Being a Single Parent (325)
Arlene101: I sense a bit of hostility and that is fair enough. I am sure we all thought at some time or another we would like to escape but My son has brought me more joy than I could ever have imagined.
On the flip side, although I was a single parent, my ex husband and father to my son made many more sacrifices (I think) because he had him on the weekend so I don't know how he managed a social life.
I think we BOTH did a damn good job--although not perfect.
On the flip side, although I was a single parent, my ex husband and father to my son made many more sacrifices (I think) because he had him on the weekend so I don't know how he managed a social life.
I think we BOTH did a damn good job--although not perfect.
Finally someone with some "bolls" to reply...
I'm not really hostile at all...just giving my point of view on the matter...The more time i spend as being single...the more i wanna remain single...seeing just how twisted things have become out there...How do you measure joy if you're subject to one condition? Like raising your boy...
End of the day people are suppose to get married and remain married and life happily ever after....which obviously ain't the case...marriage became the victim of the modern world...
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X_REBEL: Finally someone with some "bolls" to reply...
I'm not really hostile at all...just giving my point of view on the matter...The more time i spend as being single...the more i wanna remain single...seeing just how twisted things have become out there...
How do you measure joy if you're subject to one condition? Like raising your boy...
End of the day people are suppose to get married and remain married and life happily ever after....which obviously ain't the case...marriage became the victim of the modern world...
I'm not really hostile at all...just giving my point of view on the matter...The more time i spend as being single...the more i wanna remain single...seeing just how twisted things have become out there...
How do you measure joy if you're subject to one condition? Like raising your boy...
End of the day people are suppose to get married and remain married and life happily ever after....which obviously ain't the case...marriage became the victim of the modern world...
dont you know plain talk is now hostile and confrontational?
get with it man!
hiiiiiiiiiiiiiii arlene
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mindfful: dont you know plain talk is now hostile and confrontational?
get with it man!
hiiiiiiiiiiiiiii arlene
get with it man!
hiiiiiiiiiiiiiii arlene
Nothing you can learn this rebel...
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Sommerauer71: We can't?
Hello you.
I have done this to death with you, Rebel. You and I have been down this road before.
You think I'm an old spinster wasted my prime rearing my children.
I think I am in my prime now, with my children settled, balanced and branching out into adulthood.
So we're a it stuck aren't we. You and I. Diametrically opposed one would say, good job I don't take offence very easily.
It does grate on my nerves that people make single parents out to be heroes though, as JB has posted, it does not have to be stressful or hard work rearing children, I have enjoyed being a mum and I am young enough to see them make a life for themselves.
Do you think that people should wait until they are older before having children?
And where do men fit into your theories?
Hello you.
I have done this to death with you, Rebel. You and I have been down this road before.
You think I'm an old spinster wasted my prime rearing my children.
I think I am in my prime now, with my children settled, balanced and branching out into adulthood.
So we're a it stuck aren't we. You and I. Diametrically opposed one would say, good job I don't take offence very easily.
It does grate on my nerves that people make single parents out to be heroes though, as JB has posted, it does not have to be stressful or hard work rearing children, I have enjoyed being a mum and I am young enough to see them make a life for themselves.
Do you think that people should wait until they are older before having children?
And where do men fit into your theories?
Yes i know...same old same old...
end of the day we both make sense...it's about one's attitude/mindset in life i'd say... What we make of life is up to ourselve...me trying to slow down the clock of the world...a fruitless battle i'd say...but what the heck...
Older people have more wisdom and composure when it comes to raising kids...that's just plain obvious...when you young you think you know wha you want only to discover 20 years down the track you were wrong... Like young mothers who thought playing with a doll again would be fun...only to tealize that the doll can't be stashed away in the cupboard every now and again...
The same goes for men of course but women have control over who they want to be the father of their kids...so it weighs heavier upon their shoulders i'd say...
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X_REBEL: No matter how you look at this...raising kids takes time and money...both things you loose and could have spend on yourself. Things never are the same(or at least for the next 21 years) after having them. You do have to share the prime of your living years with them. You get the joy of raising them and see themm grow up...but don't forget the "joy" of growing old whilst this happens...
Women should think twice before they open their legs and maybe they'd be better off...
Women should think twice before they open their legs and maybe they'd be better off...
I am SO sorry X REBEL that you feel this way....
How sad, I don´t need Credit for what I have done at all, I am VERY HAPPY...you seem like a Rebel alright.
That part about..."openinig ones legs"...is revolting!
