Do I have to be a Gentleman!

Couple of weeks ago a lady on this site asked me out(I did blog it) and first date went swimmingly,but now for 2nd date I,m thinking "Maybe I do not need to act the Gentleman,,you know open doors,,Pay,,be all attentive,,Maybe she should take the lead,,wine ME and dine ME,,and hopefully wander her sweaty palms over my body,,That's never going to happen is it?But I suppose I can jump in with both feet ,Grab a handful ,,what can she say???,,,,,,you know who you are ,,its only a metaphorical question
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not unless u want to ...

women and men are equal ... remeber? They asked for it!

ex:

If a guy, just like u pops in a crowded bus... would u get up from your seat to let him sit in your place? No u wouldn't! So why should u do that to a lady? she's your equal and should not be given any preferential treatment!

... I wonder how many women realise that by gaining equality, they lost their privileges.

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Yes you do have to be a Gentleman!
What?
Surprise and shock all at oncewow doh confused
If you wish to have a lady in your life then you must
be prepared to treat her as one.
The lady would not be one of your buddies for the
footie or sports!
She can say! Get lost!! Egg on your face!! devil
@Sailfree


Ought she be a 'gentle-woman' -ie. treat a man just like a gentleman treats a lady- to have a man in her life?

dunno
First 10K ,,I would give my seat to a lady,,I do it automatically,its just what men my age do,sometimes I regret it afterwards.Sailfree I kind of agree with 10k,,she asked me out,I think the shoe is certainly on the other foot,she is asking of ME,all the old rules are turned on there head,Ladies cannot have it both ways!!!
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of course you don´t have to be a Gent if you just do not wantgrin
...but women adore Gents...
lipsee, if she asked you a date, you have to let her to pay for dinner, but you may offer her a flower! JMO the simple rule of politeness! Good luck!

10k, how are you dear, when I woke up in the morning, you were gone, so bad was the night? moping
@daciana I agree with ya must have been a very bad night for 10k!laugh Just a second date and you already think you don't have to be a gentleman. Geez guy how old are you? Must be a twenty-something thing. Let me just say if that lady reads this it will be your last!
@10K Of course the woman should treat the guy as you say as a gentlewoman. But this guy seems to be no gentleman to me.
Belle, really? we slept together laugh Is hard to give the best advice, better to see at that moment, isn't's good to make plans, but is good to have some dimes! laugh
Yes, Tard!!Be a Gentleman lest she kick you to the curb!!!
@lipsee Sorry to be so harsh. After 10K explained I sort of understand how happy guys feel when a woman asks them out. However, if a guy becomes that arrogant maybe a woman will think twice about asking a guy out in the future!
Being a true gentleman is not something you can switch on and off at a time of your choosing, and as you pointed out you only acted as a gentleman. I would suspect that your best cause of action is to just be yourself, she needs to like you for who you are and not what you can pretend to be.
Why do men "accuse" women of wanting to be equal and interpreting it in a way that precludes good manners? Equality under the law is not the same as what happens in romance. Being kind, considerate, etc. has nothing to do with equality. From the neck down, I am not and never have been equal to men. From the neck up is a whole different matter! lmao

Bottom line - if you are confused, talk about it with her. Be yourself in a way that you can be proud of yourself.
Belle, right, no initiative at all! head banger
Paul, for me seams you had a hot night, you fight with demons! laugh Is so hot there? we haven't alligators yet, only 14 degrees!comfort
Always be respectful and courteous! professor (Some guys don't have that skill though). roll eyes Doesn't matter if she asked you out first. She isn't one of the guys! You don't have to pull her chair out, give up your seat on the bus (hopefully you aren't taking the bus lol!) if you don't want to. But it might score brownie points. wink Anyway, just be yourself. But isn't the whole gentleman thing just to woo her? I mean after you get her then you do the 'bait and switch'!dunno


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@0rpheus


wanna see u being a gentleguy to a ballbuster ...


... believe me, it doesn't come natural in that case... only pain is inherent!



laugh
the inherent mistake in this blog is that although she did ask u, you agreed; hence u are as liable as she is.

On the otherhand, I wouldn't allow her to pay her own bill let alone askl her to pay mine!!!!


really .. i donno if it's archaic-brainwashing or pride... but I'd definately feel uncomfy allowing her to pay or anything of the sort.

having said that, I still sustain that it definately is ot required from u to do and what I said in my first two post bout equality is the concept I believe in (despite not acting on it!)


me. (lol)
oh btw!


Poppin out of your wallet a big bunch of quids works wonders on women ...

... u might find it veryyyyyy handy technique!

(experience talking!)


laugh
My man!

Enjoy the female .. (I mean the dining and wining and stuff like that... uh oh )


beer
She looks like a pretty girl lipsee. Good luck to you!
Well said 10k...9 hours back.comfort cheers
@Parti

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