“Friendship is the purest love. It is the highest form of Love where nothing is asked for, no condition, where one simply enjoys giving.”
Not a single person is born in the world who has not a certain capacity which will make him" proud,
who is not pregnant with something to produce, to give birth to something new and beautiful,
to make the existence richer.There is not a single person who has come into the world empty...
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Love is a mirror. A real relationship is a mirror in which two lovers see each other's faces....
You just change yourself, you are the world...
~ OSHO ~owlsway~
Don't walk behind me; I may not lead. Don't walk in front of me; I may not follow. Just walk beside me and be my friend.
Don't mistake friendship for love or love for friendship
Friendship is friendship and Love is love
Though there is love in friendship
And friendship in love.
Wanted : A connection of the mind....Ich suche einen Woman fürs leben
This is one of the fundamental problems of love. Every lover has to learn it, nobody knows it by birth. It only comes slowly slowly and through much pain, but the sooner it comes, the better -- that each person needs his or her own space, that we should not interfere in that space. To interfere is very natural for lovers, because they start taking the other for granted. They start thinking that they are no more separate. They don't think of 'I' and 'thou'; they start thinking of 'we'. You are that too, but only once in a while.
'We' is a rare phenomenon. Once, for a few moments, lovers come to that point where the word is meaningful, where you can say 'we', when 'I' and 'thou' disappear into each other, where boundaries overlap. But these are rare moments; they should not be taken for granted. You cannot remain 'we' twenty-four hours a day, but that's what every lover demands -- and that creates unnecessary misery. When you come close once in a while you become one, but those are rare moments, precious, to be cherished, and you cannot make them a twenty-four-hour thing.
If you try, you will destroy them; then the whole beauty will be lost. When that moment is gone, it is gone; you are again 'I' and 'thou'. You have your space, she has her space. And one has to be respectful now, that the other's space should not be in any way interfered with; it should not be trespassed. If you trespass it, you hurt the other; you start destroying the other's individuality. And because the other loves you, she or he will go on tolerating it.
But toleration is one thing; it is not something very beautiful. If the other is only tolerating it, then sooner or later the other will take revenge. The other cannot forgive you and it goes on accumulating -- one day, another day, another day.... You have interfered with a thousand and one things, then they all pile up, and then one day they explode. That's why lovers go on fighting. That fight is because of this constant interference. And when you interfere in her being, she tries to interfere in your being, and nobody feels good about it.
For example, she is feeling happy and you will feel left alone because you are not feeling happy. You will feel as if you have been cheated. 'Why is she feeling happy?' You should both feel happy -- that is your idea. That happens once in a while. But sometimes it happens that she is happy, you are not happy or you are happy and she is not happy. We have to understand it, that the other has every right to be happy without one... even though it hurts. You would like to participate but you are not in the mood.
If you insist, all that you can do is: you can destroy her happiness... and you are both losers in that way, because if you destroy her happiness, when you are happy alone she will destroy your happiness. Slowly slowly, rather than becoming friends, we turn into enemies. The basic requirement is: the other has to be given absolute freedom to be herself. If she is happy, feel good -- she is happy; if you can be happy and participate in her happiness, good.
If you cannot, leave her alone. If she is sad, if you can participate in her sadness, good. If you cannot participate and you want to sing a song and you are feeling happy, leave her alone. Don't drag her according to you; leave her to herself. Then slowly slowly a great respect arises for each other. That respect becomes the foundation of the temple of love.
"Existence is abundant -- millions and millions of flowers, millions of birds, millions of animals -- everything in abundance. Nature is not ascetic, it is dancing everywhere -- in the ocean, in the trees. It is singing everywhere -- in the wind passing through the pine trees, in the birds.... What is the need of millions of solar systems, of each solar system having millions of stars? There seems to be no need, except that abundance is the very nature of existence; that richness is the very core; that existence does not believe in poverty."
"Only those people who are capable of being alone are capable of love, of sharing, of going into the deepest core into the other person -- without possessing the other, without becoming dependent on the other, without creating "the other," reducing the other into a thing, and without becoming addicted with the other. They allow the other absolute freedom, because they know if the other leaves, they will be as happy as they are now. Their happiness cannot be taken by the other, because it is not given by the other."
Shhhh !! Let me tell you a little secret today. You are an angel sent by God. You are his most beautiful creation. Your exuberance sprinkles sunshine on people around you. You can create and nurture life. You have the power to endure pain and the courage to sacrifice. You are an epitome of love and sacrifice. You are a pillar of strength for your family. You are affectionate, loving and compassionate. You are loved and cherished by your friends. You are gorgeous , ravishing and utterly desirable.You have the most beautiful and infectious smile and people out there can’t stop thinking about you. You are a beautiful woman. Don’t ever believe differently...osho musafir,,,with Beloved ? ? ?
"Our thoughts and actions seem insignificant, but like the impact of a drop of water into a pond, they create concentric circles of waves that ripple outward into the world. Everything we think and feel and do touches those around us and their reactions in turn affect everyone else.” –-- owlsway---
Science is knowledge. Religion is not knowledge. Religion is love. The word ‘religion’ comes from a root which means binding together — falling into love, becoming one.
When a religion has lost the capacity to dance, to celebrate, to sing, to love, just to be, then it is no more religion — it is a corpse, it is theology. Theology is dead religion.
Religion makes no effort to explain life. It tries to live it. Religion does not take life as a problem to be solved — it takes life as a mystery to be lived. Religion is not curious about life. Religion is in awe, in tremendous wonder about life.
Religion is not based on belief or faith: religion is based on awe, religion is based on wonder. Religion is based on the mysterious that is your surround. To feel it, to be aware of it, to see it, open your eyes and drop the dust of the ages. Clean your mirror! and see what beauty surrounds you, what tremendous grandeur goes on knocking at your doors. Why are you sitting with closed eyes? Why are you sitting with such long faces? Why can’t you dance? and why can’t you laugh?
Shhhh !! Let me tell you a little secret today. You are an angel sent by God. You are his most beautiful creation. Your exuberance sprinkles sunshine on people around you. You can create and nurture life. You have the power to endure pain and the courage to sacrifice. You are an epitome of love and sacrifice. You are a pillar of strength for your family. You are affectionate, loving and compassionate. You are loved and cherished by your friends. You are gorgeous , ravishing and utterly desirable.You have the most beautiful and infectious smile and people out there can’t stop thinking about you. You are a beautiful woman. Don’t ever believe differently...osho musafir,,,with Beloved ? ? ?
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