what i have learned though.... is that it's my ego that judges because my ego LOVES TO BE RIGHT. my ego finds some kind of pseudo safety in being rightness. but here's the glitch...in all that rightness, i don't actually feel love or acceptance.
so while i'm in this middle place, when i see myself judging someone, i remind myself that we are all mirrors for each other and i apply that judgement to myself for understanding, and then practice some self acceptance to let it go. when i accept myself, i am more able to accept others. i think we all want to be loved unconditionally.
weeelll..... there's my morning cup of coffee thoughts....
i'm an aries, and having dated a libra, a couple times in the way back machine...i wouldn't do it again.
my best experience has been with a Taurus. (and works really well when i listen.... )
i don't know what time i was born, so my knowledge on my own sign is limited. an while i certainly have aries characteristics...i feel more pisces than aries. my closest friend (of over 36 years) is a Cancer. My two other closest friends are Scorpio and Aquarius.
.... i love the "i am not a good singer, but i sing really loud."
thank you for the big smile on my face. i love enthusiasm and being genuine to oneself.
ps.. i don't sing any karaoke; i''m waaayyy toooo shy. so i really do applaud you. having said that, i'm great support and i can table dance with the best of them...
my feline would tell you that i'm adorable, affectionate, responsible, and have the best cat treats....ever!
She would tell you i am her favourite companion and friend. As far as lovers...it's not that kind of love.....
She would also tell you that she appreciates that her litter box is cleaned every day. She might even brag that she gets to sit in my chair, in the sun, and i don't move her (which means picking cat hair outta the artwork....). she's quite articular in her needs and wants, and has no comment on the human race in general as she doesn't generalize, and her experience is limited to her own indoors.
respectfully, i read previous comments in this forum, and ...well.....sometimes it's difficult to get a 'real' sense of tone to a comment, so then i read your profile and something i noticed...
your profile states, "to have who or what you seek you must be willing to give what you seek".
your match requirement states, "I prefer someone not so critical of how people should be".
this 'lake effect' thing has taken on a whole new meaning for me....
2i,
incase no one has told you lately, you're one of the nicest folks i have ever met. i admire how you see the kindness in others, and your ability to walk away from negativity. and with a wicked sense of humour, too. you are such a lovely juxtaposition of 'naughty and nice'.
long ago, i used to work as a therapist...and one of my clients was from Newfoundland. between the accent and some of her expressions...i simply could not contain my laughter one time. (it's not good when the therapist laughs at you.... )
there are even animals that eat/drink fermented fruit. i suspect we'll never really know. but someone had the idea to purposely ferment fruit. some folks believe the desire for fermented grain is what led to organized agriculture.
things i like about kaybee.... keen wit, sense of humour, loving kindness, elegant style, honesty, acceptance, and an open and curious mind....willing to add new experiences
while you can keep your thoughts here (as you do) perhaps a journal would facilitate having the ability to sketch out some of your ideas, as well as writing?
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RE: Judging.
i judge, and i'm not really sure how to stop.what i have learned though....
is that it's my ego that judges because my ego LOVES TO BE RIGHT. my ego finds some kind of pseudo safety in being rightness. but here's the glitch...in all that rightness, i don't actually feel love or acceptance.
so while i'm in this middle place, when i see myself judging someone, i remind myself that we are all mirrors for each other and i apply that judgement to myself for understanding, and then practice some self acceptance to let it go. when i accept myself, i am more able to accept others. i think we all want to be loved unconditionally.
weeelll..... there's my morning cup of coffee thoughts....