How come the nicest people seem to be the furthest away? (47)
G00nerInverness, Highland, Scotland UK2 Threads 83 PostsFates cruel twist or inevitable consequence of internet dating? Have you been lucky and found your soulmate locally or should distance be no object?
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Distance is my biggest obstacle.
Or, at least, I tell myself that it is.
Or, at least, I tell myself that it is.
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I'm right there with you 
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The world is a jerk sometimes.
Finding the person you 'click' with so well, and them being so far away.
But the world isn't as big as it used to be. Getting from one place to another is easier.
Still...
It is a consequence of the internet. You'd never have known the person you get along with so well without it.
Finding the person you 'click' with so well, and them being so far away.
But the world isn't as big as it used to be. Getting from one place to another is easier.
Still...
It is a consequence of the internet. You'd never have known the person you get along with so well without it.
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Very true, you're obviously a glass half full person
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IMHO, our life style have became so comfort that we look to have 1st encounter comfort in our relationship too.
WE (and I am talking about my self and ppl like me) have became so dependent on easy life that we don't want hard relationship. We need to meet someone that we "click" instantly without effort at all. someone we can easily fall in love and exactly become a match to our profile. each one of us say "this is me" and say "this is what I want" now let us make miraculous work and find a match.
Well, I think regardless of distance or method of contacts, there are nice and good ppl all around us. However, we need to do hard work to make things happen. we need to shape up our relationship together and in the process we are truly shaping our selves too.
it is a two way street and you must accept the fact that the other person is in the other direction but in another line. Otherwise, it is a head on collision.
it is ether you go along the other person line or the other person goes along yours. OR IMHO, make together your own line and drive together regardless who's in the driver seat, the point you have to accept changes in both parties and the best relationship is the one that makes or brings the better a person out of you.
WE (and I am talking about my self and ppl like me) have became so dependent on easy life that we don't want hard relationship. We need to meet someone that we "click" instantly without effort at all. someone we can easily fall in love and exactly become a match to our profile. each one of us say "this is me" and say "this is what I want" now let us make miraculous work and find a match.
Well, I think regardless of distance or method of contacts, there are nice and good ppl all around us. However, we need to do hard work to make things happen. we need to shape up our relationship together and in the process we are truly shaping our selves too.
it is a two way street and you must accept the fact that the other person is in the other direction but in another line. Otherwise, it is a head on collision.
it is ether you go along the other person line or the other person goes along yours. OR IMHO, make together your own line and drive together regardless who's in the driver seat, the point you have to accept changes in both parties and the best relationship is the one that makes or brings the better a person out of you.
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People do look at distance the biggest obstacle....if you not with in at most 1 hour drive from them your not interesting....
It is quite frustrating.....i met 4 girls on here all very interesting some more then others but all live outside EU
I am willing to travel, did it all my life and this time would be with the biggest scope of all.....but it seems they just dont care about true feelings....just a date.....
So yes distance for many is a huge obstacle, for few it is just a plane to catch ....
It is quite frustrating.....i met 4 girls on here all very interesting some more then others but all live outside EU
I am willing to travel, did it all my life and this time would be with the biggest scope of all.....but it seems they just dont care about true feelings....just a date.....
So yes distance for many is a huge obstacle, for few it is just a plane to catch ....
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Thanks Voyager. That was an insightful post.
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Whitesoul - If they were not that bothered then it was probably not worth the effort of travelling so far. Pleased to meet you
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Pleased to meet you to.... Its so good to hear some english again 
Not yet brought a flight ticket....I followed what the girls said on here, wait at least some time to....i'm on here not even a month so i'll have to wait, but the point wasnt that , the point was that most people look at distance an obstacle that cant be overcome, like (sorry can't remeber your name mate) said earlier, they neet to input too much effort to have a serious relation with somebody too far....
Not yet brought a flight ticket....I followed what the girls said on here, wait at least some time to....i'm on here not even a month so i'll have to wait, but the point wasnt that , the point was that most people look at distance an obstacle that cant be overcome, like (sorry can't remeber your name mate) said earlier, they neet to input too much effort to have a serious relation with somebody too far....
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G00ner: Fates cruel twist or inevitable consequence of internet dating? Have you been lucky and found your soulmate locally or should distance be no object?
If distance seems to be an obstacle when it comes to someone I "click with" I find myself pushing that person away so I honestly try not to get "involved" with people that are a distance away.
Yeah friends are nice, but sometimes it can suck when you feel as though it's someone you click with so well.
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What effort?
I mean really.
There are a myriad of ways to connect with another person.
Close or far.
Of course, the main difference it face to face.
I don't know about men.
But I've found most women are more interesting in knowing a person for his mind.
Taking allows that.
But maybe that's just me here.
I don't see much effort in talking to people, learning about them first.
*sigh*
What do I know, I just wander from room to room.
LOL
I mean really.
There are a myriad of ways to connect with another person.
Close or far.
Of course, the main difference it face to face.
I don't know about men.
But I've found most women are more interesting in knowing a person for his mind.
Taking allows that.
But maybe that's just me here.
I don't see much effort in talking to people, learning about them first.
*sigh*
What do I know, I just wander from room to room.
LOL
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whitesoul: People do look at distance the biggest obstacle....if you not with in at most 1 hour drive from them your not interesting....
