OK I NEED AN HONEST OPINION (94)
Honesty is the best policy Sarge. If someone has something negative to say about your family/life style, they aren't for you anyhow. Blow it off. Please, never feel you owe an explaination to anyone on here, or anywhere else, about your choice to have or not to have children.
No negativity from me!!
In fact, bring them over to my back yard anytime, the more the merrier at my house. Everybody in the pool!!
No negativity from me!!
In fact, bring them over to my back yard anytime, the more the merrier at my house. Everybody in the pool!!
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sargentmcdog: I chose to be completely honest in my profile about having 6 kids. All i seem to be getting is mean E-mails bashing me for having 6 kids.
Well let me clarify, all 6 kids are from the same mother and marriage of 19 yrs of which the divorce will be final soon.
I thought the honesty would have been met with appreciation rather than opposition. I just didnt want any surprises thrown in at a later time that might be a deal breaker.
My question is this: Should I have left that part off or did I do the right thing by being honest up front?
Im not asking for someone to tell me what to do, I just want some honest opinions as to if being that honest was a good or a bad thing.
Thanks
Well let me clarify, all 6 kids are from the same mother and marriage of 19 yrs of which the divorce will be final soon.
I thought the honesty would have been met with appreciation rather than opposition. I just didnt want any surprises thrown in at a later time that might be a deal breaker.
My question is this: Should I have left that part off or did I do the right thing by being honest up front?
Im not asking for someone to tell me what to do, I just want some honest opinions as to if being that honest was a good or a bad thing.
Thanks
Honest opinion? I think you did the right thing and I dont know who the hell is bashing you for it but they obviously can't see past their own noses. Ur kids come first and you happen to have a lot
- so it's totally right that you bring them up at the very beginning...I guess some people just CANT handle the truth...
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You were blessed with kids, be glad of that and exclude anyone who can't deal with it! Good for you! But then, I hear voices too. lol. Good luck, you'll be fine. You must have something good to offer, you managed 19years with someone, that shows a lot of depth and are divorcing that shows the ability to realize the unpleasant truths that life sometimes throws at us.
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Hia,
I would like to say to you well done firstly on your honesty and secondly on being the proud father of 6 six.
I think you did the right thing, at least it is out there and if people want to pass you by because of it well then they weren't for you in the first place. My motto is "honesty is the best policy".
You cannot change your personal history and i'm sure you dont regret your children.
Best of luck
I would like to say to you well done firstly on your honesty and secondly on being the proud father of 6 six.
I think you did the right thing, at least it is out there and if people want to pass you by because of it well then they weren't for you in the first place. My motto is "honesty is the best policy".
You cannot change your personal history and i'm sure you dont regret your children.
Best of luck
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I came from a family of three kids{and two half siblings} and my mom babysat several others. They were nothing short of brothers and sisters. My family probably ranges in the neighborhood of twenty siblings. Tho the blood is not the same they are still family. I grew up living with them. I think it is good that i did.
dennis
dennis
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gingerb: You knew before you asked this question that honesty is best. You also knew that people with limited thinking are everywhere , including here on CS, and that the issue of your having 6 kids would provoke negative responses from some of the more idiotic and limited ones.
See? I am not insulting your intelligence here. Now don't insult ours, and admit that this thread was really about just getting some positive attention for a change, because with 6 kids and a break up of a relationship behind you, and all that goes with that, you can't have been getting a lot of anything positive for a while.
Now take some time out for you and bask in a little warmth on the threads and heal a little. Welcome to the forums.
See? I am not insulting your intelligence here. Now don't insult ours, and admit that this thread was really about just getting some positive attention for a change, because with 6 kids and a break up of a relationship behind you, and all that goes with that, you can't have been getting a lot of anything positive for a while.
Now take some time out for you and bask in a little warmth on the threads and heal a little. Welcome to the forums.
Probably the most honest answer to your thread.
We all have our demons in one way or another. Just ignore those emails and relax. There is somebody out there for sure, whether you find her or not is a different matter. That´s the difficult issue, not the fact that you have six kids.
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How do you hide 6 kids???? Disguise them a flower pots???
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Honesty is the best way to go and some people do lack the social filters needed to respond to others in an acceptable manner. I think there are some conditions for use that would require people to be civil. If I got an exceptional rude email, I would report it. Being on here is in no way a open invitation for people to dump all over others because they are unhappy. One can express feelings in a kind tone. Best of luck, I say a prayer for your success.
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In response to: I chose to be completely honest in my profile about having 6 kids. All i seem to be getting is mean E-mails bashing me for having 6 kids.
Well let me clarify, all 6 kids are from the same mother and marriage of 19 yrs of which the divorce will be final soon.
I thought the honesty would have been met with appreciation rather than opposition. I just didnt want any surprises thrown in at a later time that might be a deal breaker.
