how can i get past this bitterness?

DUDE

i can totally relate...

the hard part is letting go of the moment... i found that its just a matter of acceptance....

but to get there ...there is guilt and anger....

acceptance of your part and possible part .....

anger for the hurt and unchangeable nature of the new reality..

and moving on ..... for me.... it means ... follow my true hearts desire... no matter what my x or my kids or anyone in the world thinks....

if you pray ...ask god to give you ur true hearts desire...

if you meditate ... meditate on ur true hearts desire....

if management by objectives is ur thing ... then establish objectives and measuring points and ways to get there...

but for now.... feel free to express your feelings... to your self most importantly ...and to others too, like here ....

identify ur feelings ...explore them ...question them ... then shore them up... command them and direct them ...let them empower ur new life...

but watch out for so called experts...like this one....

.get better advice than this ...lol..

And put the gun away !

Hope you get over this soon and then look forward to all postive things ahead of you, though this Bitter Pill (A. Lennox) might help:

it will take some time but things will get better. i have someone very close to me that is going through a divorce rightnow and they were together for about 12 years. the way he's getting through this hard time is with talking to me. maybe if you just find someone to talk to and spend time with as a friend it might help
wish you the best of luck sha.

ur heart cant be that far away ur already healing your talking about it. yes it takes time but u can claim that mountain and when u reach the top you well know. i understand being in a realationship for 10 and he left, so keep fighting your way to the top. ill cheer for u.

how long will I carry on this bitterness?..lighter thinking helps..but it's not easy as you said..

I was struggling to get over a 13 year relationship, with a very abrupt end, and then I stumbled across some very helpful information. Its about grieving. Modern day society does not allow you to grieve like they did way back when. Now, if your beloved pet dies, they go... ah its only a dog/cat/pick something.

The only time that you are truly allowed to grieve is when someone dies, and then only for a couple of months, then you're suppose to get on with your life. Unfortunately, when a relationship breaks up the first words are usually, there are many fish in the sea, he didn't deserve you, you can do better... etc. And no allowance for grief is made.

I allowed myself to grieve. To grieve for the death of a relationship, partnership, faith, trust, a future, everything I lost in the process. That helped allot with the anger and the hurt. It took me nearly two years, but its all good now, and I have a brand new future, with brand new dreams, and no anger.

Try it. Maybe it helps you too.