meeting IRL (135)

Have you ever met anyone from the net with romantic intentions? How was it? What happened? ...of course, don't name names or embarrass anyone ...but, come on .. spill the beans .. did love blossom? .. ..or did your eyes open to reality ..


funniest answer gets a prize ..

hey guiri met a few normally they went quite well ..for coffee and a chat ....i never meet with high expectations the idea has always been to meet for a chat and make a friend i think the funnist and most disastrous was this english chap who kept insisting we chat ..who tried to impress me by telling me he was really rich and who kept insisting we meet..in the end i caved and met him for coffee at lunch time ...he had told me he was 52 and i am sure he was about 70 ...and sporting a pair of false teeth...he told me that he was divorced and yet actually sported a wedding ring which i guess was impossible to take off.....he wanted to buy me lunch i just said excuse me i am going to the loo and just legged it LOL .....i think that was the worst and funniest

...that's hilarious ..

It's a great idea to meet as friends tho .. takes the pressure off so people can relax .. I like that ..

wonder when the poor bloke realized you had done a runner? probably asked a waitress to go check .. .. you still go to that café?

annoying aren't they? ,,, who the heck wants to spend their free time watching that stuff ..


hey Liakos .. have you ever arranged to met a woman in real life from the net?

I'm afraid my experiences aren't really all that funny, they are quite tragic actually. I met my ex, a TexMex guy who'd been here for 14 years, through a local dating site. In those days, they were free and this particular site was pleasant enough. I got loads of replies, many of them quite ok. I ended up meeting three over tea/coffee. I started to date my ex right away, as he seemed very keen. I was inexperienced in real life dating so everything proceeded way too fast... well those were the most stressful years of my life and I learned a lot. The love came to me gradually in his case but the break ups (yes a few...) were terrible. Anyway, later on when I started to look around again the sites were expensive or really sucked. I mostly got really idiotic responses. I met a couple of guys who were in this country; one of the same minority as myself and one Italian who was working here. Both were ok people but no one was tempted. I actually invited them home because I trust my intuition; everything went fine but they were downers anyway. There aren't many places around where you can just go for a cup of something and it's not fair to expect only that when someone travels far to see me. It was different in the capital, sigh.

Also met a German man who works in Finland quite often, now he really grilled me because of his own confused situation with a potential divorce but when we met he didn't seem that interested and it was end of story. He had been quite upfront about his situation though and actually I think I helped him see a lot of his issues with the ongoing separation process and stuff. So I guess I was a vigilante that day, haha. Not funny then, mind you. And now I think I was just stupid to even consider dating a guy like that. He was deeply spiritual but only really looking for a good lay when in town (well that I understood after a while only).

Then we have "the" date which was a trip to the US that lasted as long as my visa, i.e 3 months. That one taught me that I must look for the chemistry to be there AT ONCE or else take off. I stayed because I had this belief that if you give it time it will work out... it didn't. I also realized that I need someone my age who still has some ability to compromise and adapt. Yeah I learned A LOT. Didn't exactly help me feel less distressed about years just passing and me spending them dealing with all these stressful dates/encounters/correspondances. Though maybe I've become more discerning since my online contacts last only a very short time these days and I never get to meet anyone. As for finding someone in this country; I have given up.

Sorry, a bit long maybe. Now let's have a cuppa.

No no, not at all i assure you