Rebuilding Trust... (26)
jesusgal713Goldsboro, North Carolina USA1 Threads 4 PostsHow should someone who is trying to regain my trust go about it?
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jesusgal713: How should someone who is trying to regain my trust go about it?
I would think only you would know that
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jesusgal713: How should someone who is trying to regain my trust go about it?
Their words and actions should match....It's when they differ that mistrust sets in...If you love someone...the loving actions go with it...and you walk your talk...
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jesusgal713: How should someone who is trying to regain my trust go about it?
The only answer I have found to work is to give yourself time to heal. When you've healed, you'll find that trust is easier to give again. The only one who can heal you is you. ------ This thread is Archived ------
Hugz_n_Kissez: Their words and actions should match....It's when they differ that mistrust sets in...If you love someone...the loving actions go with it...and you walk your talk...
OR when there is only words with no action or follow through...then those words just become empty words that mean nothing...so it's important to follow through with what you sayyyyyy or don't say it at all..
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jessejess47: I would think only you would know that
I thought that, guess it kinda depends on why you don't trust, people don't have crystal ball try talking to them------ This thread is Archived ------
morgan5: I thought that, guess it kinda depends on why you don't trust, people don't have crystal ball try talking to them
Right...if it's cheating..my trust can never rebuilt in that area...
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Make a decision to love by trying to let go of the past. Stop obsessing about the situation which broke the trust between you and your SO. Decide to forgive or to be forgiven. If you are the one in your relationship who lied, cheated, etc. show that the errant behavior is gone by changing your behaviors. That means no more secrets, lies, infidelity, etc.
The wounded person must share the pain. The other person must acknowledge the hurt caused by the devastating experience of being lied to or cheated on. Listen completely to one another and with your heart, not just your head.
Be honest. Take responsibility for your own actions and decisions. Remind one another that you each deserve open and honest answers to your questions about the affair or betrayal.
The wounded person must share the pain. The other person must acknowledge the hurt caused by the devastating experience of being lied to or cheated on. Listen completely to one another and with your heart, not just your head.
Be honest. Take responsibility for your own actions and decisions. Remind one another that you each deserve open and honest answers to your questions about the affair or betrayal.
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Big_John: Make a decision to love by trying to let go of the past. Stop obsessing about the situation which broke the trust between you and your SO. Decide to forgive or to be forgiven. If you are the one in your relationship who lied, cheated, etc. show that the errant behavior is gone by changing your behaviors. That means no more secrets, lies, infidelity, etc.
The wounded person must share the pain. The other person must acknowledge the hurt caused by the devastating experience of being lied to or cheated on. Listen completely to one another and with your heart, not just your head.
Be honest. Take responsibility for your own actions and decisions. Remind one another that you each deserve open and honest answers to your questions about the affair or betrayal.
The wounded person must share the pain. The other person must acknowledge the hurt caused by the devastating experience of being lied to or cheated on. Listen completely to one another and with your heart, not just your head.
Be honest. Take responsibility for your own actions and decisions. Remind one another that you each deserve open and honest answers to your questions about the affair or betrayal.
Excellent advice....
Couldn't have said it better... ------ This thread is Archived ------
morgan5: I thought that, guess it kinda depends on why you don't trust, people don't have crystal ball try talking to them
I guess the saying that Great mind DO think alike is true------ This thread is Archived ------
Hugz_n_Kissez: Right...if it's cheating..my trust can never rebuilt in that area...
Hi Hugz i still feel like that but am trying really hard right now to put those feelings behind me , i'm lucky i have met someone that understands why i am the way i am and has the patience to help me thro it( without taking the crap i can dish out when i'm feeling unsure of a situation) 
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jessejess47: I guess the saying that Great mind DO think alike is true
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morgan5: Hi Hugz i still feel like that but am trying really hard right now to put those feelings behind me , i'm lucky i have met someone that understands why i am the way i am and has the patience to help me thro it( without taking the crap i can dish out when i'm feeling unsure of a situation)
Yes that certainly helps...it's nice to have a partner who understands and wants to understand why some things are harder for you than others....and supports you in it instead of seeing it as a detriment or as something being wrong with you....
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Big_John: Make a decision to love by trying to let go of the past. Stop obsessing about the situation which broke the trust between you and your SO. Decide to forgive or to be forgiven. If you are the one in your relationship who lied, cheated, etc. show that the errant behavior is gone by changing your behaviors. That means no more secrets, lies, infidelity, etc.
The wounded person must share the pain. The other person must acknowledge the hurt caused by the devastating experience of being lied to or cheated on. Listen completely to one another and with your heart, not just your head.
Be honest. Take responsibility for your own actions and decisions. Remind one another that you each deserve open and honest answers to your questions about the affair or betrayal.
The wounded person must share the pain. The other person must acknowledge the hurt caused by the devastating experience of being lied to or cheated on. Listen completely to one another and with your heart, not just your head.
Be honest. Take responsibility for your own actions and decisions. Remind one another that you each deserve open and honest answers to your questions about the affair or betrayal.
Advice to be taken to heart.
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jesusgal713: Thanks guys, you have given me a starting point, and some great advice.
Good luck to you ------ This thread is Archived ------
jesusgal713: Thanks guys, you have given me a starting point, and some great advice.
Just remember to smile and enjoy the trip to where ever it brings you.
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jesusgal713: Thanks guys, you have given me a starting point, and some great advice.
Good luck to you and yours.
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Time, patients,being humble.
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You are what you do....not what you say 
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