If I were a carpenter and you were a lady ( Archived) (19)

This is a line from a song I used to hear as a kid. The words are very interesting. I never really thought about it much until the other day while reading some thread. Here is a video for the song:




Do women really judge men by their profession and the amount of money they make? Why do so many men believe women mainly want them for their money? When there is a divorce or separation again there is talk of women going after money. The truth as I see it is that men place A LOT of importance on money, a lot of men measure themselves by how much they make, the toys they can buy, the kind of women they can attract with it and when love goes, guess what? - money is gonna figure in their somewhere. Now don't get me wrong money is am important TOOL to get the things we need and want in life, but sometimes I wonder if men calling so much attention to it, does not unknowingly ring the dinnner bells of many a gold digger. Yes money is important to women, that's why so many of us go out there and try to make some, bills to pay and kids to feed. Many women will be with you men no matter the size of your pocket and yes there are also those that will want a man pulling down a certain size salary. Is this any different from men who will ONLY go out with a certain type of woman? Perhaps men need to explain the importance they place on money and why it is such a big deal breaker or maker in relationships. Lets hear what the men have to say.

Taino, from my years of experience, men learn at an early age that they are supposed to be the provider. That is why money is important to them and that is also JMO. Men want to feel that they are making a contribution to the family because if they lose their job, they feel they let the family down.

Definitely some women are attracted to the size of the paycheck he makes. In profiles it asks what your salary is. A man or woman can put anything there. If it's inflated, the person is trying to attract a certain type of person.

Alot of men want money........ because they know with MONEY, they have alot better chance of getting more women to choose from and/ or getting the one they want, yes, many women CAN be bought.. You can't buy their love, but you can buy their bodies

I also agree with the providing part..

OP.. just look at some of the things men but when they have alot of money... nice house, nice cars, nice boats, nice motorcycles, most women like those things, that is why alot of men buy them...to attract women..

yes women do judge men by their professions & the money they make....i know this for a fact because i have experienced the downside of this even though i have a decent job....the last woman i dated made more money than me, probably a lot more.....when we were dating i asked her if she told her friends about me. Her response was yes both the good & bad....evidently my career & my having 3 sons living with me were the 'bad'.....(she was single with no kids)....of course she said that was just her friends saying that, but yanno these are the prejudices some of us guys have to overcome....

As Snuggs says, it has been traditional for the man to be the bread winner and the woman to be the home maker and therefore the focus of the man to make good money to feed and house his family and provide security is his goal. And old habits die hard, just like the woman's traditional expectation to be provided for.

Times are changing of course and woman are now far more financially independant weather that be through a career or social services. I did find it interesting that in a recent poll when women were asked if they would financially suport their partner, the general consensus was NO. They would at least have to enter a relationship on a 50/50 financial basis, no woman would be prepared to carry a partner. ( or very few I seem to recall )

It is inherantly natural for a man to put importance on earnings
and it seems like it had better stay that way !