That half your age plus seven rule seems to work pretty well when it comes to older guys and younger girls, bizarre and all as it seems. It just works :)
where's the days / weeks / months option!? Just from reading this forum it seems that there are quite a few people knocking around here for a fairly long time. Is it really worth that?
I'm a big believer in offering whatever help I can to people and not looking for anything in return. I like to think that the person will go away and think about it and maybe do something good for somebody else. It infuriates my friends and family though!
I think we should all read up on it a bit more though, rather than coming to our own conclusions based on our gut instinct. There's lots of information out there.
Can you really say it did you no harm though? Ok, you didn't turn into a criminal, but maybe look at it the other way. Maybe you'd be a different, better, even more successful person than you are now if you weren't slapped. Is that possible, you may ask, but who knows how these things effect us? And, as you said, we're all so different, and there are so many variables, wouldn't it be better to err on the side of caution when disciplining a child. That slap you are about to mete out to a misbehaving child may set in train the sequence of events that leads him or her to becoming a tyranical despot of the future!
There really are so many variables that I doubt any of us here (unless we are qualified, experienced psychologists!!) are well equipped to answer definitively.
No, I wouldn't say I was an aggressive child. Fairly quiet, mild-mannered and sensitive if anything! I just wanted to read books and learn things. I was always like that, but as I got older I began to think of force as an option in far too many situations. When I was big enough to retaliate to my father, I did. I remember it well, and it killed me to do it. My dad wasn't a bad guy by any means, but his parents taught him that giving kids 'a clip in the ear' was ok, and he just carried that on when he was raising his own kids.
I guess there is no sure way of knowing, although thinking about it now, there must be reliable peer-reviewed academic studies on this kind of thing that are probably worth checking out.
Hate to generalise on the basis of nationality, but if you said I had three options - to date an irish, english or polish girl - and told me nothing else about them, I would probably go for the Polish one.
In reality a whole load of other things need to be taken into account. An Irish girl in Limerick would be more appealing than a Polish girl in Warsaw, for example. An Irish girl who was into fitness and looking after herself and who was educated and open minded is going to be a better bet than a Polish ultra-conservative Catholic who likes to eat in McDonalds.
I was slapped by my father, and the threat of it was always there if I stepped out of line. Generally, it would only happen if I was actually misbehaving. But this wasn't always the case. As I grew up, I thought of this as part and parcel of parenting, and subscribed to the 'a few slaps never did me any harm' philosophy. But I think that was a 'Stockholm Syndrome' kind of response. I noticed in my twenties that I was always quick tempered and prone to solving even minor problems with force. Others would be keen to walk away from a confrontation or use their brains to sort something out, but I was always first up throwing punches. This isn't right, and I think it comes from being constantly reminded as a kid that violence can be right sometimes. That's what slapping kids leads to. There's really no place for it in any civilised society. For me it took quite a few years to realise that and to undo the damage caused to me as a youngster.
Go for it. Age in itself shouldn't be too much of an issue. Cop-on, kindness, looks, good in bed, etc. should all be more relevant that age. Of course, many of those things are often linked to the guy's or girl's age, but that's beside the point.
I would say the ego-boost analysis is an accurate one! What's more, there's actually not that many people on this site. Not in the Limerick / Clare area anyway! Slim pickings and all that. Be thankful you are in a city with a large enough population. At least you have some kind of chance!
And both Fianna Fáil and Fine Gael were involved in their fair share of atrocities in their heyday too.
It's easy to attack Sinn Féin over their recent history, but few people seem to make a direct link between the current government and the thousands who die prematurely and needlessly on hospital beds while waiting for treatment, or on our dangerous roads, or who suffer as the victims of crime, or through mismanagement of our education system (20% of people leave school without being able to read or write, while many more have barely higher skills). All that and more should be layed at the door of government, but it rarely is.
the only problem with that way of thinking is that it's impossible to find experienced people in the various areas (finance, education, etc.) who don't have their own agendas.
For example, you might want an experienced teacher to be Minsiter for Education. We have had lots of those in the past, and what have they done? Well, they gave irish teachers the best working conditions and salaries in Europe. Good for the teachers, you might say, but not for the wider public who have to pay their extortionate wages.
We've had plenty of solicitors and barristers as Minsters for Justice, but all they have every done is brought in laws to make their solicitor and barrister buddies ultra-rich. The various tribunals are an example of this.
you're taking the piss, surely? Cowen could not have done a worse job. And more than that, he was the minister for finance after Charlie McCreevy and was responsible for many of the decisions that caused us to be in the mess we are in.
I am associated with no party, but I would vote for a maggot-infested carcass before I'd vote for Cowen or his Fianna Fáil party.
I would also have absolutely no objection to the bulk of the Fianna Fáil members of the cabinet being drgged out of government buildings and hung from the trees in Merrion Square. I sincerly mean that. They are pure, unadulterated scum and have betrayed their country to the extent that many will suffer (and die) needlessly because of their corruption.
The single most effective thing that could be done to save this country from a dire future is that the democracy we have be reformed such that the ignorant peasants who make up much of the Irish electorate would have a far lesser influence on who gets into government. But of course, it's a Catch 22 because it is up to the politicians to reform the democracy, and they are unlikely to want to do that as it serves them pretty well.
nobody so far has mentioned the girls height being an issue for a guy.
I wouldn't be very interested in anyone more than a few inches shorter than me, but unfortunately not many girls in Ireland are 5'9" or therabouts. Will just have to move to Sweden!
there are many, many disdvantages of online dating. In my experience, these are the main ones.
1. You can meet really great people, but they live far, far away. 2. People have a tendency to portray themselves as who they would like to be rather than who they are. 3. There is an unending potential to meet somebody perfect, so we tend to overlook people who don't seem quite that. It's the case in the 'real' world also, but it's something that is emphasised in the online dating world. Speaking from experiences, I've left many good girls go because there was the tantalising notion that I could do better, but there was little wrong with the girls I left go. 4. It encourages people to make judgements on others prematurely. If the profile or photo doesn't do it for us, we quickly move on, when there is every possibility the other person just hasn't come across as well as he/she would in a real life situation, and he or she may indeed be 'the one'.
It's a deeply flawed process, but there are advantages to go with every disadvantage.
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RE: Is it ok for a 26 yo fella to date a 19 yo girl
That half your age plus seven rule seems to work pretty well when it comes to older guys and younger girls, bizarre and all as it seems. It just works :)