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The Joys Of Being Single and the reasons

Here are a few reasons why a woman like me are single (and this is just me – please don’t assume that all women are single for these reasons).

1. I Am Tired – tired of taking care of everybody else but myself. Men my age and older may be established in a career and in life, but they want to be cared for – and I don’t blame them! I want the same thing, however, too much neediness and red flags and I’m hitting the road of single life quite fast.

2. Some Men Are Scared Of Me – and I am only 5’2”! They would never admit it, but there is something in a man’s body language and eyes that screams out his insecurities when he meets a “girl” like me. It’s in the way he fumbles with his words, his uncertainty of what to say or how to act around me and I can sense it. I can sense it from ten miles away. I still admire him and enjoy his company, but sometimes, it takes too long for him to warm up and I am traveling the road of single life once again.

3. I Am Honest – and I mean really honest. I speak my truth and I reveal my feelings honestly and openly no matter how long I have known someone. This is because I don’t want to carry that baggage around with me all day or in my relationships. I need a man that can handle this, respect me and know that my feelings are not his responsibility to fix. All he needs to do is listen, reflect and figure out if he can love me deeply enough to create space for me to feel free to do this.

4. I Love Sex – with the right person. I write about sex and the importance of getting to know your va*ina, so yeah – I have no problem talking about sex. This doesn’t mean I sleep around or will expose my s*xual side with just anyone. A man has to earn his right into my pants and my soul. Sadly, not all men know this. They misunderstand a “girl” like me to be easy and will give away my body to them with making minimal to no effort.

5. I Walk The Talk – of health and everything else that is going to make me a better person. This also means that, when I say I am going to do something, it means there is a 95% chance that I am going to do it. My boyfriend is going to have to be okay with this and handle my BIG dreams and aspirations for myself, love and support me and not think I am crazy for wanting to live my dreams.
6. I Want To Be Seen – seen by a lover, a boyfriend or a friend. I want the people that I surround myself with to enjoy my company and appreciate me for who I am and not who they want me to be. I want to be seen with my boyfriend and know that he is proud to be seen with me. I want him to look into my eyes and see my strengths, weaknesses, vulnerabilities and soul.

7. I Have No Clue What I Want – just like every other single person out there. In fact, I think many married folks are unsure they even know what they want. It’s human nature to have self-doubt. One thing’s for sure, I embrace not knowing what I want and communicate and grow with the people that are in my life. We help each other figure life out. My boyfriend will be okay with the ebb and flow of life’s decisions and we will navigate them together; he will have my back

8. I Am Choosing To Be Single – at any given moment in my life. I choose me. There will be a time in my life when I will choose a man. A special one.

9. I Actually Have A Boyfriend – he just doesn’t know it yet.

Every woman has her own reasons for being single, just as every man out there has his reasons. One thing is certain though and that is I know myself. That is the kind of “girl” I am. If that is what makes me single or any of the ten points above, then so be it.lips lips

Lesson to be learnt on dating/blog/forum sites

conversing When joining a dating site/forum or blog,stick to your purpose of being on these sites and be true to yourself,and never but never discuss your personal issues with someone else unless it is someone you really trust and respect.We are quick to fall into a pattern of moaning,bragging and nagging about minor details that eventually blows out of proportion and gets lost in transit ,that we now have to add on tails to make the topic more elaborate than it started off from in the beginning,and this is all due to seeking attention in the wrong places.I for one regret ever having to mention my good deeds,my mishaps and my losses. frustrated After all I have gained nothing from this excepting conflicting cross over comments.Corresponding with other bloggers in a private capacity also does not sit right,because come a day when you have a blowup with that particular person all the dirty washing will come tumbling out.I have come to the realization that I will only partake in the blogs that interest me and respond only to questions that are relevant to the subject on hand.By sticking to my newfound knowledge of how things have panned out due to trust issues and mistakes made not only by others but by myself too comfort comfort bouquet lips lips
WITHOUT PREJUDICEcomfort comfort angel angel
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Guy Fawkes and the Result Thereof