I had a Daughter, FYI after 3 years of being in LOVE, if you even know what that means...
If he is a DEADBEAT....he is the LOSER....
Hope you understand!!!!!!!!!!
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In my case I found it much easier being a single parent and I obtained Law and Order in my home more easily then trying to live with someone who undermined my authority with my sons for the sake of he getting brownie points whilst he tried to fixate in their minds I was the baddie
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X_REBEL: Finally someone with some "bolls" to reply...
I'm not really hostile at all...just giving my point of view on the matter...The more time i spend as being single...the more i wanna remain single...seeing just how twisted things have become out there...
How do you measure joy if you're subject to one condition? Like raising your boy...
End of the day people are suppose to get married and remain married and life happily ever after....which obviously ain't the case...marriage became the victim of the modern world...
I'm not really hostile at all...just giving my point of view on the matter...The more time i spend as being single...the more i wanna remain single...seeing just how twisted things have become out there...
How do you measure joy if you're subject to one condition? Like raising your boy...
End of the day people are suppose to get married and remain married and life happily ever after....which obviously ain't the case...marriage became the victim of the modern world...
I don't measure 'JOY', I just enjoy the feeling and I am very happy with being single and will stay that way.
Marriage is meant for some and not others.
If yu think for one moment that my son is the only person or postionmade me happy, well that is just not true. Happy people bring me joy, the way I get along with my ex's-brings me joy and most of all---Happy stories bring me the most joy!
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Ashes: I am SO sorry X REBEL that you feel this way....
How sad, I don´t need Credit for what I have done at all, I am VERY HAPPY...you seem like a Rebel alright.
That part about..."openinig ones legs"...is revolting!
I had a Daughter, FYI after 3 years of being in LOVE, if you even know what that means...
If he is a DEADBEAT....he is the LOSER....
Hope you understand!!!!!!!!!!
How sad, I don´t need Credit for what I have done at all, I am VERY HAPPY...you seem like a Rebel alright.
That part about..."openinig ones legs"...is revolting!
I had a Daughter, FYI after 3 years of being in LOVE, if you even know what that means...
If he is a DEADBEAT....he is the LOSER....
Hope you understand!!!!!!!!!!
Sorry for not painting the truth with some glamour...but thats not my style...
Good to know your happy...although you do sound a bit bitter towards the dad...so you're not happy happy then...
but only 50% happy? Happiness and love is subjective to each and every individual...the younger you are the less you know about these things and the chances of stuffing things up, like you did, is greater... 
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Mercedes1: In my case I found it much easier being a single parent and I obtained Law and Order in my home more easily then trying to live with someone who undermined my authority with my sons for the sake of he getting brownie points whilst he tried to fixate in their minds I was the baddie
My son was still in diapers when we split but that never interferred with a thing.That is something my son told me.
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X_REBEL: Nothing you can learn this rebel... I always say a healthy debate is one without sparing the feelings of others ...
Well, if I amy correct you--No, we can't 'LEARN' Rebel anything but maybe 'TEACH' you some things.
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Mercedes1: In my case I found it much easier being a single parent and I obtained Law and Order in my home more easily then trying to live with someone who undermined my authority with my sons for the sake of he getting brownie points whilst he tried to fixate in their minds I was the baddie
Thats the worst case scenario i'd say...single parent mums raising boys...training their boys how to "successfully please" women one day....
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Arlene101: Well, if I amy correct you--No, we can't 'LEARN' Rebel anything but maybe 'TEACH' you some things.
Yes rebel is open minded for those who didn't know and is always willing to be taught new things...but you gotta work for it and use your brains and not your .... and breast..
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X_REBEL: Thats the worst case scenario i'd say...single parent mums raising boys...training their boys how to "successfully please" women one day....
WHOA there! I , for one and maybe mercedes thinks the same, I taught him to respect women, took him to his baseball game (as well as his dad) and damn it I could wrestle with him and throw a mean baseball.
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I left my ex when my daughter was almost 5. I didn't want her growing up to think that men treated women the way her father treated me. I had more self-esteem & self-worth than he gave me credit for. I also wanted her to know that a woman doesn't just stay with a man because she feels he's her superior & has to provide for her & the children.
She & I have a bond that will never be broken! We're like best friends. She calls me all the time, just to talk. We've had our rifts over the years, but we're always there for each other. And I don't love anyone in the world as I do my baby girl... well, and my grandbabies!