It is quite frustrating.....i met 4 girls on here all very interesting some more then others but all live outside EU
I am willing to travel, did it all my life and this time would be with the biggest scope of all.....but it seems they just dont care about true feelings....just a date.....
So yes distance for many is a huge obstacle, for few it is just a plane to catch ....
It is quite frustrating.....i met 4 girls on here all very interesting some more then others but all live outside EU
I am willing to travel, did it all my life and this time would be with the biggest scope of all.....but it seems they just dont care about true feelings....just a date.....
So yes distance for many is a huge obstacle, for few it is just a plane to catch ....
"a plane to catch" for me is more like a trip to "guantanamo bay"
no way that I could even come close to USA or EU since 9/11.
before 9/11, I visited the entire EU and USA. It was the best travel I had in my life with a back bag and road ride.
However, since then it will take more than 6 month to request a visa and most of the time it is rejected even if it is for business purposes. never the less, the airport process and the people attitude towards you.
but any way, life will go on and truth will be reviled. in mean while, the good ppl will suffer.
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Raven0: The world is a jerk sometimes.
Finding the person you 'click' with so well, and them being so far away.
But the world isn't as big as it used to be. Getting from one place to another is easier.
Still...
It is a consequence of the internet. You'd never have known the person you get along with so well without it.
Finding the person you 'click' with so well, and them being so far away.
But the world isn't as big as it used to be. Getting from one place to another is easier.
Still...
It is a consequence of the internet. You'd never have known the person you get along with so well without it.
All so very true. I, too, am wondering if He an I shall ever meet, the distance seems so far.
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So yes distance for many is a huge obstacle, for few it is just a plane to catch ....
So true.......distance could keep you from getting to know your other half. I think if a person intrigues you to the extend that you would travel an hour, you should travel further as well!
So true.......distance could keep you from getting to know your other half. I think if a person intrigues you to the extend that you would travel an hour, you should travel further as well!
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Raven0: What effort?
I mean really.
There are a myriad of ways to connect with another person.
Close or far.
Of course, the main difference it face to face.
I don't know about men.
But I've found most women are more interesting in knowing a person for his mind.
Taking allows that.
But maybe that's just me here.
I don't see much effort in talking to people, learning about them first.
*sigh*
What do I know, I just wander from room to room.
LOL
I mean really.
There are a myriad of ways to connect with another person.
Close or far.
Of course, the main difference it face to face.
I don't know about men.
But I've found most women are more interesting in knowing a person for his mind.
Taking allows that.
But maybe that's just me here.
I don't see much effort in talking to people, learning about them first.
*sigh*
What do I know, I just wander from room to room.
LOL
Raven - You are right however there must come a point, having got to know a person within the constraints of the internet, that you curse your luck that it wasn't easier to do so face 2 face? (I don't mean physically necessarily, but just to establish a deeper level of understanding)
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G00ner: Raven - You are right however there must come a point, having got to know a person within the constraints of the internet, that you curse your luck that it wasn't easier to do so face 2 face? (I don't mean physically necessarily, but just to establish a deeper level of understanding)
True that.
It's why I play the lotto, if I win enough, travel won't be an issue so much. LOL
But for me, it takes time before I get to that point in the relationship.
And once that point is ever reached. I will go, or they will come here. (hopefully)
For me, in the end, I have no constraints to keep me in this place. But for others, that does become a huge issue.
And that's why I say;
The world is a jerk sometimes.
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voyager007: "a plane to catch" for me is more like a trip to "guantanamo bay"
no way that I could even come close to USA or EU since 9/11.
before 9/11, I visited the entire EU and USA. It was the best travel I had in my life with a back bag and road ride.
However, since then it will take more than 6 month to request a visa and most of the time it is rejected even if it is for business purposes. never the less, the airport process and the people attitude towards you.
but any way, life will go on and truth will be reviled. in mean while, the good ppl will suffer.
no way that I could even come close to USA or EU since 9/11.
before 9/11, I visited the entire EU and USA. It was the best travel I had in my life with a back bag and road ride.
However, since then it will take more than 6 month to request a visa and most of the time it is rejected even if it is for business purposes. never the less, the airport process and the people attitude towards you.
but any way, life will go on and truth will be reviled. in mean while, the good ppl will suffer.
This truly saddens me. All people of certain Ethnicities or from certain areas around the world are restricted b/c of 911. IDEALLY, this world should be mature enough to realize not all people of certain Ethnicities or from Certain areas of the world are cut from the same cloth as Terrorists.
I wonder if other Countries that have had Terrorist acts against them, are as restrictive. You know, even Americans will now have to have a passport to return home this year. I have heard no passport no admittance. I find this rather unsettling. I also then wonder what direction my Country is going in terms of the Global Neighborhood.
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Raven0: True that.
It's why I play the lotto, if I win enough, travel won't be an issue so much. LOL
But for me, it takes time before I get to that point in the relationship.
And once that point is ever reached. I will go, or they will come here. (hopefully)
For me, in the end, I have no constraints to keep me in this place. But for others, that does become a huge issue.
And that's why I say;
The world is a jerk sometimes.
It's why I play the lotto, if I win enough, travel won't be an issue so much. LOL
But for me, it takes time before I get to that point in the relationship.
And once that point is ever reached. I will go, or they will come here. (hopefully)
For me, in the end, I have no constraints to keep me in this place. But for others, that does become a huge issue.
And that's why I say;
The world is a jerk sometimes.
Good luck in the lottery. Hope you win
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