Big_John: I believe I will tell you what you want to hear. So yes I am shallow. I want the woman I want, not the one you wish me to have. She needs to have the body I desire. She needs to be the height I am looking for. Once I find the body I will see if she has a mind, personality and traits I like in her. Until then I will continue to be petty, shallow and selective in the woman I wish to find.
Hey there Big John, nothing like kickin' a girl when she's down. Easy big fella!
lifesajoy: Not all men are like that. I found one here who isn't like that at all and we are planning to marry in July. Just hand in there! If nothing else you'll come away with some really good friends. Isn't that worth staying around for?
Most anything worhwhile takes time and patience. Hang in there and enjoy some of the other things available on the site. Who knows, when you least expect it?
Big_John: I believe I will tell you what you want to hear. So yes I am shallow. I want the woman I want, not the one you wish me to have. She needs to have the body I desire. She needs to be the height I am looking for. Once I find the body I will see if she has a mind, personality and traits I like in her. Until then I will continue to be petty, shallow and selective in the woman I wish to find.
sassygirl08: I think im about to delete my profile here! I just feel every man here is looking for barbie, not everybody has a perfect body, height or weight, but I swear every guy here is looking for that perfect women, nobody takes the time to get to know the inner person, get to know our personality, our strenghts, weaknesses, likes, dislikes and our quirks. What a shame, I fell I have so much to offer the right person but never get the time of day, honestly im pissed as hell and needed to vent for all that will do...
Barbie is/was over rated,,I always liked the dirty,,tom boy type women,with that nawti edge,,in moderation
sassygirl08: I think im about to delete my profile here! I just feel every man here is looking for barbie, not everybody has a perfect body, height or weight, but I swear every guy here is looking for that perfect women, nobody takes the time to get to know the inner person, get to know our personality, our strenghts, weaknesses, likes, dislikes and our quirks. What a shame, I fell I have so much to offer the right person but never get the time of day, honestly im pissed as hell and needed to vent for all that will do...
Rejection hurts like hell, doesnt it?
What keeps us going is the hope that the next profile we view, or the next person to view us will be THE ONE. We cant give up, here or in real life.
lifesajoy: I'm not saying tell her what she wants to hear, I'm saying there's a kinder way of saying it without making her feel any worse than she already does. Am I the only one who believes in diplomacy?
If you go back and read my original post you will find I did not state the type of woman I am interested in. Most you read into it what you wanted to read, not what I wrote. This is a common problem on dating sites it is more important on how you say something rather than what you say.
Oh girl I don't even know where to begin here and I will try to be tactful as it is not in my character to hurt someone. First, you probably have no idea how many of this type of thread has been on here, but remain in the forums and I'm sure you will see them again.
I personally would rather see you come on as a newbie. let us welcome you and then participate in the forums and let people get to know you a little. Not saying that you will find a man but you will find a friend or two. I love me and until we can stand in front of a full length mirror naked and really say as I do, Damn Sassy you look pretty damn good for pushing 60, then how can we really expect a man to love us.
I agree with John and I am hoping this does not upset you, but we all have in our minds what we are looking for. Now I consider John a friend, but I read his profile, I know what he is looking for, but having him as a friend is wonderful. Sorry John, you just happened to be the one that was speaking how you feel so I chose to use you, in a good way.
I say welcome, stick around the forums, chat with people make friends and have a good time. (JMO)
sassygirl08: I think im about to delete my profile here! I just feel every man here is looking for barbie, not everybody has a perfect body, height or weight, but I swear every guy here is looking for that perfect women, nobody takes the time to get to know the inner person, get to know our personality, our strenghts, weaknesses, likes, dislikes and our quirks. What a shame, I fell I have so much to offer the right person but never get the time of day, honestly im pissed as hell and needed to vent for all that will do...
You are not the only one. I feel the same way too. I have met a couple of men and they say that they think we clicked and then I have never heard from them again. I am getting very very frustrated.Any hints from someone??
JamesBragintonPalm Desert, California USA179 Posts
JamesBragintonPalm Desert, California USA179 posts
sassygirl08: I think im about to delete my profile here! I just feel every man here is looking for barbie, not everybody has a perfect body, height or weight, but I swear every guy here is looking for that perfect women, nobody takes the time to get to know the inner person, get to know our personality, our strenghts, weaknesses, likes, dislikes and our quirks. What a shame, I fell I have so much to offer the right person but never get the time of day, honestly im pissed as hell and needed to vent for all that will do...
How would guys know what u look like? U have no photo. I used
to be one of those guys who goes for barbie doll women. Then, I
married one and for 9 years I lived in infamy. Guess what, I
don't date that type of girl anymore. So now I seee if the girl
is sane or not by getting to know them by chatting or talking
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Hey there Big John, nothing like kickin' a girl when she's down. Easy big fella!