She & I have a bond that will never be broken! We're like best friends. She calls me all the time, just to talk. We've had our rifts over the years, but we're always there for each other. And I don't love anyone in the world as I do my baby girl... well, and my grandbabies!
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X_REBEL: Yes rebel is open minded for those who didn't know and is always willing to be taught new things...but you gotta work for it and use your brains and not your .... and breast..
Well
I think breasts fed many people around here.I am not going to change my clothes at this moment because of your comment either.
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sweetowen: I left my ex when my daughter was almost 5. I didn't want her growing up to think that men treated women the way her father treated me. I had more self-esteem & self-worth than he gave me credit for. I also wanted her to know that a woman doesn't just stay with a man because she feels he's her superior & has to provide for her & the children.
She & I have a bond that will never be broken! We're like best friends. She calls me all the time, just to talk. We've had our rifts over the years, but we're always there for each other. And I don't love anyone in the world as I do my baby girl... well, and my grandbabies!
She & I have a bond that will never be broken! We're like best friends. She calls me all the time, just to talk. We've had our rifts over the years, but we're always there for each other. And I don't love anyone in the world as I do my baby girl... well, and my grandbabies!
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Arlene101: WHOA there! I , for one and maybe mercedes thinks the same, I taught him to respect women, took him to his baseball game (as well as his dad) and damn it I could wrestle with him and throw a mean baseball. I also taught him that he cannot always have what he wants and that he must learn by mistakes or there would be no learning experience.
Mhhh...glad you brought it up...does the modern woman from the west deserve a man's respect????
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X_REBEL: Yes i know...same old same old... end of the day we both make sense...it's about one's attitude/mindset in life i'd say... What we make of life is up to ourselve...me trying to slow down the clock of the world...a fruitless battle i'd say...but what the heck... Older people have more wisdom and composure when it comes to raising kids...that's just plain obvious...when you young you think you know wha you want only to discover 20 years down the track you were wrong... Like young mothers who thought playing with a doll again would be fun...only to tealize that the doll can't be stashed away in the cupboard every now and again...
The same goes for men of course but women have control over who they want to be the father of their kids...so it weighs heavier upon their shoulders i'd say...
The same goes for men of course but women have control over who they want to be the father of their kids...so it weighs heavier upon their shoulders i'd say...
Yes we do, but don't you think you are generalising a little there?
I have made a good job of my life and I don't have any regrets over my decision to have my children young. I wished at the time my life was different, as I was so young, but it is the only life I knew. Regrets are a waste of emotion and I have had a good life with good people in there, so with me it is a fruitless argument. I have achieved many things, travelled and raised my children alongside their father who has contributed to the young people they are today.
Age and wisdom go along way to enabling us to make alanced decisions, I do that now and I know that my children and I did grow up together. But I had a good strong solid family behind me and while I have had difficulties, I have not come out bitter and twisted about life, completely the opposite.
Which is why your argument is no good with me, because I don't rise to what you see. Although I am happy to discuss with you.
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X_REBEL: Sorry for not painting the truth with some glamour...but thats not my style...
Good to know your happy...although you do sound a bit bitter towards the dad...so you're not happy happy then... but only 50% happy? Happiness and love is subjective to each and every individual...the younger you are the less you know about these things and the chances of stuffing things up, like you did, is greater...
Good to know your happy...although you do sound a bit bitter towards the dad...so you're not happy happy then... but only 50% happy? Happiness and love is subjective to each and every individual...the younger you are the less you know about these things and the chances of stuffing things up, like you did, is greater...
I am NOT bitter at all, Mr.Rebel, you sound sour and rude!
How can you say, Children mean MONEY and TIME taken away from Dating?????? So...Women and Dating mean more than your Children?????? Jeeeeeez!
Beyond me, and ridiculous!
Want to fight, are you cross? Go ahead, doubt you will beat my "GLAMOROUS" ways!
Go ahead....Children are a Blessing from God!
You sound VERY cross with life itself...
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We can't?
Hello you.
I have done this to death with you, Rebel. You and I have been down this road before.
You think I'm an old spinster wasted my prime rearing my children.
I think I am in my prime now, with my children settled, balanced and branching out into adulthood.
So we're a it stuck aren't we. You and I. Diametrically opposed one would say, good job I don't take offence very easily.
It does grate on my nerves that people make single parents out to be heroes though, as JB has posted, it does not have to be stressful or hard work rearing children, I have enjoyed being a mum and I am young enough to see them make a life for themselves.
Do you think that people should wait until they are older before having children?
And where do men fit into your theories?