My question is this: Should I have left that part off or did I do the right thing by being honest up front?
Im not asking for someone to tell me what to do, I just want some honest opinions as to if being that honest was a good or a bad thing.
Thanks
Well let me clarify, all 6 kids are from the same mother and marriage of 19 yrs of which the divorce will be final soon.
I thought the honesty would have been met with appreciation rather than opposition. I just didnt want any surprises thrown in at a later time that might be a deal breaker.
My question is this: Should I have left that part off or did I do the right thing by being honest up front?
Im not asking for someone to tell me what to do, I just want some honest opinions as to if being that honest was a good or a bad thing.
Thanks
Nothing wrong with being upfront about it. How could you get away with not bringing it up with someone you want to possibly court?
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Your profile raises more questions than it answers. What happened to the woman who bore you six kids? Why should any woman believe your side of the story when you had six kids with someone else, broke up with her, and now it looks like she has custody. The fact that you are still legally married is slightly off putting. Then, having girls and boys nights out is acceptable. Telling your new potential mate you don't want questions asked or jealousy makes it look like you're basically saying you'll be out cheating and if the girl asks about it you will turn the tables and start accusing her. So, it doesn't look to me as if the KIDS are the part that makes alarm bells go off in women's minds. If there is a good explanation - by all means - put it in your profile. But be warned. If you lie, your next girl friend will figure it out.
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I was thinking, sargentmcdog, maybe if you gave your kids new nicknames, you could make great use of them to find yourself a woman within a fortnight.
Call them:
Dishwasher
Shoeshine Boy
Potato Peeler
Windowcleaner
Cook
and
Mop
You’ll be having women flocking to get that crew over to their house.
Either that or you could sell them all to a traveling band of gypsies.
I’m only trying to help!
Call them:
Dishwasher
Shoeshine Boy
Potato Peeler
Windowcleaner
Cook
and
Mop
You’ll be having women flocking to get that crew over to their house.
Either that or you could sell them all to a traveling band of gypsies.
I’m only trying to help!
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Grandepensees: Honesty is always good policy as far as finding a date, m8.
So you've got 6 kids, it's not a crime nor is it immoral, especially with the same woman.
Look at it this way: At least, you know who not to send flowers to
Do not let the haters get to you and be who you truly are. You will be the better for it.
So you've got 6 kids, it's not a crime nor is it immoral, especially with the same woman.
Look at it this way: At least, you know who not to send flowers to
Do not let the haters get to you and be who you truly are. You will be the better for it.
... agree...
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Since you state in your profile that you are looking for long term, I suppose you should disclose that info... now were it just causal dating or email, friendship.. that would be different.. IMO.. 
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QuietStormF: Since you state in your profile that you are looking for long term, I suppose you should disclose that info... now were it just causal dating or email, friendship.. that would be different.. IMO..
I agree these are the thing that NEED TO BE UPFRONT,
Tho Make sure your last Relationships are Closed as well
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HotrodLarrys: I agree these are the thing that NEED TO BE UPFRONT,
Tho Make sure your last Relationships are Closed as well
Hi Larry..and of course, I think it is probably a good idea to wait a certain amount of time, before starting a new releationship, unless we are just talking friendships here.. Tho Make sure your last Relationships are Closed as well
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QuietStormF: Hi Larry..and of course, I think it is probably a good idea to wait a certain amount of time, before starting a new releationship, unless we are just talking friendships here..
Yes i do agree time and closure is a must, not to jump out from one right into another.....If i remember the profile says Separated, that needs to be healed, for him to move on... would be the best to work it out with his X and keep the family togather, many times that isnt going to happen , sorry to say
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Being honest its always better . But some times especialy sites like these better not to give too much info .We are not like putting our self in a window show case with all the extras that we have . Those will only be shown to people who are interested in use
Good luck for the future , Shame your going through divorce after having 19yrs of marriage with 6 beutiful kids out from this marriage
Good luck for the future , Shame your going through divorce after having 19yrs of marriage with 6 beutiful kids out from this marriage
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tutta: Being honest its always better . But some times especialy sites like these better not to give too much info .We are not like putting our self in a window show case with all the extras that we have . Those will only be shown to people who are interested in use
Good luck for the future , Shame your going through divorce after having 19yrs of marriage with 6 beutiful kids out from this marriage
Good luck for the future , Shame your going through divorce after having 19yrs of marriage with 6 beutiful kids out from this marriage
yes it would be good if it would workout, may even consider counciling
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In my opinion,,honesty is the best policy.
Having 6 kids is a personal choice and is no elses business unless they are interested in you...then whole new ball game.
Stay true to yourself and stay honest...the right lady will accept all that and more.
Good Luck.....Kels
Having 6 kids is a personal choice and is no elses business unless they are interested in you...then whole new ball game.
Stay true to yourself and stay honest...the right lady will accept all that and more.
Good Luck.....Kels
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