If you do something wrong (28)
sweetowenSomewhere, Pennsylvania USA289 Threads 5 Polls 8,850 PostsIf you did something very wrong that ate away at you, would you hold it in? Would you talk to a family member/friend? Would you talk to clergy? Would you write it in a diary? Or would you confess it to the person you wronged?
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ok owen what did u do?
sweetowen: If you did something very wrong that ate away at you, would you hold it in? Would you talk to a family member/friend? Would you talk to clergy? Would you write it in a diary? Or would you confess it to the person you wronged?
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chriss: ok owen what did u do?
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I would confess it to the person...
I am a great believer in holding my hands up and saying yes it was me..
Hopefully talking it out and coming to an understanding...
We all do wrong but it is saying yes I did that and I am sorry that matters...
I am a great believer in holding my hands up and saying yes it was me..
Hopefully talking it out and coming to an understanding...
We all do wrong but it is saying yes I did that and I am sorry that matters...
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Tamarin: I would confess it to the person...
I am a great believer in holding my hands up and saying yes it was me..
Hopefully talking it out and coming to an understanding...
We all do wrong but it is saying yes I did that and I am sorry that matters...
I am a great believer in holding my hands up and saying yes it was me..
Hopefully talking it out and coming to an understanding...
We all do wrong but it is saying yes I did that and I am sorry that matters...
What if it was cheating on your spouse/SO & confessing would definitely cost you the relationship?
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sweetowen: What if it was cheating on your spouse/SO & confessing would definitely cost you the relationship?
I would tell the person that I wronged and apologize. There is great benefit to easing your conscience. Living with the lie only creates horror in your life.
I have never cheated on anyone, nor will I ever cheat.
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sweetowen: What if it was cheating on your spouse/SO & confessing would definitely cost you the relationship?
I have never been in that situation but I know I could not live with myself if I had such guilt pangs and would end up spilling it out...
The person has to do what they feel best...
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It depends on what I did wrong, to whom, and when.
There are things I've done in the past that were very wrong, and the people affected by them are no longer in my life, or able to be contacted. I have accepted those things and come to terms with them by facing them and doing a "Dark Night of the Soul"...and then letting them go and forgiving myself. It does no good to hold them in, but I don't see a point in confession either, to clergy or a friend/family member. Nor do I keep diaries.
We all make mistakes...I deal with it, accept it, and move on...striving to learn to be a better person from it.
If I did something wrong to someone who was still in my life, I would admit it, talk about it, and apologize for it...and do what I could to make up for it.
There are things I've done in the past that were very wrong, and the people affected by them are no longer in my life, or able to be contacted. I have accepted those things and come to terms with them by facing them and doing a "Dark Night of the Soul"...and then letting them go and forgiving myself. It does no good to hold them in, but I don't see a point in confession either, to clergy or a friend/family member. Nor do I keep diaries.
We all make mistakes...I deal with it, accept it, and move on...striving to learn to be a better person from it.
If I did something wrong to someone who was still in my life, I would admit it, talk about it, and apologize for it...and do what I could to make up for it.
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sweetowen: What if it was cheating on your spouse/SO & confessing would definitely cost you the relationship?
I would still have to be honest enough to admit it to them. If it cost me the relationship, I'd feel that I deserved that for my breach of their trust, and I'd have to deal with the consequences of my actions.
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I would talk to the person I wronged and hope for the best and hopefully they would understand. It just might be a while before they can forgive
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We have to read quite a bit into this question so I will provide my answer this way: I don't think it is good to tell somebody something to make yourself feel better at the cost of their feelings. Just because you are suffering some guilt or pain by your silence, why do you want to inflict some discomfort on another to make yourself feel good?
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sweetowen: If you did something very wrong that ate away at you, would you hold it in? Would you talk to a family member/friend? Would you talk to clergy? Would you write it in a diary? Or would you confess it to the person you wronged?
As I hate doing wrong, I will try to find excuses to my action.
When I fail that I turn around and confess to the person I wronged.
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I'm not sure I agree with some of the answers, except morally. By this I mean that while on the surface it sounds like the right thing to do, to come clean and confess wrongdoing. It sure seems like the only logical response. But here is where I have a problem with this....
If I had cheated on a lover or spouse (which I am firmly against and have never done), why is relieving MY burden and causing pain to the other person of greater importance than considering that person's pain? I do wrong, I feel guilty, I have to confess, me, me, me, me. What about the other person? They now have pain and hurt, but it's the right thing because now I feel better??
I see everyone's point, I really do. And, again, I understand why people respond the way they have. But is it really the right thing for the other person?
Just wondering.
If I had cheated on a lover or spouse (which I am firmly against and have never done), why is relieving MY burden and causing pain to the other person of greater importance than considering that person's pain? I do wrong, I feel guilty, I have to confess, me, me, me, me. What about the other person? They now have pain and hurt, but it's the right thing because now I feel better??
I see everyone's point, I really do. And, again, I understand why people respond the way they have. But is it really the right thing for the other person?
Just wondering.
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See, John brings up a very interesting point. Are we being selfish in telling the other person? And as I stated, we can tell friends/family, clergy, etc.
Now keep in mind... I'm not just talking about cheating. This could be taking money from someone, having driven while intoxicated, but not being caught, etc. This is a general question, as John said.
What if you didn't really wrong anyone in particular, but still it weighed heavily on your mind. What would you do then?
Now keep in mind... I'm not just talking about cheating. This could be taking money from someone, having driven while intoxicated, but not being caught, etc. This is a general question, as John said.
What if you didn't really wrong anyone in particular, but still it weighed heavily on your mind. What would you do then?
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sweetowen: What if you didn't really wrong anyone in particular, but still it weighed heavily on your mind. What would you do then?
I have a wife
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mike69spain: I have a wife
But what if it changed her perspective on you?
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sweetowen: If you did something very wrong that ate away at you, would you hold it in? Would you talk to a family member/friend? Would you talk to clergy? Would you write it in a diary? Or would you confess it to the person you wronged?
It's never happened... well wait, no on second thought
"... there was one time I thought I was wrong but I was mistaken." ~Bohemianjack, mistaken
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Big_John: We have to read quite a bit into this question so I will provide my answer this way: I don't think it is good to tell somebody something to make yourself feel better at the cost of their feelings. Just because you are suffering some guilt or pain by your silence, why do you want to inflict some discomfort on another to make yourself feel good?
i agree with you
my lips are sealed,am not telling.it will escalate and make things worse and then YOU would feel worse and wonder why did i confess in the first place.some things are better left unsaid.you would feel guilty but assure yourself you wont do it again.jmo------ This thread is Archived ------
Two women are out to lunch waiting for the third woman to join them.
Before the third woman gets there, the two women see the third woman's S/O come into the restaurant with another woman.
The man and woman leave before the third woman gets there.
Are you going to tell the third woman that you saw her S/O with another woman?
Before the third woman gets there, the two women see the third woman's S/O come into the restaurant with another woman.
The man and woman leave before the third woman gets there.
Are you going to tell the third woman that you saw her S/O with another woman?
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if it was in public i would fan the air and gasp at my s/o can't you hold it until we're outside
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