hole hmmm confused What a night of frayed nerves,loud bangs and disregard to animals big or small,not forgetting children as well.It does not cease to amaze me at the fact that some people don't have enough money to feed their families ,let alone celebrate if that is what it is all about,even if it is not celebrated as a public holiday or has any bearing on their lives whatsoever.be it the past or the presentdoh I could never understand why in South Africa given that the majority population being African born and bred in South Africa and having no connection with Guy Fawkes, also known as Guido Fawkes, the name he adopted while fighting for the Spanish,and was a member of a group of provincial English Catholics who planned the failed Gunpowder Plot. Fawkes was born and educated in York. His father died when Fawkes was eight years old, after which his mother married a recusant Catholic. Fawkes converted to Catholicism and left for the continent, where he fought in the Eighty Years' War on the side of Catholic Spain against Protestant Dutch reformers in the Low Countries. He travelled to Spain to seek support for a Catholic rebellion in England without success.
So as far as I am concerned it is a No Brainer and makes no sense as the only persons to gain monetary wise in this senseless waste of money is the shopkeeper or supplier of fireworks,which is banned in certain built up areas throughout Cape Town and different regions in the country.I believe it should be banned "PERIOD".The animals are traumatised and the hospitals land up with injuries unnecessary inflicted upon themselves because of lack of knowledge on the handling of fireworks. The fire department has to be on standby IN CASE of the fire devastation that takes place each year and not only destroys our faun and flora but have homes going up in flames especially in Cape Town with the winds and surrounding mountains.and thatch roofed homes.
My thought on this is whoever celebrates Guy Fawkes in another country, be it part of their history,so be it, but don't adopt other country celebration when it means nothing to you besides the fact that you only want to use the fireworks as a way of nonsensical entertainment. doh
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Who Cares About Your Method Or Choice Of Fornifica

confused Reading the blogs lately I must say I am gobsmacked at the amount of blogs been written,discussed and questioned about ones lifestyle regarding fornification. Surely this is something we should be asking Dr Ruth's column and get the answers we are so eager to know.It is mind boggling that one should permanently have this topic raised time and time again. On the other hand it makes one think that the person/persons posing the question most certainly have lack thereof or yearning thereof.I for one would not want to share my bedroom antics or fantasy with outsiders as it has NOTHING to do with them ,unless you are so deprived thereof that it gives you a thrill just to hear someone else describe the raw or raunchy details ,yet you yourself feel no shame in asking someone to describe the antics blow by blow doh I am not frigid or a cold turkey but PLEASE I want to keep that very special and personal deed in the bedroom where it belongs. You don't find couples going to the office or meeting and relating what a wonderful or flop bonk they had the night before. Ask these questions and you are bound to get either the answer you are looking for ,or else you are been made a fool of behind your very own back.The less people know about you the more intriguing and mysterious you will be as a lover. grin lips lips
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When Meeting In Person And The Voice And Photo Don

help You know the saying goes you have a face for radio.Well that could mean you are better suited out of sight,and are better off doing the voice part only.This meaning you are not attractive but your voice is amazing.Now with me having worked in the film industry for sixteen years you automatically just knew who would be getting what part in either the lead,or a lessor part. We only dealt with actors/tresses that have done their four or five years music and drama at varsity.On a daily basis you would have people from all walks of life taking a chance by sending in pictures to try and entice the agency to hire them for a part or sign them on.Now my boss lady is the biggest agency in South Africa and only deals with the best and even attends Canne every year.Now the surprising part of all is when you see some of the actors/tresses in real life you are stunned to see the difference as apposed to the pictures.
Now this boils down to the everyday man/woman in the street. Have you ever spoken to someone on a cell or phone and then met them in person only to be stunned and expecting someone else.Or receiving a C.V and when the person comes in the picture is nothing like the one posted on their C.V. Just today a client of my daughter was telling us how she went into a total panic attach as she went to Italy to visit her daughter,but that her son would also be there without her knowing as she thought he was still in Afghanistan.There she was waiting for her daughter to pick her up and almost two hours later she sat crying her eyes out as she did not know who to call.The next thing she feels this tap on her shoulder, only to look up in the eyes of her son.The moral of the story when you change your hair colour inform your family as they were looking out for a dark haired lady ,instead her hair was now silver grey. comfort dunno

SHOUT SHOUT LET IT ALL OUT----ONLY POSITIVE

writing This blog is a mere observation of the sarcasm,hate speech,arrogance and utter disregard for the feeling of all concerned.
BY NO MEANS IS THIS A REFLECTION ON ANY SPECIFIC PERSON.
1) If you don't believe in God,don't use blasphemous remarks.
A) Rather just say I don't believe in God and move along swiftly
2) No respect shown to people genuinely crying for help.
A) Just a tiny word of encouragement,like wish you happiness will suffice
3) Competing for Mr OR MS popularity,this is not a popularity site
A) Watch out for that big ditch,favouritism is false and nasty.
4) Say derogatory things about a person on a blog and when taken to task
you go and delete the evidence ,but the person spoken about has made a
copy thereof ,and by the time the other bloggers read the response of
the person spoken about ,they think he/she is nuts and not aware of the post.
A)To this remark I have been the victim but copied the proof thereof.

