Being Stood Up (183)
well sorry to hear about that hun... All I can say. and I say this in all sencerity......His LOSS... Just keep your chin up, obviously you can look at it as a blessing, as you said... you didn't have wastes years of togetherness to see his true colors.... You'll find someone hun.. that is for sure... now whether or not anyone will be good enough for you, well that's a different story...
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druidess6308: Nope...but my tubes are tied, and I'm 45, almost 46.
I'm far from frigid, though, Lush...and believe me, he knows that.
I'm far from frigid, though, Lush...and believe me, he knows that.
I knew the reason, just trying to make the thread a little crazy.
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Laura25: No, Dru, he is not worth your time, thought or emotional energy, unless you learn later that someting of an emergency nature had happened to him.
Which is highly unlikely. I would be little annoyed because of the lost time, but would just laugh it off, I think.
Which is highly unlikely. I would be little annoyed because of the lost time, but would just laugh it off, I think.
Eh, the only lost time is that of the time calling, texting, and emailing him up to now. I can live with that. Since he never confirmed, I didn't leave my house, other than an errand run earlier. And I agree, it's highly unlikely that there was any emergency that prevented him from calling.
And yep...laughing it off is exactly what I'm doing.
Nice to see you, Laura! 
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druidess6308: Right now I'm in the process of being stood up for a date. I am finding that my reaction to this is to laugh, and to be thankful that I'm seeing this man's true colors so early, before my heart got involved.
His text message yesterday indicated we were still on for today. Then no further contact to confirm time and location. It was supposed to be for lunch today, and it's now noon here. Obviously, he's rude and disrespectful, which means he's not worth any more of my thought or emotional energy.
So, how do you react when someone stands you up for a date? Do you let it get you down? Mope and cry about it? Or when you set up a first date, do you have other plans made just in case s/he doesn't show? Do you laugh it off or cry it out? Have you ever stood anyone up for a date? If so, why? (And no, I haven't.)
DD First you need to order lunch because that was also a reason you showed up. Secondly turn of the laptop His text message yesterday indicated we were still on for today. Then no further contact to confirm time and location. It was supposed to be for lunch today, and it's now noon here. Obviously, he's rude and disrespectful, which means he's not worth any more of my thought or emotional energy.
So, how do you react when someone stands you up for a date? Do you let it get you down? Mope and cry about it? Or when you set up a first date, do you have other plans made just in case s/he doesn't show? Do you laugh it off or cry it out? Have you ever stood anyone up for a date? If so, why? (And no, I haven't.)
Hey stuff happens .. Don'T be to quick to judge. there may be a reason that you don't know about yet. I know its easy to come to a quick conclusion but you must have chatted with this person a few times so don't loose trust so quickly. Should he prove to be unreliable then dump him but enjoy the lunch...
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Happened to me i laughed it off, but did text him telling him how rude and pathetic his behaviour was and that i was pleased i found out begore i wasted any time more time on him
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Sorry you got stood up Dru. As others have said his loss. I got stood up a couple of weeks ago, sent a total of 3 texts the final 1 ending in Goodbye and I had tried ringing but the phone just went straight to voicemail. I've picked myself up and moved on and for the past few days have been mailing another guy from another site, so far so good and we've started off with complete and utter honesty. He knows what I will and won't tolerate and he's still interested. There is someone out there for you and sooner or later you will meet. Never give up. Good things come to good people.
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sassy49senior: Was married in my teens so did not date but maybe 3 times.
Never stood up. But I have since joining 2 dating sites been led to believe a guy was interested only to find he disappeared.
Notice I did not say gentleman. Only use that word when it truly applies. Good for you Dru that you pretty much had him figured out and are just going on with your day.
Never stood up. But I have since joining 2 dating sites been led to believe a guy was interested only to find he disappeared.
Notice I did not say gentleman. Only use that word when it truly applies. Good for you Dru that you pretty much had him figured out and are just going on with your day.
Exactly...gentlemen have manners. And yes, I've had a "friend" do that to me, even, on here. I can't call him a gentleman either...though he fooled a lot of us into thinking so for a long time.
I've actually rarely been stood up in my life. And when it's happened before, now that I think about it, I usually just went out and enjoyed myself anyway. If we were to see a movie, I'd go see it, and then go out after. But I still hurt worse than I am now.
I'm not in a rush for anything, and I'm learning how to pick up on clues early on. If the sun pokes out, I'll go out and work in my garden...it'll be nice weather for it then.
Love you, Sassy.
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Shirley49WV: Sorry that this happened to you Dru But it is better to have found out what he is like now rather then later on.
And I agree with others .... it is his loss.
