Dating site.

Why are you not supposed to be here....

I've been here a year and the most you can hope for, seems to me, is that someone is honest about being a liar. Nothing more irritating than someone who tells you a story a certain way, two weeks later they have forgotten and out it comes differently. Then they backtrack like crazy, you misunderstood them ...

Or they say they love something - say, rare roast beef. You say you hate it. Well, they didn't mean they loved it, per se, they mean it was okay, once in a while, but really when they think about it they hate it too ...

I'm a writer, so you could almost say I lie for a living. I certainly embroider stories I tell on blogs, or borrow them from other people.

I don't lie to the people who matter to me. But I will shut up rather than tell a lie. Which can be lying in itself.

I don't call myself honest on my profile ...

thanks for your comment! The kind of lies I tell now are for entertainment, and I can own up to them. I try to avoid the sort of person or situation where I would have to tell a real lie, and if I can't avoid them, I stick to the truth rather than create future problems for myself. After all, if they can't handle the truth about me, better to know sooner rather than later.

Tricky situations are ones like you're in a job you hate, and the manager starts talking about your long-term prospects, do you shut up, nod and smile, or say listen sunshine, I hate this place, I'm only here for the salary and no chance in hell do I want to get more involved .. or even more bluntly, let's not waste time here, I'm actively job-hunting, ok?

Human nature to shut up. At least until you find another job. But I don't get all enthusiastic about the discussions because that crosses the line into full-on lying and creates a really bad aftertaste. (Which, somewhere down the line, could hurt another job application)