LEGAL SEPARATIONS.... ( Archived) (55)

That will come in handy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Thank you!!

Your welcome. Feel free to contact me anytime. Even if it is just to talk. I know how it is going through a divorce on your own.

I was seperated and now I'm divorced. We kept it friendly and that is a key! Keep it friendly and everyone is too guilty to screw anybody. My ex and I still get along, talk, help each other out. See the kids whenever I can.

What ever the reason for your seperation, look at it like it's a godsend. It is for the best. Don't get ugly and settle as friends.

Yes, I lost my share of our house, I let my ex stay in the house, Told him when he sold it I would get my share, it was not stated in the legal seperation papers that he would keep current. He out of revenge let the payments go and the house was a quick sell, 1 step before forclosure, I got nothing. Everything should be in writing.
Deb

Get an attorney

In my state you have to be separated for a year before getting divorced. I had a legal seperation made up. it took a while for him to sign it. I put in what I wanted, and what he was to have. This included vehicles, property, furniture, alimony, kids college. When it was time to go to court for the divorce, the Judge had my seperation agreement legally put in with the divorce.

That is usually how it works. I lucked out when i set up my seperation agreement me and my ex-husband was on really good terms and he agreed to everything. Then i told him about 2 months later after i found out he was cheating on me that it was over and there was no way i was getting back with him then he went to West Virginia for a week but he asked me before he left for west virginia if i would let him take my son with him but he had never been with him for more than hour by his self and there was no way i was going to let him to him down there. Which i thank god that i didn't let him go cuz i would have never seen him again. My ex-husband told me when he left a letter for me that he wasn't coming back and he had planned on keeping my son too. So finally I filed for my divorce and the hearing was set and i showed up and of course he didn't. So i got sole custody of my son and he has to pay child support and cannot see my son until he is current on child support and goes through a parenting class. That was 4 years ago and i haven't seen him since. I did find out that he doesn't have anything to do with his other two kids and he is now remarried for the fourth time. Yes i said 4th time. He is helping his new wife raise her 3 kids. and has basically said screw his other 3 kids. So i know that we are better off without him. I agree my divorce was sent from God. I thank God everyday for my divorce and my beautiful little miracle son!!

There is MUCH at risk. So how you proceed at this point WILL affect what happens down the line.

I have to say I have yet to read back through the thread to see what has been discussed....but YOU MUST GET AS MUCH INFORMATION AS POSSIBLE BEFORE YOU DO ANYTHING.

your welcome to email me......but I will try to read the threads to see if there is anything that I might offer. Having seen HUGE HUGE LOSES by not taking the correct steps, I say again.....GET INFORMATION.

'nuf said

There's not always an option to get a lawyer. Nothing small claims-related is allowed to have an attorney, in any form. You also can't have one if you're going in front of a mediator (which is the first step for some cases, pre-trial).