truly against your personality?

If you consider yourself the "victim" of game playing, then not responding if she decides to message you places you, in kind, as a "victimizer." If she is game playing, then just how different are the two of you anyway? The overall situation from my standpoint is not "pathetic" in and of itself; your active choice to not respond compromises who you say you are.

I also question that you are being taken advantage of. If you like someone and you demonstrate your affection by paying for things or giving gifts because "this is me and what I like to do" well then, do it freely! If you feel taken advantage of when you don't receive whatever you expect in return, then you have the
option to stop what you're doing; it may not really be "you" to give as you do. Or, perhaps it's important to ask yourself "why did I choose to get into a relationship whereby the kind of reciprocity I'm looking for isn't present?"

I don't think any of this is about the woman of your affection per se; ultimately, it's about you, and the decisions you're going to make about your behaviour as a way, perhaps, of defining who you really are.

I sincerely wish you the best.

RE: how many of u really miss IM on CS..

I'd appreciate an available IM system.

Without one, I think scammers have an easier reason/excuse for "requesting" your IM/e-mail information or for "offering" their own... not like they don't request and offer anyway lol..

Though I'm not big on IMing per se, it does have the advantage of being able to more readily communicate with those who do seem legit without giving out personal contact information until comfortable.. so to have the choice to IM would be nice, but I'm not holding my breath...

I'm surprised it's not yet available here, in light of the care given to warn people about safety/scammers ...

RE: burka

Why ask the men, and not the women? or both?

Or reverse the question...
Imagine if all the men (that would include YOU ) of the world HAD to wear the burka. What do you say women??

"Sorry," but seriously

RE: Ladies, Which one do you prefer ?

"Amen" Scubadiva sister!

OP, the question is black and white.
There's no shade of gray here.
Not fair!

RE: geting married august 11th

Awesome...

Congrats to you and the Love of your life!

RE: what does a Gal do?

venusenvy makes very good points Lulibella!

I'd say go with your "inner part" that's telling you to move on.. trust your instincts...you KNOW what to do... the hard part is doing it but once you do, you'll free yourself to be with someone who is truly available, to You!

Good luck hun!

RE: Please help me understand what I did wrong !

lifejoy, you share "I love him and its killing me."
I wonder: is your love for him killing you? or are you killing yourself to be loved?

I don't think you're being "stupid" yet I think it might help to reflect on your profound statement. I also wonder about the statement below...

"I realised a while ago what my mistakes are but I fell in love with someone he's not."

If you fell in love with someone he's not, did you fall in love with him per se, or the idea of being in a relationship with someone who could and would be your soul mate?

I'm truly sorry for the pain you've experienced. I think most of us have "been a fool for love" in one way or another at least once in our life time.

Don't beat yourself up over this, but perhaps, instead, redirect your love towards yourself and your children. Grieve what you must and then move on but do so with self compassion. We all make mistakes, and self compassion is what heals us, IMO.

I wish you the very best lifejoy.
I wish you LOVE!

RE: IM

"Someone asked this same question like a month ago and got no response. Everyone has started using Msn or yahoo messenger instead."

"I too miss the IM feature and I am not comfortable using my personal messenger"


I wish the IM would be up and running too.
I'm not comfortable using my personal IM
with strangers on-line, and so I don't...

To be honest, I'm surprised there has been
no response to the question given I've
never before been on a site that is so
seemingly protective of its members with
respect to scammers..

Oh well, Happy New Year to All, with or
without the IM up! LOLLL

RE: I Have had my heart broken so many times should i really try to get back in to dating

I tend to agree with the post strict made...
it might be helpful to speak to someone who can help you understand why this keeps happening "so many times."

It seems if you were truly ready to get back into dating you would just do it with no reservation.

Perhaps your heart is "asking you to slow down" and take a closer look at yourself, your circumstances, and how you seem to find yourself in relationships with the same end result.

I looked at your profile and it states you're separated. If you are still married, whatever the situation, it can make it difficult to move forward especially if the experience of this separation (and impending divorce?) is part of your heartbreak.

I just sense a lot of loss and grief. Maybe it's worth exploring why your broken heart is "crying," and what it's going to need to feel whole again...
Listen to your heart. Therein lies your ultimate truth & wisdom.

Love & Light to you.

RE: Why men don't call

Yep, no one wants to feel they are on a job interview instead of a date.


Good topic, until this was thrown in... lol!
Evan Marc Katz is an online dating coach, the CEO of profile writing service, E-Cyrano.com and the author of Why You’re Still Single: Things Your Friends Would Tell You If You Promised Not to Get Mad. He can be reached at .


Is he a friend, a brother or ?



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RE: what's your view on the planned burning of the koran in florida?

"Pastor" Terry Jones is not "a man of God" nor is any person who would participate in such an atrocity.

The idea of burning the Koran is one of complete hatred, ignorance, and fear. In this nation and elsewhere, many talk about the extremists and terrorists who are "out there."

Indeed, who are the extremists and terrorists? Where do they live? How are they dressed? What language do they speak? What religion do they practice?

I am sickened by this whole thing...

From today's NY Times "But American officials have said they could do little to prevent the congregation from exercising its constitutional right to free speech."

on "the freedom of speech" jargon! This act would be a hate crime if there ever was one! If my "freedom" is at someone else's expense, I am NOT free.

If "freedom" is at anyone's expense, who is truly free?

RE: Wow ! never expected to be in love again so soon .

Just what venere said!

to both of you!

RE: Do you think more people are killed by -

...by Structural Violence

RE: Thankyou C.S!!

That's wonderful news Sherry!

Love to you both

RE: ladies..would u ever smuck a man on the face?

Only in a dire circumstance, such as self defense etc.

Otherwise, no way!

RE: If someone asked you to jump off a bridge would you...

RE: If someone asked you to jump off a bridge would you...

Veritaas, that's hysterical

RE: Would anybody on this Site become a Nun or a Priest?

demonfairy

Indeed, nun means none, unless of course no one in the convent is looking

RE: It's Complicated...(constructive opinions greatly appreciated)

Excellent advice tb

RE: For The First Time In My Life, I'm In Love!!!

I'll ditto that! Congrats!

Hello CS Community ~

Hello everyone. Just got home from New York City.

Ty all for such warm and welcoming greetings!

Have family visiting for a few days, but soon enough I'll have a chance to join you here...



I won't say "stay outta trouble" ... I can see that is not going to happen

Hello CS Community ~

Just wanted to introduce myself and say hello to all!

I've been checking out the forums and can see there's a lively group of people posting, many with a great sense of humour

Hope to get to know you.

In the mean time, rock on people!