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tainogirlTrincity,West Indies,, Trinidad and Tobago215 Threads 2 Polls 3,777 PostsAnnouce that you had found someone on CS in the forums? I am of two minds about doing that and I find myself leaning towards no. I am at my core a very private person and I like minimum fuss and drama, (but then that is my personality). I could probably see myself emailing a few people privately with the news but to make a big deal about the whole thing - well I don't know if that's my style. I also like minimum embarassment too if it (the relationship) goes south for the winter soon after a big announcement. While I understand that it might give hope to others, what happens if I've made this announcement a couple times with different people and all of the relationship fizz, do I then have to annouce that they were flops? I guess for some the joy can override such concerns but I like to keep my shame tree very small. JMHO. What would you do?
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"If I did find someone on the forums,I'd hold
off until we knew for sure that we want to
be with eachother,to live with eachother,
to enjoy life together and to love eachother."
off until we knew for sure that we want to
be with eachother,to live with eachother,
to enjoy life together and to love eachother."
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Polarbutterfly: "If I did find someone on the forums,I'd hold
off until we knew for sure that we want to
be with eachother,to live with eachother,
to enjoy life together and to love eachother."
i'm with you on this point thanks,good morn to youoff until we knew for sure that we want to
be with eachother,to live with eachother,
to enjoy life together and to love eachother."
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If we had only talked on here and not met in RL a definate NO.
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DonDon67: i'm with you on this point thanks,good morn to you
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Make a huge public disclosure of my private life, my new-found "love"???....you must be kidding....really.
What for?....the only reason can be to gain attention....I hope I'm more mature than that...and to declare undying love before you've even met the person is frankly, ridiculous....jmo..
...Also ridiculous is coming here to declare yourself newly broken up....WTF...unless of course, you enjoy soap operas....and acting in one...
What for?....the only reason can be to gain attention....I hope I'm more mature than that...and to declare undying love before you've even met the person is frankly, ridiculous....jmo..
...Also ridiculous is coming here to declare yourself newly broken up....WTF...unless of course, you enjoy soap operas....and acting in one...
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Lagoona22: Make a huge public disclosure of my private life, my new-found "love"???....you must be kidding....really.
What for?....the only reason can be to gain attention....I hope I'm more mature than that...and to declare undying love before you've even met the person is frankly, ridiculous....jmo..
...Also ridiculous is coming here to declare yourself newly broken up....WTF...unless of course, you enjoy soap operas....and acting in one...
What for?....the only reason can be to gain attention....I hope I'm more mature than that...and to declare undying love before you've even met the person is frankly, ridiculous....jmo..
...Also ridiculous is coming here to declare yourself newly broken up....WTF...unless of course, you enjoy soap operas....and acting in one...
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ouchhh,u hit me dear
i never like what happen to me here before,i would love and like that private must be private...hummm...but good my mind is still open....
i never like what happen to me here before,i would love and like that private must be private...hummm...but good my mind is still open....------ This thread is Archived ------
I've made the mistake of making it public before meeting them in person twice, only to have them fizz out. I agree, Taino, that if it happened here again, I would keep it quiet, at least until we did meet. I think that's best. But after we met and knew it was going to work, I'd share it publicly because I wouldn't be able to keep it quiet. I've shared everything here, my joy and my pain, because everyone here is so wonderfully supportive. I wouldn't be able to keep it quiet forever. I know me. I can't do it when I'm trying to do so.
To each their own, though. I never get upset at the ones who do keep it quiet, and I rejoice with the couples who make it public here, and if it fizzes, I support them, too.
It's all part of life here on CS...which is why I love it so much!
To each their own, though. I never get upset at the ones who do keep it quiet, and I rejoice with the couples who make it public here, and if it fizzes, I support them, too.
It's all part of life here on CS...which is why I love it so much!
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I brought this up in a thread the other day, sharing my feelings on coming back to CS after having a break, and what I had seen on the forums over the course of the last couple months. Went as follows:-
"I have had nice things happening in my personal life recently - THANKS TO CS FOR THAT!!, but I have decided not to broadcast them on the site for a couple of reasons. One, is that they are personal to me, and also that I feel it is ridiculous to claim you are “taken” by a fellow member you have NEVER EVEN MET, or only JUST MET. I personally would rather wait until things have become “real”, as in you have actually met the person, and spent a DECENT period of time getting to know each other in real life situations before going public. I have seen people on here one week still apparently looking for that “special someone”, to literally, the next week claiming they are taken and that they have found their soulmate... Or someone do a “Goodbye Thread or a Congratulate Us Thread”, and then the next week or so, be back on and single..Its crazy, and anyone who TRULY believes this could happen could be construed as being naïve and unrealistic, surely??"
It was just an observation on what I had seen going on.
I agree with Dru, also, however, each to their own in this world..
"I have had nice things happening in my personal life recently - THANKS TO CS FOR THAT!!, but I have decided not to broadcast them on the site for a couple of reasons. One, is that they are personal to me, and also that I feel it is ridiculous to claim you are “taken” by a fellow member you have NEVER EVEN MET, or only JUST MET. I personally would rather wait until things have become “real”, as in you have actually met the person, and spent a DECENT period of time getting to know each other in real life situations before going public. I have seen people on here one week still apparently looking for that “special someone”, to literally, the next week claiming they are taken and that they have found their soulmate... Or someone do a “Goodbye Thread or a Congratulate Us Thread”, and then the next week or so, be back on and single..Its crazy, and anyone who TRULY believes this could happen could be construed as being naïve and unrealistic, surely??"
