Gas Lighting & Relationships (24)
sassy49senior: T/Y bestat, I was only with him for a little over 2 years. Guess when I started rebelling against things he wanted me to do and say he decided it was time to find another target.
My life is great every day that I wake up and know this is my time to shine and be Sassy at times. I love it and when and if that guy out there appears he will find an armfull of love and a lifetime of Sassy(JK)
My life is great every day that I wake up and know this is my time to shine and be Sassy at times. I love it and when and if that guy out there appears he will find an armfull of love and a lifetime of Sassy(JK)
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Yeah, I had a similar experience once. Someone I use to know made me feel like the "bad person" in every situation, no matter what the circumstances were. He had his whole family and some of my friends convinced for a very long time that I was the bad one. Some people still feel that way about me.
It took me a very long time to get past that. But I did and I am in a better place now.
I've learned a whole lot of things and realized that a lot (if not all) people go thru some form of this at least once. 
It took me a very long time to get past that. But I did and I am in a better place now.
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sassy49senior: T/Y I was seeing a therapist at the time and she would tell me I needed to leave this man. Then he would convince me to tell him what the therapist said and then would say how crazy she was. I finally quit seeing her. I am completely fine with who I have become and with the help of a wonderful person I know I am ready for that next road to travel. Either alone or with a special someone. Whichever the case may be.
I'm glad you've discovered that you were fine all along, and that he was the crazy one, Sassy. Controllers are not fun to live with, no matter what kind of control they're using. In my case, it was being told everything I did was wrong. I didn't know how to drive, how to cook, or even how to push a chair in right. I was lucky, I knew better, recognized what he was finally, and got out. I let my parents see it first, since it was my third marriage and about to be my third divorce, and they thought he was as wonderful as I had thought when we were dating...until all of this started after we married. I wanted them to see the real him that I had discovered before I told them I was filing for divorce...again.
I was also lucky because I started to get myself back together while I was still with him. It's not easy when someone has done this to you.
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Wasn't till the marriage ended that i was able to regain my self respect and my own identity. wouldn't go back for anything. Finally like who i am again, and am very happy. That is why i put in my profile something to the effect of looking for a man with self confidance.
Sassy, i am sending you a bouquet for moving on with your life.
T/Y bestat, I was only with him for a little over 2 years. Guess when I started rebelling against things he wanted me to do and say he decided it was time to find another target.
My life is great every day that I wake up and know this is my time to shine and be Sassy at times. I love it and when and if that guy out there appears he will find an armfull of love and a lifetime of Sassy(JK)