5)Gossip and planning of response with certain blogger via private email

Once again you know who you are.
A)One day when you have a spat with a person you have been emailing privately,the bubble will burst and all will be revealed as what happened on a previous blog.C.C RESPECT TO YOU AND THE APPROACH YOU HAVE TAKEN.Freedom of speech is for all to embrace,don't hide what you have to say,come out in the open and air your view.C.H you are a VERY GOOD EXAMPLE,RESPECT MY SISTER FROM ANOTHER MOTHER. teddybear angel

6)If you know you are not welcome on a blog of a particular person.devil

A)Don't go there and don't use someone else's blog to spew your venom.
In plain English stay away,shut the door,take the hint,or fix the mess you started,don't always answer a question with a question,or play victim by bringing in sob stories such as my brother or sister or mother or whoever is not well so therefore I have the right to say what I please because I know my back will be covered. I say pathetic

MY WISH FOR TODAY AND MANY TO COME .GOD GRANT ME THE SERENITY TO EXCEPT THE THINGS I CANNOT CHANGE,BUT THE COURAGE TO CHANGE THE THINGS I CAN AND THE WISDOM TO KNOW THE DIFFERENC

I Have posted this blog with the hope of understanding and reaching out to our fellow bloggers without nastiness
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JUDGE AND ADJUDICATOR (PART 2 )

There but for the grace of God go I. I remind myself each and every day when passing by a homeless person,a street urchin sitting in the blazing sun begging for money,and refusing to take food,because I know he will be buying glue to sniff away his pain and heartache.So life goes on and becomes the days of our lives,of things that remind us of pain and suffering,religious wars and a loss of lives.I am not perfect,I have flaws,I am not always happy and smiling,But my heart even when filled with my own burdens am prepared to put aside my pain and lend a ear to someone I believe needs more comfort,a nice word or just a word of encouragement.I go into a "save the world mode" and no matter how hard I try,how little resources I have I will give my last heartbeat to see a smile of appreciation on that persons face teddybear comfort
The point I wish to make here is to thank all the bloggers that responded to my post regarding the issue with me being implicated in a scam.
From the depth of my heart I want to thank you for your kind words and encouragement,as this has proved to me that there are VERY GOOD human beings out there,therefore I have regained my faith in the human race.
Thank you to all and you know who you are,may each and every blogger once again forgive me for things I could have said ,which being attacked one puts your back up against the wall and hope upon hope that you can save yet another miscarriage of unjust accusations and tempers flaring.Once again Thank You To One And All and lets use the glue to keep us together instead of inhaling toxic,hurtful remarks. Peace angel bouquet lips teddybear hug

A blast from the Past. Adjudicator----Sentenced to

Only been able to have access to my profile after it was blocked by not myself but C.S ,I am being ripped to shreds by the bloggers for being the so called "HE,SHE.IT" "Doctor" Scammer.All I did was protecting someone I worked with in Sierra Leone,(SO I THOUGHT) meaning my files ( LAPTOP) was hacked or else it can only be a blogger that has planted a seed of poison and I must say they screwed up badly as I was not and am not the "Doctor" with a sick twisted mind that has had me up in arms since I was the one to try and protect "someone" I thought I knew.Your persistance of calling me Evil Lips madam Itchywitch must come to an end. Solamente you need to take a long look at yourself as you are certainly not Mr wonderful as you want everyone to believe.Biff you can add Noddy points to your remarks,and Lonelyinafrica put a policeman in front of your mouth before you utter another word about me.Serena how dare you insinuate and by the way put my name in your blog heading as being involved,who do you think you are.As for the rest that have had a lot to say the same would apply to you all.I most certainly will send a copy of this blog to C.S and voice my total frustration to this neverending nasty remarks pitted at me by a drop of a hat whenever I voice my opinion.All I ask is if you cant say anything good about a person ,don't say anything at all but keep it locked in your deep dungeon of hatred file until further notice.doh
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