physical handicap

i have a physical handicap that is visible.i have been reading forums on other sites that debate whether someone would or would not date a handicapped person.some people say"of course"and go on to praise the handicapped to no end.this is sort of condescending.why does a handicapped person have to be a "saint" to live a normal life? other people reject the idea immediately.they state that they could be friends with the person but nothing else.the reason being that the handicapped person is perhaps limited in the romance department or some other area.it seems to be,because of my personal experience that the handicapped are still among the groups that can't be treated as just people.