ladyneda Forum Posts (80)

RE: Profile idiocies ...

Maybe they are just romantic.

I don't read what people wrote in their profiles any more. I did it the first time I came here and I remember I was laughing for 2 hours reading some funny things like 'I like to go out, but even if I go out my soul stays at home', etc.

Then I realized it's better to forget what people wrote about themselves and the person they are looking for and decided to read the right side only (height, age, etc.) and then to judge the person from his messages. It's silly to write about yourself and an 'ideal person' anyway.

RE: Multiculturalism has 'failed

English must be a compulsory subject in your schools. We have several compulsory subjects including Serbian (national language), maths and English and everyone has to study these from the beginning of the primary school until the end of the secondary school. It doesn't mean that everyone learns English well or that everyone is good at maths, but you'll certainly learn SOMETHING. And everybody knows that you cannot do anything any more without English. I guess we'll all become bilingual in the next decades.

RE: Multiculturalism has 'failed

English is already a compulsory subject in our primary and secondary schools. I guess it's the same everywhere in Europe.

RE: Multiculturalism has 'failed

National, racial and cultural identities are the very base of one's personal identity and most people are very sensitive about that part of themselves. Some more, others less. People later 'upgrade' the base of their identity through individual characteristics: personality, interests, occupation, education, etc.

The language is a very important part of the national identity. When the language dies (and that happens almost every day somewhere on our planet) that means that there are no living people who speaks it and it means that the whole nation (tribe, whatever) and their culture, customs - disappeared.

The fear of multiculturalism is the fear of 'losing oneself'. It's much easier to live and feel comfortable in homogeneous cultures, where all people belong to the same race, nation, speak the same language, share customs and beliefs than to make compromises and adapt to many different people while trying to stay 'what you are'. It's easy to get scared and to start looking at others as a threat in such situations.

Multiculturalism is a very delicate matter and if forced it can bring opposite effects. I truly believe that one day this planet will be one happy family (like in 'Star Trek' ), but not today. It's a little early for that.

RE: you have met someone and you are falling in love,what is the most romantic thing you would do?

Who wouldn't?

Great photos.

I would seduce him, have fun in bed all night and tell him that he's great and fun and interesting and ... (depends on the man) and makes me happy. I cannot think of anything more romantic. I guess I'm not the best choice for a very romantic and sensitive man...

RE: Survival of the fittest

If you don't know anything about surviving and you rely on machines - one day you stay out of them - and you know nothing! I think it will happen to human race one day. We'll become completely unable to survive without technology and we'll know nothing about surviving on our own.

Btw, I kept an old telephone in my house that works even when the electricity is gone. That's a good idea for a start.

RE: What would you prefer? Knowing someone first, then fall in love? Or a love at first sight?

I completely agree with you.

I've read so many books about psychology and there are so many 'proper' thinking and 'proper' living and 'proper' pieces of advice and one day I got tired of all of that and realized: I just want to be happy. I don't care if I'm not 'proper' at all.

RE: What would you prefer? Knowing someone first, then fall in love? Or a love at first sight?

I cannot fall in love with someone I know. 'Falling in love' happens to me because I idealize someone I DON'T know well and when I really know him - I either start to love him or I don't. But that doesn't mean that I have to be in love to start a relationship. Sometimes it's enough if I like him.

RE: Survival of the fittest

Been there... done that...

I think that you cannot be ready for something like that unless you're very rich and have money in several foreign banks and houses in several 'neutral' countries. Everyone can lose everything in just a moment and it's a little scary when a person realises that security is an illusion.

Such experiences change you forever and not in a nice way. When something like that happens you step out from a civilized world and step into a wild world and if you want to survive, you have either to fight or to adapt to rough circumstances. You have to develop new skills - for surviving.

Anyway, it's a good opportunity to explore 'human nature'. You never know what a human is unless you see him in extreme situations...

Nowadays people take many things for granted and they shouldn't. But most people don't think about this type of possible problems until they happen and then it's usually too late.

Can you imagine someone who works at the computer (for example an IT job) and cannot imagine his life without it and - there's no electricity any more. Scary, isn't it?

Anyway, a human is a very adaptable animal.

RE: 3 Steps to Freedom

Here too.

And I caught a terrible cold.

I'll be free when I get better, now I'm in prison on CS.

RE: Does anyone cook anymore?

I'm too lazy to cook, but decided to give it much more attention in the next few months. Otherwise I'll never get a decent husband.

RE: What are your thoughts on Christianity?

Old Chinese used to say: 'Faith is a matter of personal choice. Philosophy is a duty of every educated man.'

RE: What are your thoughts on Christianity?

I'm Orthodox Christian in origin, but I don't find Christian religion very familiar. I respect it, of course, as any other, but I don't believe in it. It's a little too naive for my taste. But I understand why it gives people stability and it's interesting to observe how Christian belief affected European way of thinking and the way we see and experience life and 'reality'.

RE: Is It Possible To Fall In Love With A Fictional Character?

Sure! We do that as teenagers all the time.

And sometimes we do that as grown ups to - when we fall in love with a person from the internet we have never met.

RE: Views by many times everyday but...

You can always send them a message or a flower with a short note. If they reply - great. If they don't - forget them.

RE: ladies,would you keep a mouse as a pet?

Mice are cute, but I already have a cat, so...

RE: Women, you say you hate games, but you love to test us.

No one behaves that way if he/she is afraid of losing someone. No one would put him/herself in such a situation if he/she really values the relationship with another person. People take care of valuable things (and people).

I think you care for her much more than she cares for you. She just doesn't like/love you enough.

You can sit and wait and be 'the second best', but if you really want to be loved and wanted - I think you should look for someone else. She can keep on behaving that way for months and years, giving you false hopes and hoping she'll meet 'someone better' in the meantime. In the end you might be together again, but you should reconsider if it's really worth waiting.

RE: do women look for a man with a great mind, or a great tall muscle bound body

We can never be liked by everyone. And if we keep on liking people that don't like us - then we must change something - either ourselves or our criteria.

Thanks.

RE: do women look for a man with a great mind, or a great tall muscle bound body

You shouldn't worry, because you look just fine. :)

Btw, I like when a man isn't tiny and thin and short. I like to feel protected when he hugs me.

RE: If u have chance u wishes come true...

... eternal youth :)