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In another place it says: "In the paths of he wicked lie thorns and snares, but he who guards his soul stays far from them (Proverbs 22:5). 
When your heart is right, your sense of well-being, or happiness, will grow. So to increase your happiness, take a look at the ways you are or not guarding your heart. 
Are you allowing someone to steal your happiness?" Is there a person or persons who are able to manipulate you or "make you feel bad?" Is there someone who is actively hurting you in some way? If so, get back in control by not allowing that person or persons to affect you in hurtful ways. Note the way that David, in the Psalms, listed his boundaries, referring to the kinds of behavior he would not put up with: 
But he said that getting over failure was one of the most important lessons a leader could learn.
If he had generalized from there, he never would have become prime minister. 
But unhappy people tend to block out the positive of many situations and see only the negative- about themselves, about others, and about experiences.
Happy people do not allow the negative to ruin things for them. They see the cons of situations, but they are able to still love and value the positive aspects. They do not allow the imperfections to ruin things for them. Happy people are not perfectionists who cannot enjoy anything that is less than perfect. Happy people are the ones who are happy even when there are flaws, missteps, and mistakes.
The party can still be wonderful for their children even if they don't like the teacher or the soccer coach. Do not let little things that will always be there ruin the experience for you. 
Take all your thoughts captive (2 Corinthians 10:5) and "think well." 
They are always reading the latest about what is sexy, beautiful, or stylish, and then they feel they are worthless because they do not look like the latest model on the cover of some magazine. They cannot even enjoy themselves as they are always second-guessing their style or status in relation to others. 
It has more to do with her personhood, energy, and personality. 
It has to do with how much she is being "her" and not someone else. Women who are comfortable with themselves are way more attractive to men than the ones who are trying to be like someone in a magazine. If he is confident, pursues her without fear, takes initiative in taking care of her needs, and is secure in himself, he will be very attractive to a woman. 
And note to men: if she needs the biggest house on the block or the red Ferrari, he should run the other way. Lol. 
And that is what is meant by "pushing the wrong button." While most of what we need to feel better is readily available to us, we often don't know where to find the correct buttons, and we continue to look to the wrong buttons and hope they will work. 
As you become more of who you were created to be, inside and out, you become more attractive. However, a common mistake is made when people do not realize the attractiveness of their personhood and instead focus only on the outside. 
put you way ahead of the crowd. And, get in shape, for a spare tire never turned any heads. But get in shape inside- be strong and compassionate. Learn how to listen, but don't be such a softy that she feels as if she can control you. That is death to passion for a healthy woman. She wants someone, as I hear often, who "won't let me get away with things."
and are subtle. Some are dry, and some are comedic.
It comes from inside you and what you see as funny.
Attraction research shows that a sense of humor is always way up there as an important quality. And, remember, bad habits and anxiety quirks are always a turn off. So, work those out somewhere. Would you want the person of your dreams wanting anyone less than quality? You don't want to be a ministry outreach for them! You want to be someone they feel as though they won the lottery to be out with. And to do that, you don't have to have surgery or put on a fake show. You just have to be healthy, strong, warm-hearted, open, and fulfilled in life. That will come through, and it is very sexy.
Just as you are- not perfect, but juicy and real. He or she won't ever see you because the real you will be hidden by anxiety, performance issues, fears of rejection, narcissism, hiding, and defenses- all of the things we call insecurity. If you feel you are not good enough, you won't be. Not because you aren't but because you don't feel as if you are, and you show it. You can be known in your hurts and your failures. Then you would be loved as you are, and you would have nothing left to prove. You could "take off the fig leaf" and stop hiding. Then there would be a lot to be attracted to. Those parts would be real, touchable, able to be experienced, sexy, juicy, life-giving, interesting, and all of the other real things God has placed inside every human soul, if they can be seen by others. She thought it was okay for her to have requirements on what she was looking for, but that if anyone else had requirements, they violated unconditional love. What a double standard, and also what a fantasy!
But at the end of the first year, things change. Parents begin to put boundaries on their behavior. They are required to meet standards and expectations. Some things are met with approval and other things are not. Life is not so "unconditional" as they were born.This is a list of serendipity615's Blogs. Click here for serendipity615's Blog List