europe vs the world
this might sound narrow minded to some but this is my experience...this is totaly my opinion some might a grea and others dissagrea.
why does it seem that european woman are less status driven than in ither countries?
for instance apon meating someone new in s.a. this is conciderd small talk... "hi, so where do you live?" answer and then "oh how nice so what do you do for a living?" then answer... they turn and leave... lol just joking not that bad.
but traveling europe the woman i met was more interested in me.
i know this is a generelisation and that you get good and bad everywhere, but.... this in my experience was the majority of woman.
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no i am not trieng to generalize as i said in my blog, i find it in south africa amonst the afrikaans girls and english girls and indian etc etc. what i am saying is after traveling to other countries witch i will not name as to avoid conflict that the european girls especialy the dutch seem to be more open and understanding and not interested in my social status :)
i am very uneducated when it comes to how the female mind works but that was a good answer
I agree with your comment, speaking for the Dutch, we are taught to take care of our selfs, be independant and men and woman are equal, work and lifewise, we feel free and confident in the mens world which may cause trouble going to another country, where woman are treated different (not say bad or wrong but different, just in case).
We're not afraid to ask things or tell our opinion to whom ever,
but as you say, in a tactfull way, we think.
Which is not always appreciated going abroad, or maybe better say, understood
Of course we can talk about anything but I think the most important is the timing and the way we do it. When it comes naturally in the conversation it doesn't sound rude or too curious.
I also avoid asking too much about the family because sometimes there are some issues and I don't want to embarrass the person (man). A tactful interest is the best way I think...
Another difference between our (Bulgarian and maybe European?) tradition and US one. Here when someone has a Birthday he/she is the one who invites friends, colleagues etc and treats them with chocolates, food, drinks etc (and the expenses are on him/her). Of course, the others buy him/her presents.
So when my daughter went to study in an American university and some of her friends had a Bday they all went to a restaurant and she was very embarrassed when at the end the "guests" had to share the bill. Fortunately she had enough money but she didn't expect it! On the other hand, when she treated the others for her Bday her classmates were very surprised and couldn't get it...
They call that "going Dutch"
Don't know where it comes from but thats how they call it.
Funny.
Thank you for the explanation Bsooner! Interesting to know :))
the way it's asked
I had friends asking me, would you like to go with us for diner,
which we translate as, we invite you, but they just offered a ride. Confusion, misunderstanding?
But it's not that big of a deal, now I first ask before I get in the car, so I know.