What Am I Doing Wrong?
Last night I went on a first date with a man I met on line. First off, he did not look anything like his picture. His picture was old and he told me that he had gained 40 lbs. But when he picked me up....let's just say that he gained alot more than 40 lbs. So I set that aside, and tried not to judge him and went out with him for the evening.I travel more outside the city I live in, so it was rather funny that he knew more about the city I live in than I did. We went to a local bar, where he proceeded to manhandle me. I explained to him that I don't do that on first dates, and I would appreciate if he would respect my space. Because we were in an atmosphere that was rather loud, he felt that he could lean into my ear and talk to me while rubbing my back. And after having a meal, which I stated I was full, felt that he could rub my stomach.
Needless to say, I had a few drinks to try and relax. I started drinking too much and couldn't find my way home....lol. We had left the bar and I was rather unstable, and because I couldn't find my way home, he told me that he could just keep me hostage. Now....being under the influence, that tended to not set well with me...rather, it being a first date, and the fact that he would not respect my space....was actually kind of scary.
He got me home safely and proceeded to try to force a kiss on me. I dodged in every direction, but he was quite forceful. I finally had to pull myself away and tell him no. And then, to top things off, my mom accidently locked me out of the house....lol.
So, it wasn't such a good evening. So just for giggles everyone, could you please comment and tell me what I did wrong.....lol. I want to know why it is that when I tell a man to respect my space he suddenly becomes deaf.
Comments (18)
Getting drunk with a stranger is just crazy !!!
Did you spend time chatting to get to know him a bit first ?
Was he being suggestive and forthright .... if you were chatting ?
Perhaps somethings to add to the list of things to look out for.
Take care out there ma'am
Everyone seems to have missed the point here. The point was, why do men feel they have to have their hands all over you on the first date even when you make it clear that you don't like it or want it. This is not the first time this has happened to me lately. My last first date was a little over a week ago with another gentlemen, which was a daytime meeting, and he did the same thing to me. What I want to know is why, when I tell a man that I do not enjoy touchy, feely on the first date, that it is not respected. I'm sorry that everyone misunderstood my statement. But my question was basically, why can't a man respect my wishes.
If you mean to persevere with this dating medium, take care that there is NO misunderstanding from the outset as to what your boudaries are, and if the man will not respect them from the get go, just get up and leave him.
Also, if he doesnt match up to his picture, don't go anywhere with him, cos he has just shown his colours right there.
If you mean to persevere with this dating medium, take care that there is NO misunderstanding from the outset as to what your boundaries are, and if the man will not respect them from the get go, just get up and leave him.
Also, if he doesnt match up to his picture, don't go anywhere with him, cos he has just shown his colours right there.
If you mean to persevere with this dating medium, take care that there is NO misunderstanding from the outset as to what your boundaries are, and if the man will not respect them from the get go, just get up and leave him.
Also, if he doesnt match up to his picture when you meet him for the first time, don't go anywhere with him, cos he has just shown his colours right there.
Good luck!
1.Why you did'nt go after you saw he is looking not like on the picture?It would be reason enough to you just go.
2.Why you had"few drinks"-big mistake.
I can show you more wrong things,but I'll just say-be woman,not child the next time!And respect your self on first place.
never ever put your self in danger, a day date is a must where you are surrounded by other people.
we are all human and can makes mistakes, just be careful next time. best of luck in your future.
1.) I always ask for a recent picture. (Taken within 6 months)
2.) Never go drinking on the first date.
3.) Don't be afraid to tell someone that if they do not look like their picture in person that you may ask to end the date.
4.) First date should be 1 - 4 hours and mid-morning to mid-afternoon. NOTHING ROMANTIC. Remember, you are not purchasing the car on the first visit, just checking it out. If you like the vehicle you can always go back to make the purchase.
Smart Smart Smart Man!
firstly set define your own standards i'e height weight fitness.
secondly stay sober on a date!
tirdly if in any doubt whatsoever regarding your safety on a date
then don't do it!