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There are people who masquerade as healers and profess to have the ability to change a person's life for the better, as long as they follow their instructions. This is just another method of exerting control over vulnerable individuals, and establishing a regime of power to satisfy the purveyors need to dominate. These power seekers can be found acting independently or in religious cults. Don't be fooled by their willingness to help, or stories of successful outcomes. It is all a confidence trick. Your mind belongs to you. Don't let anyone try to interfere with it. Most problems can be solved by taking the time to reflect on issues and deciding the correct course of action. You will then have the satisfaction of resolving matters yourself.

Psychological abuse, often called emotional abuse, is a form of abuse characterized by a person subjecting or exposing another person to a behaviour that may result in psychological trauma, including anxiety, chronic depression, or post-traumatic stress disorder...
It is often associated with situations of power imbalance in abusive relationships, and may include bullying, gaslighting, and abuse in the workplace.It also may be perpetrated by persons conducting torture, other violence, acute or prolonged human rights abuse, particularly without legal redress such as detention without trial, false accusations, false convictions, and extreme defamation such as where perpetrated by state and media.

General definition

Clinicians and researchers have offered different definitions of psychological abuse.....According to current research the terms "psychological abuse" and "emotional abuse" can be used interchangeably, unless associated with psychological violence
More specifically, "emotional abuse is any kind of abuse that is emotional rather than physical in nature. It can include anything from verbal abuse and constant criticism to more subtle tactics such as intimidation, manipulation, and refusal to ever be pleased. This abuse occurs when someone says words or does actions used to try and control the other person, to keep the other afraid and instill fear that, or kept apart from others or try to break someone’s self-esteem of themselves.
Emotional abuse can take several forms. Three general patterns of abusive behavior include aggressing, denying, and minimizing"; "Withholding is another form of denying. Withholding includes refusing to listen, refusing to communicate, and emotionally withdrawing as punishment."..
Even though there is no established definition for emotional abuse, emotional abuse can possess a definition beyond verbal and psychological abuse.

Blaming, shaming, and name calling are a few verbally abusive behaviors which can affect a victim emotionally. The victim's self-worth and emotional well-being are altered and even diminished by the verbal abuse, resulting in an emotionally-abused victim.

The victim may experience severe psychological effects. This would involve the tactics of brainwashing, which can fall under psychological abuse as well, but emotional abuse consists of the manipulation of the victim's emotions. The victim may feel their emotions are being affected by the abuser to such an extent that the victim may no longer recognize their own feelings regarding the issues the abuser is trying to control. The result is the victim's self-concept and independence are systematically taken away.

The U.S. Department of Justice defines emotionally abusive traits as including causing fear by: intimidation, threatening physical harm to self, partner, children, or partner's family or friends, destruction of pets and property, forcing isolation from family, friends, or school or work. More subtle emotionally abusive behaviors include insults, putdowns, arbitrary and unpredictable behavior, and gaslighting (e.g. the denial that previous abusive incidents occurred). Modern technology has led to new forms of abuse, by text messaging and online cyber-bullying....

to be continued...

My thoughts of today: For my children: Karen, Krystynn, Camille and Sonny


when you are bled to death and the last drop of that blood seems to last forever, you then turn around and say: it isn't my time just yet, I still have a lot of mountains to climb
a bunch of beautiful flowers to witness to bloom
furious and perilous rivers to cross
wild and vast oceans to navigate
gales and winds to test your strength
but none so like that of raising children
who gave you great and lovely grand children
to run around with until you are all drained
of temporary but recurrent energy
to laugh and scream with joys until your belly explodes
to roll your eyes with when they ask you direct and very unadulterated questions
to lack the time to think knowingly so that you have lost the knack of strong and positive opinions
which was your forte of decades ago
and yes, you come to terms that with each day
you don't have to let anyone bleeds you because
life is: beautiful yet challenging
disappointing at times yet comforting
but most of all, nothing can equal your pride
of knowing that you have these creations
around you, with you and in front of you
saying in unison: Mom and Dad, thank you for
all the love you have given us, and now we give it to our children
hoping they would to their children and goes on and on
Forever.

And the good thing is: we can all do it, regardless of colors, beliefs and ways of life. Yes, we can all do it. with million more of years to come sustained by this old but only earth we know, we can all do it. Perhaps not of the same intensity but in our own individual ways, we can.

So let us love one another and stop calling on to bleed anyone for we are all children of this world, no more no less.

I love you all.




Note: my acknowledgement of the fact that life has to be sorted out not with violence but with an overwhelming effort to spread love even to those who seems cold about it.

Hello. I really hope you enjoy reading this.
Beautiful rule:
,,It is unforgivable to attack something if you don't know anything about it.''

You can't attack a women, men or children,or something else, because you don't want to know the real truth. Because you are blind to see deeper at the situation.
Remember that: ,,a question is the best medicament for ignorance''.

Don't be shy or afraid to ask what you dont know.
And now, 3 steps to better communication between people:
1. Reasearch about something if you want to know for real,2. Why is something so, 3. How can I help to make it better and beautiful, or more beautiful.
For free, from me. Only from a beautiful person you become beautiful things, ;) <3 :*:*:*

Eliminate the Unnecessary

"The ability to simplify means to eliminate the unnecessary so that the necessary may speak." - Hans Hofmann




Today's Positive Affirmation:

I willingly release the unnecessary from my life.

Because we don’t know how to handle negativity. We can identify it. But we don’t handle it well. And continually striving for ultimate satisfaction with
abandon and disregard of the reality of what that will entail leaves us inevitably and ultimately disappointed.

Because we struggle to see a hard time or negative feeling as a natural process that doesn’t necessarily detract from our overall satisfaction, but meaning allows us to. If we’re gauging by only happiness however, every negative feeling is a strike against our overall fulfillment, so to say.

Working for meaning as opposed to happiness keeps us aware of the fact that having and processing different emotions isn’t just normal, it’s healthy. It keeps us in tune with the fact that great things do indeed usually require some suffering, and that our lives wouldn’t be what they are
without that...
#Jt

You never meet the right people at the wrong time because the right people are timeless. The right people make you want to throw away the plans you originally had for one and follow them into the hazy, unknown future without a glance backwards.

The right people don’t make you hmm and haw about whether or not you want to be with them; you just know. You know that any adventure you had originally planned out for your future isn’t going to be half as incredible as the adventures you could have by their side.

That no matter what you thought you wanted before, this is better. Everything is better since they came along.
#Jt

I can't stay in a relationship
where there is no love, and it
isn't fair to you to be stuck in a
relationship that's a lie. I hope
that you're able to move on, and
meet someone who will love you
the way you deserve to be loved.

Don't live in the past. You might
miss the great things happening
in your present.

Sometimes I feel like I should be a bit bad, as being too nice has always put me in trouble. Is it good to be bad sometimes ?