~ Comparisons & Perfectionism ~ (19)
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But , they work. so try it sometime.
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i never needed to use affirmations...
in fact everyone i know has been doin their dammedest
to get me down off my high horse!!
but it won't work you see...
cuz i have always known i am the accumulation of my lineage...
and as a woman /man /human/all mixed into one ......
that just simply ROCKS!!!
be the best that you can be and do it for yourself! what more satisfying feeling is there when at the end of the dy you can look at what you have built and see a job well done
in fact everyone i know has been doin their dammedest
to get me down off my high horse!!
but it won't work you see...
cuz i have always known i am the accumulation of my lineage...
and as a woman /man /human/all mixed into one ......
that just simply ROCKS!!!
be the best that you can be and do it for yourself! what more satisfying feeling is there when at the end of the dy you can look at what you have built and see a job well done
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Well what ya see is what ya get so if i ask someone out and they reject me its because of their preferences not some problem with me.I will never again let another determine my self -esteem.So go ahead and ask James.You have nothing to lose and everything to gain.
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Just give it a try.I think once you get pass it ,you'll do fine.
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affirmations are strictly for yourself no one else.
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It's not about problems . It's saying good things to yourself. do ya know how many people hate themselves for various reasons. Come on ......................stop fussin at every damn thread folks
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i'm not fussin!!!!
i think James is wonderful.... and believe me we have had our tete-a-tete!!
and it wasn't so private either!!
i am actually surprised he feels this way, i have always found him confident and clearly outspoken , and i mean that in a good way!
all i can figure is that he's picky!
but hey what do i know??!!
i think James is wonderful.... and believe me we have had our tete-a-tete!!
and it wasn't so private either!!
i am actually surprised he feels this way, i have always found him confident and clearly outspoken , and i mean that in a good way!
all i can figure is that he's picky!
but hey what do i know??!!
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excuse me but i believe my post was an affirmation of myself there legs,not fussing at James.
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K!
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I think sometimes our problems with each other stem back to the fact that we have had bad experiences in our lives.
We have the longest period of dependency of any living creature. The more sophisticated our lives become, the more interrelated we become. It seems, in a sense, we spend our entire existence weaving one relationship into another until like the web of a spider, a complete pattern begins to form.
We depend upon our interactions with each other for growth, and sometimes these cause pain and place us in vulnerable situations.
Disconnections.
We feel disconnected by our pasts. Afraid to take the leap forward into the new.
Even knowing that we need each other, we continue through much of our lives to engage in thoughtless behavior toward one another which to me, only results in isolating us further.
How do we get past this?
By finding unconditional acceptance of each other?
We have the longest period of dependency of any living creature. The more sophisticated our lives become, the more interrelated we become. It seems, in a sense, we spend our entire existence weaving one relationship into another until like the web of a spider, a complete pattern begins to form.
We depend upon our interactions with each other for growth, and sometimes these cause pain and place us in vulnerable situations.
Disconnections.
We feel disconnected by our pasts. Afraid to take the leap forward into the new.
Even knowing that we need each other, we continue through much of our lives to engage in thoughtless behavior toward one another which to me, only results in isolating us further.
How do we get past this?
By finding unconditional acceptance of each other?
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Abra - you are not alone.
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I'm Not Worthy...I'm Not Worthy
is that an affirmation or an observation.....
is that an affirmation or an observation.....
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I can say from my own experiance that I once was not comfortable in the company of many.
But with time,knowledge and most of all growth,I came to realize that we are all on the same rector,(have shared space with what is so called ellite,and what is so called lower class,even less then).And to me all beings are equal until proven otherwise,I mean a car does not make a man,one shack may be another mans castle.
Whats of real importance I think is not who one is,or what one has,mentally,materially,but how real they are.That has been my realization,if your real,and I feel welcome,and you are warm,that not who you are or where you come from makes no diffrenc
The only ones you should be wanting to spend time with,or allowing into your space ABRA are those that you can be you with,the real you,your human and we are not perfect,we are just who we are.
Okay I am rambling and starting not to make sense,so I am outta here,see ya!:bye:
But with time,knowledge and most of all growth,I came to realize that we are all on the same rector,(have shared space with what is so called ellite,and what is so called lower class,even less then).And to me all beings are equal until proven otherwise,I mean a car does not make a man,one shack may be another mans castle.
Whats of real importance I think is not who one is,or what one has,mentally,materially,but how real they are.That has been my realization,if your real,and I feel welcome,and you are warm,that not who you are or where you come from makes no diffrenc
The only ones you should be wanting to spend time with,or allowing into your space ABRA are those that you can be you with,the real you,your human and we are not perfect,we are just who we are.