It was just an observation on what I had seen going on.
I agree with Dru, also, however, each to their own in this world..
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Until I had him in my hot little hand for good, I'd NEVER announce it. It would be too embarrassing if it didn't work out.
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No i wouldnt say a thing..
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when her purse is on the dresser ,shoes under bed, makeup on pillow,balony an eggs on the brecy table, maybe truckers supper<<hot tongue and cold shoulder>>when i git home then maybe i put it on here LOUD.
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What would i do????
have some vodka........and look for the next
(one is never enough)
have some vodka........and look for the next
(one is never enough)
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Only after I meet him in real and I am sure we will together and have a long relation then maybe I post here but until then has no sense,the fact someone has here a date on net and they just chat this doesn't mean they are together,the meeting in real and then other dates and feelings in real says all.
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tainogirl: Annouce that you had found someone on CS in the forums? I am of two minds about doing that and I find myself leaning towards no. I am at my core a very private person and I like minimum fuss and drama, (but then that is my personality). I could probably see myself emailing a few people privately with the news but to make a big deal about the whole thing - well I don't know if that's my style. I also like minimum embarassment too if it (the relationship) goes south for the winter soon after a big announcement. While I understand that it might give hope to others, what happens if I've made this announcement a couple times with different people and all of the relationship fizz, do I then have to annouce that they were flops? I guess for some the joy can override such concerns but I like to keep my shame tree very small. JMHO. What would you do?
Great point, if you announce several times your in a relationship and continually fail are you damaged? a player? or just human? But you would be being honest.
You can't please everyone but you can be honest and if people don't respect that? that is there issue to deal with.
Congratulations?
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I would post it on here because
1,I would want to shout it from the rooftops
2,It would be good for others to see that it works and give some encouragement.
This story is true......
I met someone off the a forum site we started chatting on 9th Dec then we met on new years eve we hit it off.
I said i wanted to remain on the site and asked if we could have a picture done of us both and put that on our profiles saying thanks ******* we met on this site.
I thought it would be a good thing and i thought it would reassure her and prove i wanted her but......
She wouldn't do it she said she wanted to stay on the site incase we broke up which i thought was negative,anyway we both stayed on me i was honest with people telling them I'd met someone she on the otherhand kept her phone on silent etc etc and eventually we split up because i couldn't trust her and i think a relationship needs to be built on trust it's a key factor for me.
1,I would want to shout it from the rooftops
2,It would be good for others to see that it works and give some encouragement.
This story is true......
I met someone off the a forum site we started chatting on 9th Dec then we met on new years eve we hit it off.
I said i wanted to remain on the site and asked if we could have a picture done of us both and put that on our profiles saying thanks ******* we met on this site.
I thought it would be a good thing and i thought it would reassure her and prove i wanted her but......
She wouldn't do it she said she wanted to stay on the site incase we broke up which i thought was negative,anyway we both stayed on me i was honest with people telling them I'd met someone she on the otherhand kept her phone on silent etc etc and eventually we split up because i couldn't trust her and i think a relationship needs to be built on trust it's a key factor for me.
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No, at least not right away. We would probably keep it private until I don't know when. I wouldn't be ashamed if she wanted to be open or public about it... my part would want to keep it on the low. But if it became serious and a sure thing, I would want everyone to know, just to show that it is possible, which we all already know it is.
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geminiman61: I would post it on here because
1,I would want to shout it from the rooftops
2,It would be good for others to see that it works and give some encouragement.
This story is true......
I met someone off the a forum site we started chatting on 9th Dec then we met on new years eve we hit it off.
I said i wanted to remain on the site and asked if we could have a picture done of us both and put that on our profiles saying thanks ******* we met on this site.
I thought it would be a good thing and i thought it would reassure her and prove i wanted her but......
She wouldn't do it she said she wanted to stay on the site incase we broke up which i thought was negative,anyway we both stayed on me i was honest with people telling them I'd met someone she on the otherhand kept her phone on silent etc etc and eventually we split up because i couldn't trust her and i think a relationship needs to be built on trust it's a key factor for me.
1,I would want to shout it from the rooftops
2,It would be good for others to see that it works and give some encouragement.
This story is true......
I met someone off the a forum site we started chatting on 9th Dec then we met on new years eve we hit it off.
I said i wanted to remain on the site and asked if we could have a picture done of us both and put that on our profiles saying thanks ******* we met on this site.
I thought it would be a good thing and i thought it would reassure her and prove i wanted her but......
She wouldn't do it she said she wanted to stay on the site incase we broke up which i thought was negative,anyway we both stayed on me i was honest with people telling them I'd met someone she on the otherhand kept her phone on silent etc etc and eventually we split up because i couldn't trust her and i think a relationship needs to be built on trust it's a key factor for me.
Its a different matter when you have actually MET someone in PERSON, and its going well, and you want to broadcast it. Great!
Its a bit premature, however, dont you think to broadcast that you are taken and no longer looking, when you have not even met the person? I know I'd feel damn stupid if I did that, and then I met them and the sight of them made my skin crawl, or visa versa...it happens...
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i say to keep it quite until you are sure, if you want to announce you have found someone of interest then maybe,but you don't have to say to what extent your relationship has advanced...... that way people know but yet they don't
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