Dating over 40,,,gah!
Ok, so here I am after a 20+ year relationship with someone, andfind myself on my own. I took a few years to just be by myself and try to overcome all the "junk" in my past relationship, before trying even considering a new one.
Now that I am ready to date again, I have discovered it is a whole new world out there, obviously, but I had no idea dating would be so draining and such an emotional roller coaster ride.
Maybe part of it is the whole *online* thing. I tend to think people develop a "kid in a candy store" type mentality sometimes. So many choices, so many colors and flavors to choose from, how can I possibly choose just one?
A lot of times it seems that even when one meets someone seemingly ideal, they still find some fault or flaw or reason to toss that one back and keep on looking, and looking, and looking,,
Not saying that everyone does this, don't get me wrong. I certainly don't. I just seem to get a lot of interest in me, do the date, maybe some convo after, then suddenly nothing,,
I really do not get it, but I have just come to believe, that if they don't find me interesting enough to continue talking to or dating, then they can not be right for me.
I seem to be "too nice" sometimes I suppose. I always figure if someone does not want to date me, and we have a lot in common, what's wrong with chatting and remaining friends? But seems like its all or nothing with most
So I have also come to the conclusion that I must be a hard fit lol
I am not that picky actually, but there are certain things I need in a potential partner. One big one being a sense of humor, because if they do not have that, they will never understand half of what I am talking about half of the time lol
Communication is another biggie.
Really kills me too when I am honest about myself with someone, and they say I am "too down on myself"........ er no, just telling it like is. Yes I am fat, and I have some gray hair and and a few stray hairs trying to grow in places it was never meant to since I am getting older ROFL
I could go on and on but I will spare you lol
So anyway, this is just my rambling as I said before. Not asking for advice or questions but anyone is welcome to add to, comment or whatever.
Good luck to everyone in finding what you are looking for
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Yes, it is a whole new ball game out there and I don't think that you are too far off in saying that to a certain extent it is like a kid in a candy store though most I think, are reluctant to admit it.
We tend to be a bit pickier and more "selective." Another difference is the "selling oneself" mentality of just putting the Positive" out there and pretending that negative aspects of our lives and who we are does not exist as though we are some sort of "product" to be put on the "market" while we are still "hot"
Rather funny actually if you ask me.
You will read things on profiles like: "Will not settle for anything less than I deserve" ...please
Its a strange world out there but a good sense of humor does help. Have fun and try not to take any of the madness too seriously