Okay I am rambling and starting not to make sense,so I am outta here,see ya!:bye:
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We need to have courage.
There can be no relationship in weakness. Timidity, uncertainty and fear of risk prevent us from coming together.
Relationships require us to be bold, to assert, to commit. Problems in human interaction are inevitable. There is no such thing as a perfect relationship, one which is utterly secure, happy and binding.
By the very nature of a relationship, this cannot be.
Can you expect others to always be happy with you?
When we form a relationship we must give up the desire of the perfect resolution. Disagreements and frustrations are inevitable. Some will desolve others will be overcome in time. Some may be insurmountable.
There can be no relationship in weakness. Timidity, uncertainty and fear of risk prevent us from coming together.
Relationships require us to be bold, to assert, to commit. Problems in human interaction are inevitable. There is no such thing as a perfect relationship, one which is utterly secure, happy and binding.
By the very nature of a relationship, this cannot be.
Can you expect others to always be happy with you?
When we form a relationship we must give up the desire of the perfect resolution. Disagreements and frustrations are inevitable. Some will desolve others will be overcome in time. Some may be insurmountable.
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You make single life sound extremely attractive.
The more I think about it, I really am quite happy alone. I'm not sure I would be happy with someone here placing demands on me.
I keep thinking in terms of not putting any demands on a partner if I had one. I mean, other than the obvious desire for honesty, but since I'm offering that willingly I expect it in return willingly and don't see that as a demand.
So I keep thinking about meeting a woman who is like me in that way. She simply has no demands of me.
I guess that's really a pretty silly dream. It just that it seems so plausible to me because I wouldn't place any demands on her, so why shouldn't I expect to find someone who like me? I can't be the only person on the planet who doesn't make demands of other people can I?
I haven't been angry for so long I can't even remember what it's like. Maybe I better stay single.
The more I think about it, I really am quite happy alone. I'm not sure I would be happy with someone here placing demands on me.
I keep thinking in terms of not putting any demands on a partner if I had one. I mean, other than the obvious desire for honesty, but since I'm offering that willingly I expect it in return willingly and don't see that as a demand.
So I keep thinking about meeting a woman who is like me in that way. She simply has no demands of me.
I guess that's really a pretty silly dream. It just that it seems so plausible to me because I wouldn't place any demands on her, so why shouldn't I expect to find someone who like me? I can't be the only person on the planet who doesn't make demands of other people can I?
I haven't been angry for so long I can't even remember what it's like. Maybe I better stay single.
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Why stay safe in a place?
I have always said that being alone and being lonely are quite different in meaning.
Tonight, I am alone and lonely.
Last night, I was alone and content with that.
So I keep dreaming of a man that will desire me with all of his being, passion and trust. Honesty and open, willing and wanting.
One that will not consider me something that has to be worked into his busy day/schedule, one that only has eyes for me.
One that I can admire and love, with dignity and respect. One that I can give myself totally to, with reckless abandonment, passion and yearning. Completely and only his.
Maybe my dreams are silly as well.
I have always said that being alone and being lonely are quite different in meaning.
Tonight, I am alone and lonely.
Last night, I was alone and content with that.
So I keep dreaming of a man that will desire me with all of his being, passion and trust. Honesty and open, willing and wanting.
One that will not consider me something that has to be worked into his busy day/schedule, one that only has eyes for me.
One that I can admire and love, with dignity and respect. One that I can give myself totally to, with reckless abandonment, passion and yearning. Completely and only his.
Maybe my dreams are silly as well.
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I think I have a serious problem in that when I think about asking a woman out I always compare myself to perfection, and then think to myself that "in theory" she can do better than me.
However, if I could get myself out of that stupid trap and start comparing myself to the practical alternatives that she really has available (other men in the real world) I'd feel extremely confident that she'd be better off with me!
Does anyone else have this problem of feeling inferior to perfection and therefore being a bit shy about portraying a strong image that you'd be a "good catch" even though you know full well that you'd be so much better for them than almost any other real person they could find?
How do we get past this? By using affirmations to try to convince our subconscious that we really are worthy? I already believe that I am worthy, yet for some reason I still hesitate to act confident about it when it comes to women. Does using affirmations cause a person to start acting "cocky" about what they already believe thus making them appear to others to be confident? I think that I'm so worried about becoming cocky that I'm afraid to act confident at all.
As you can probably tell I just come from the Affirmations thread
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