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Will be obliged if someone could post this song for me please.

TIA

How do you respect somebody who does not respect themselves; therefore, making it likely they do not respect others.

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My first suspicion, ...help them past that harsh self-inner voice would be a good start. As just read about...this voice is most likely developed from childhood and is most likely not even relevant in adulthood...but it is still something that needs to be addressed in adulthood.


It is a vicious cycle...one feeding the other....making things internally darker in the suffering mind.

By the way...this is a real experience I am tending with as I type this. It is emotionally painful....especially when it is a person that is very close. Something tells me...a lot of this is going on given the recent climate of society and Covid.

Holy Grail noun

Definition of Holy Grail

1: GRAIL

2. often not capitalized : an object or goal that is sought after for its great significance
Examples of Holy Grail in a Sentence
Finding a cure for cancer is the holy grail of medical researchers.


I read so many self help books in my life that I read out, probably a better word for that; some were betters than others, some i might have learned a little from. But none of them had "the answers", they might have the authors answers, but if you didn't have the same experiences as the author you could only learn what you were ready to learn. One of my first books i read in my young twenties was the Art of Loving by Eric Fromm. I struggled with that one a bit, but at least some of it appealed to me and made sense. I believe my Holy grail was something i hadn't know in my younger years, Love. Another self help book I recall i read later on but i don't recall the author was "Love Is All that's Real." That was a much easier read for me at that time, and i had a much better understanding of what the author was saying. At one point i was tired of reading them, maybe i realized i wasn't going to get my answers from a book, you learn love by loving...i thought so anyway...still i hope there's a light...a transformation from awareness. I haven't found my grail yet...Just to Love and be Loved in Return.

This is what happens when you take social distancing way too far.
In compliance, somebody wasn't thinking this matter all the way through.
They sure-did put their mark this bench to comply with social distancing.
It's TOTALLY USELESS now.

It's in front of a grocery store and a few steps away from where they spray carts with chemical sanitizer. I'm thinking maybe they could have peeled back a portion of the screening so the bench could be used by one person and spray it a few times a day.

From time-to-time people ignore the orange mesh and use the bench sitting one at each end.

35 years ago I worked for a high-end custom cabinet shop and the owner had a sterling reputation to his clients. His relationship to the employees was very different. But... one thing I learned from him was not to use the word hate. He said it was the 'end all' and there is no way coming back from using it... especially if it pertains to a relationship, business or personal.

That said, I disliked working there. His expectations from everyone he employed was often unfair, even when they did a good job.
Our biggest disagreement was his method for calculating the amount of time allocated for a cabinetmaker to work on a project. He used a 'man days' formula that was strictly by the sales price and not by the difficulty of what was sold.

A lacquered wall unit could take a few days to build, then go to the finishing department to be stained and painted.
If it was a mica unit, the cabinet maker would need nearly the same time to cut and build but the laminating didn't go to another department. It was the job of the cabinetmaker to do all the laminating and assembly. More work (for the cabinetmaker) than a painted product.

Two totally different procedures but the boss used the same calculations in the time needed to build the furniture.

I was in charge of production scheduling using his formulas and suggested we use different formulas for wood cabinetry and mica cabinetry. It was as though he wanted the guys making mica furniture to fail as no one could achieve the time schedules imposed on them.

We would give a cabinetmaker drawings of what was needed and how much time allocated to do the work. Depending how desperate they were for a job, many would pack their tools and leave.

Putting an ad in the paper for a cabinetmaker was a joke as he probably employed everyone in the county at one time or another. He had quite a reputation for having a bad company to work for.

Hurricane Andrew struck and the area was without power for nearly 2 weeks. The owner demanded I work outside in the sun, so I took a portable drafting board and folding table and set up in the parking lot making shop drawings for the upcoming orders.

I stayed until a door of opportunity opened and I moved on.
Often when asked who some of my previous jobs were I mentioned that place and so many knew how bad it was there.

While I wanted to say I hated working there, I always said, I disliked it.

... In the US Federal and some individual US States, seat warming "employees" are now being required to spend time in seminars, so they can try to behave, and thereby magically become, less White.
Gone is the arrogance, respect for hard work in school and on the job, reliance on fact based critical argument, and all the sordid rest of it. Pupils can now stop ackin' White, ditch the proto gang banger threads, and get down to real academic achievement. And now this Third Reich mindset is moving into some corporate culture. Coca Cola, thankfully, is reportedly doing so. Many others are on the Apartheid band wagon. Public schools, universities. And more.
And Robin DiAngelo's ("White Fragility"-see it at your liberal public library, don't make her any more rich), 50 minute on line self-learning program on this important topic, no doubt will advance the demise of the human scourge of prejudging others, on the basis of skin color.
Well, all I can say is, it's about time. But why spend so much time in self critical self study? For a few bucks, we hopelessly melanin challenged Hupersons, can apply skin creams to darken the skin, just as Michael Jackson used the opposite potions to look less Negro. Not to mention the botched repeat rhinoplasty.
No more hair straitening. Gold teeth. What a release from bondage. Wealthy successful Black men can now look for non White spouses. Or at least abandon the search for a hottie near White Lady Octadroon.
See, all. I now am finding valid reasons to stop regretting the stolen, VERY stolen, erection. As should we all.

Following my footsteps in reverse I journey to search for the dreams in which will guide me forward, onward down the path which is mine in truth. As doubt fills my mind, laughter fills my heart, and so forth joy spills from my soul. I linger for safety, for comfort in the thorns, though they may be, filled with angry storms. As an old friend warns, not to seek that which the dreams, fail to speak. For the temptations draw in the weak, with short lived pleasures and negative after effects, simply to deceive & misguide from the honest vibration inside. As a saw guides itself deeper into its target goal, so must I, dive deeper into my soul. Answers clear of bias are found nowhere outside the questioning mind, the most complete perspective is within the inner multiverse, for it is comprised of all the facets of the self, simultaneously.

Let It Sink Into Your Consciousness - Those Worries Will Melt Away Like Fog In Noonday Sun ...

Enjoy, Y'all!!

sure emits depth of behaviors, as the vast ones (daily, hourly or round the clock are OCD based). OCD is sure a venue to avoid. Hey so it is written, an so it is still taught. Have at it OCD"rs an enjoy bIDEN off more than yu can chew.

...God, that wavering southern female drawl must drive men wild during pillow talk. But I digress.
Sure, these high flying lawyers do sometimes stick necks out, in support of a losing cause. Especially if somewhere down the road they see professional advantage, and Mr. Green. Lots of Mr. G.
But her allegations were so devastating, specific and internally mutually supportive, that to falsely chirp away in these regards, would be professional suicide. These folks don't play that game.

Now let's allow the rest of their work to proceed, for which plenty of time exists, and the final adjudication of the SCOTUS. Remedies may then follow, but which ones?