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It was only when I took a step back from the battle, as the children were completely bewildered that I realised how poor UK family law is.
I then researched other countries, particularly the US, on their family law.
I found similar trends in both countries.
In the UK, Family Law has been a problem for many years, it is held in secret, the mother is not always favoured, that is a myth, it is that fathers think they are so they do not fight to see their children.
It is a poor system, natural, loving relationships are allowed to erode, by the decisions of judges, contact orders cannot be enforced if they are broken, and parental alienation is very much in place, usually fuelled by money and bitterness. Parents emotionally assault each other and children are the missiles.
My question to you, my wise friends, is that how is Family Law in your country?
Have you had any experiences that you would be prepared to share?
I know of one American lady, who had her boys taken to Germany, by their father, and she has not seen her children for ten years now, they are completely alienated against her, do not want to knnow her, and the courts can do nothing about it. Not a jot, especially now they are adults themselves.
I took a step back, from ours, because I knew the courts could not give a decision, so it was me, that eventually made the decision, it took me a year to bring my children back into the country, that was with love and patience and reassuring them, that no court battles would ensue, I spent thousands of pounds on briefs that I ended up firing.
In the end, it took me, as a mother to end it all, and make the decision, not the judges, that we would have them 50% of the time each and that has worked for us, mum and dad, and the children, they have been fortunate enough to have the love of both parents which is the way it should be.
The reason I raised this, is because, as a young child, I was the product of a custody (as it was called then) where my father had to prove that my mother was an unfit mother. He did, now my mother, who is mentally ill, could not take care of her children, at all, he had to do it, and he did, yet never did he prevent, erode, or damage the relationship we had with our mother, it just that she was not capable, people talked about her, and she was alone and frightened.
Family Law in the UK has destroyed many families, luckily I prevented them from destroying mine, I was not about to let it happen.
So, I would be interested in any stories, as a discussion.
Afternoon Europe.