My X-girlfriend, asked for $60.00cdn. 3 years Education. sing papers I said. Now I'm in the Dog Hou (35)
rusty_knightGozo, Malta175 Threads 2 Polls 6,840 PostsIf she really loved the guy she'd want him to feel secure and put any loan on a formal footing AND take out some life insurance just in case she got run over by a bus while walking along deep in an accountancy book!¬
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Drewski: You're right in that she probably loves him however it is not a strong enough love to be forever which this debt, and risk on his part would entail. If I were in the same situation I don't think that any girl in her right mind would lower herself to ask me to outlay that kind of money and still expect to be on equal terms with me nor, would I ever expect any girl to throw me fifty grand and still consider me a man.
This relationship requires time and this event, brought into it by the girl was unfair to the guy. It put him on the spot and, in a situation where nobody should be. On her part, it is a logical solution to her problem as she feels for the guy however, as she reacted by having an immature snit, what are the odds that she had any real conviction and honor about paying him back should the relationship end?
He was wise to require a contract. And, she is unwise for not appreciating his convictions and continuing the relationship while asking his help in doing the task herself with his aid.
Everybody has dreams, few have conviction, honor and even fewer have the ability to fund others dreams.
This relationship requires time and this event, brought into it by the girl was unfair to the guy. It put him on the spot and, in a situation where nobody should be. On her part, it is a logical solution to her problem as she feels for the guy however, as she reacted by having an immature snit, what are the odds that she had any real conviction and honor about paying him back should the relationship end?
He was wise to require a contract. And, she is unwise for not appreciating his convictions and continuing the relationship while asking his help in doing the task herself with his aid.
Everybody has dreams, few have conviction, honor and even fewer have the ability to fund others dreams.
I didn't say he wasn't wise to have something in place...I said it should have been discussed and agreed to by the two of them first...and so you mean to tell me...if your g/f or wife wanted to go back to school...You wouldn't support her in that decision and do whatever it took to help????
And I agree it is a majorly bad decision on her part if they haven't been together that long....she can wait go back to school any time but she should wait until they discuss the future more etc...This is a heavy major decision to support someone for years....It's not something to entertain if the relationship is still fairly new for sure....
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Hugz_n_Kissez: I didn't say he wasn't wise to have something in place...I said it should have been discussed and agreed to by the two of them first...and so you mean to tell me...if your g/f or wife wanted to go back to school...You wouldn't support her in that decision and do whatever it took to help????
And I agree it is a majorly bad decision on her part if they haven't been together that long....she can wait go back to school any time but she should wait until they discuss the future more etc...This is a heavy major decision to support someone for years....It's not something to entertain if the relationship is still fairly new for sure....
And I agree it is a majorly bad decision on her part if they haven't been together that long....she can wait go back to school any time but she should wait until they discuss the future more etc...This is a heavy major decision to support someone for years....It's not something to entertain if the relationship is still fairly new for sure....
To be fair:
The other thing is the decision about her going back to school and whether this was even the right time to consider it based on how long they have been together...finances etc...so yes it really should have been a two way street all the way around...it's not just going to effect her...
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In response to: My X-girlfriend and I, We had a team meeting! She wanted to completely stop working, so she can study for the next 3 years. OK, she wanted to better her self.
She`s an accountant, and want`s to become a Chartered account. she is a 4.3!
would you better yourself if you had the opportunity?
But because of the intensity of the courses, she has to devote 110% of her time, To studies and courses, she can not work.
She told me that I would have to pay all the bills, plus her expenses.
yes she`s getting a student loan. But that’s peanuts.
Do you know how much this books go for? and Yes some you can get used, But not the main ones. There Bible coast when completed $8,000cdn.
I saw one book $375.00cdn Wow.
I went to my Lawyer and had papers drown. was this right.?
I feel what if she decides after all that, it`s over I`m Out.?
She got so mad when i presented her the papers. I though the sky was about to fall
Is this, what our love is based on, you have no trust in me. In the end, I’ll make 75k start 3 years 120k+ and then I’ll take care of you.
So now I have been in the Dog-House, she left 1 ½ months ago, and moved in with her mother! I called this weekend to see how she was doing and she’s still mad at me.
what do I do?
She`s an accountant, and want`s to become a Chartered account. she is a 4.3!
would you better yourself if you had the opportunity?
But because of the intensity of the courses, she has to devote 110% of her time, To studies and courses, she can not work.
She told me that I would have to pay all the bills, plus her expenses.
yes she`s getting a student loan. But that’s peanuts.
Do you know how much this books go for? and Yes some you can get used, But not the main ones. There Bible coast when completed $8,000cdn.
I saw one book $375.00cdn Wow.
I went to my Lawyer and had papers drown. was this right.?
I feel what if she decides after all that, it`s over I`m Out.?
She got so mad when i presented her the papers. I though the sky was about to fall
Is this, what our love is based on, you have no trust in me. In the end, I’ll make 75k start 3 years 120k+ and then I’ll take care of you.
So now I have been in the Dog-House, she left 1 ½ months ago, and moved in with her mother! I called this weekend to see how she was doing and she’s still mad at me.
what do I do?
She is only a girlfriend. Why should he have to pay her way thru school. They are not even married. You did the right thing pal.
