Two-faced
As it´s my first blog, I´d like to write a few words for the other bloggers, to explain why I am posting here.First thing is, I guess I have some ideas to entertain, and second is, there are many blogs that are around anything - but not about concrete CS topics.
I could write now, what i want to tell happened to a friend who told me...but I should be honest, as all clever guys will soon find out I am lying and would not give a dime to any of my words in future. You see - I am new, so i have to tell the truth. Being more experienced, I also could lie.
I visited a music festival some time ago and a young woman was dancing next to me. I waited for the right moment and asked for her name. So we tried to have a conversation, it was a bit difficult in the beginning as we didn´t find a common language. She told me she´s from Mexico and learns German for 3 months here. Her english was far worse than mine and managing all the problems I finally - giving questions and answers for 10 minutes - asked for her mobile number, as band soon would stop to play and we would part ways. That´s were she started to pretend, as she told me she hasn´t her mobile with her and doesn´t know the number, so somehow I took a pen and gave her mine. She took paper and soon after he promised me to send me SMS, I realized she had mobile in her bag, seeing it when she opened it for a moment to bring my number to a save place. She even discussed with her friends about me, i could see from their looks and her distinguished ignorance towards me while leaving. Never heard anything of her!
So I conclude she either just played with me to entertain herself and her friends - a couple in the late 40s or anything made her change her mind about me. Some may consider me as scary talking to a woman of 1m70 "down" from 1m88, but having a nice chat beside an entertainment we both enjoyed. It seemed to leave no "imprint" in her mind.
Comments (12)
I hate it when that happens ...
@Boban1: shure, but it doesn´t answer my question
@montemonte: I put it in " - so standing close in a crowded place some girls don´t feel comfortable to hang out with a tall guy they don´t know well. - she was in her 30s.
@ALL - thanks. where are your personal stories? anything similar happened to you? experience to share?
Just wana say Welcome to Blogs!
We all have our story's some are sad some are happy
I guess i can see how you would think she was 2 faced. Kudos to you for trying!
and it´s shure she moved first, as I took place before her.
@Susanne: I understand why you are here on international site. You are tried of dumb Germans. Good luck to you!
Okay, my last comment was a bit ironically, as I never would say "sorry" when I start to contact somebody. I further agree, there are many situations for women that are not likely to talk to strangers. But I would not have talked to her, if I felt she would not feel comfortable about it.
This is really just a small story, but it seems there is nobody who agrees with me.
This is what I call two-faced. Say one thing, and mean the opposite!"
Okay, init, I can understand you now. Us Germans are blunt, straight-forward and say it how we see it. Most other people are not like that. We Germans are seen as rude because of that, even though we have no intention to be rude - we are simply honest.
Funnily enough, the girl you spoke to had no intention of appearing two-faced either - she simply acted within the parameters of what is accceptable within her society. Obviously, the way she was brought up, it would be rude to tell someone to his face: I do not want to hear from you again. She acted properly from her point of view.
This is what you call cultural differences. My advice: do not argue against them, try to appreciate them instead. You will learn more that way and be happier too.