Thank you, Sis. And I agree with others .... it is his loss.
And yes, it is. 
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druidess6308: Eh, the only lost time is that of the time calling, texting, and emailing him up to now. I can live with that. Since he never confirmed, I didn't leave my house, other than an errand run earlier. And I agree, it's highly unlikely that there was any emergency that prevented him from calling.
And yep...laughing it off is exactly what I'm doing. Nice to see you, Laura!
I thought u were in a resturant with ur laptop waiting on him????And yep...laughing it off is exactly what I'm doing. Nice to see you, Laura!
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angelface123: He's just rude. Consider yourself lucky u found out now.
Yes I've been stood up before. When it sinks in after u worry that something happened u get mad. Then your BRAIN start to work
Happy You got rid of a jerk
Dru dear he might have early Alzheimers and forgot You know me I'd ask him jusst that if I ever talked to him again Go buy some new shoes!!!
Yes I've been stood up before. When it sinks in after u worry that something happened u get mad. Then your BRAIN start to work
Happy You got rid of a jerk
Dru dear he might have early Alzheimers and forgot You know me I'd ask him jusst that if I ever talked to him again Go buy some new shoes!!!
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angelface123: I thought u were in a resturant with ur laptop waiting on him????
Nope. Time wasn't confirmed, nor did I get to give him directions, so I never left the house.------ This thread is Archived ------
druidess6308: Nope. Time wasn't confirmed, nor did I get to give him directions, so I never left the house.
He is probably shamelessly having steak somewhere.
Hey, maybe he lost his bus fare.
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Tater: well sorry to hear about that hun... All I can say. and I say this in all sencerity......His LOSS... Just keep your chin up, obviously you can look at it as a blessing, as you said... you didn't have wastes years of togetherness to see his true colors.... You'll find someone hun.. that is for sure... now whether or not anyone will be good enough for you, well that's a different story...
Aw, Tater...that was sweet. And I know that when it's meant to be, I'll find a really good one. It's why I'm not that worried or stressed, or whatever, over this. And yes, I've been through the part about wasting years, so I'm glad it happened now...before I wasted weeks or months, even. Love ya, Tate.------ This thread is Archived ------
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Nope. Time wasn't confirmed, nor did I get to give him directions, so I never left the house.
Nothing lost then . Have you called the resturant to see if he's there? You might be standing him up. Not everyone carries a laptop around on a date
Nothing lost then . Have you called the resturant to see if he's there? You might be standing him up. Not everyone carries a laptop around on a date
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This thread will look a proper mess if it turns out he's been in some kind of accident.
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angelface123: Nope. Time wasn't confirmed, nor did I get to give him directions, so I never left the house.
Nothing lost then . Have you called the resturant to see if he's there? You might be standing him up. Not everyone carries a laptop around on a date
Nothing lost then . Have you called the resturant to see if he's there? You might be standing him up. Not everyone carries a laptop around on a date
They had not agreed on a time or place, just lunch. Please read the beginning of the thread.
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Good4U2: DD First you need to order lunch because that was also a reason you showed up. Secondly turn of the laptop Hey stuff happens .. Don'T be to quick to judge. there may be a reason that you don't know about yet. I know its easy to come to a quick conclusion but you must have chatted with this person a few times so don't loose trust so quickly. Should he prove to be unreliable then dump him but enjoy the lunch...
First, I was already losing my trust in him. Second, I need to make my lunch soon, I'm at home...and on my desktop, not a laptop. Third, I never judge quickly. I've watched this coming, so it wasn't a surprise...just like being too near the beach when a tidal wave is coming, you see it happening, so you're not surprised when you get wet. And I've seen enough of tidal waves on TV to realize that the best thing one can do if you're that close to it is stand there and wait, and then swim when it hits.
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morgan5: Happened to me i laughed it off, but did text him telling him how rude and pathetic his behaviour was and that i was pleased i found out begore i wasted any time more time on him
Now, that is most likely how I'll respond if he does text me or email me again.
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I was stood up and I was angry. I waited almost 45 minutes for him at the diner. When he didn't show up I called him. He said I was the one that never made it clear the date was still on. I think you know me well enogh that I am a detail person and would have made it clear the time and place for us to meet.
Certainly wasn't hurt. Just mad as hell that I went out of my way for a jerk.
You implied that you will tell him off if he calls. Will you really do that or will you listen to his reason and if it's a sensible excuse, will you make plans to meet him again? They say everybody deserves a second chance. Does he?
Dru, I didn't say that you said you would be nasty. I said, you would tell him off. Big difference.
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I didn't say that you said I'd get nasty, either. I was clarifying that because many perceive "telling someone off" as being nasty.