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Hugz_n_Kissez: I didn't say he wasn't wise to have something in place...I said it should have been discussed and agreed to by the two of them first...and so you mean to tell me...if your g/f or wife wanted to go back to school...You wouldn't support her in that decision and do whatever it took to help????
And I agree it is a majorly bad decision on her part if they haven't been together that long....she can wait go back to school any time but she should wait until they discuss the future more etc...This is a heavy major decision to support someone for years....It's not something to entertain if the relationship is still fairly new for sure....
And I agree it is a majorly bad decision on her part if they haven't been together that long....she can wait go back to school any time but she should wait until they discuss the future more etc...This is a heavy major decision to support someone for years....It's not something to entertain if the relationship is still fairly new for sure....
Sure I would. I think that maybe there was not a discussion that as you wisely said there should be or, if there was, emotions ran more like accusations of non love than logic. Yes, if my girl friend, the woman I loved, wanted to go back to school and said she would make a future for us both I would gladly give her my stinking soul. However, if I were asking what others thought on an internet forum, that sort of gives away as to what degree mine, or her love or trust factor is.
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nothernstar: Yes she moved out.
so - unless there's a whole bunch you did not say, seems to me there's only one question...
why are you even doing this?
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Drewski: Sure I would. I think that maybe there was not a discussion that as you wisely said there should be or, if there was, emotions ran more like accusations of non love than logic. Yes, if my girl friend, the woman I loved, wanted to go back to school and said she would make a future for us both I would gladly give her my stinking soul. However, if I were asking what others thought on an internet forum, that sort of gives away as to what degree mine, or her love or trust factor is.
True...and I see it in terms of her not actually asking for money but I guess to supported while she goes to school...and that includes financially because she can't work and do the program too..I have been there...I know what it's like...and I did it on my own with 2 kids for 2 years and it just about killed me because the program I took was soooooooo heavy combined with raising my kids and making sure they had what they needed including my attention....BUT I would have still done it on my own had I been in a relationship that was not stable or there were at least not plans for a future together...sooooo I see where you are coming from in that respect....
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JayTee: so - unless there's a whole bunch you did not say, seems to me there's only one question...
why are you even doing this?
why are you even doing this?
No ther are many question`s to address not just one.
Plus this happens more then one thinks.
to men or women.
why are we even doing what? have I wasted your time?
Threads is about getting other individuals opinions, and suggestion. or other voicing what happened to them.
Are you looking for a hidden agenda?
Not for me to answer why did I Threaded this, I did.
Theirs no story. this is true did and has happened to me. and many others. I`m not alone.
ther is a conclusion, something did happen. But that i will post much later.
Is the suspense killing you, I Hope not?
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In response to: My X-girlfriend and I, We had a team meeting! She wanted to completely stop working, so she can study for the next 3 years. OK, she wanted to better her self.
She`s an accountant, and want`s to become a Chartered account. she is a 4.3!
would you better yourself if you had the opportunity?
But because of the intensity of the courses, she has to devote 110% of her time, To studies and courses, she can not work.
She told me that I would have to pay all the bills, plus her expenses.
yes she`s getting a student loan. But that’s peanuts.
Do you know how much this books go for? and Yes some you can get used, But not the main ones. There Bible coast when completed $8,000cdn.
I saw one book $375.00cdn Wow.
I went to my Lawyer and had papers drown. was this right.?
I feel what if she decides after all that, it`s over I`m Out.?
She got so mad when i presented her the papers. I though the sky was about to fall
Is this, what our love is based on, you have no trust in me. In the end, I’ll make 75k start 3 years 120k+ and then I’ll take care of you.
So now I have been in the Dog-House, she left 1 ½ months ago, and moved in with her mother! I called this weekend to see how she was doing and she’s still mad at me.
what do I do?
If it was only a (girlfriend) than no. I would not pay her way through school, it seems she just wants to use you! For school and whatever else she wants, cloths,food,and hell maybe even her jewelery! I would go with no. She can tell u one thing and do another. She hiding something from u.She`s an accountant, and want`s to become a Chartered account. she is a 4.3!
would you better yourself if you had the opportunity?
But because of the intensity of the courses, she has to devote 110% of her time, To studies and courses, she can not work.
She told me that I would have to pay all the bills, plus her expenses.
yes she`s getting a student loan. But that’s peanuts.
Do you know how much this books go for? and Yes some you can get used, But not the main ones. There Bible coast when completed $8,000cdn.
I saw one book $375.00cdn Wow.
I went to my Lawyer and had papers drown. was this right.?
I feel what if she decides after all that, it`s over I`m Out.?
She got so mad when i presented her the papers. I though the sky was about to fall
Is this, what our love is based on, you have no trust in me. In the end, I’ll make 75k start 3 years 120k+ and then I’ll take care of you.
So now I have been in the Dog-House, she left 1 ½ months ago, and moved in with her mother! I called this weekend to see how she was doing and she’s still mad at me.
what do I do?
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WOW it's funny to see just how unimportant a g/f is to some men vs. a wife....I would think that love and each others well being would come someplace in this and not just the man worried about losing his shirt....Seems marriage to some is only a matter of security...not what it should be...based on love...and yes trust....I would think before there was ever a marriage considered that that love would have to exist first...but then with some of the responses I have seen...Maybe not....
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Mercedes1: Stick to what you beleive in
helloo
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nothernstar: helloo
hi how are you
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nothernstar: hi how are you
so its like this it works
Are you going out
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