The mistakes we make come back to haunt us. People get hurt and lifes get altered. Plans change, hope fades, and you suddenly realize that your dreams are just that... dreams.
When you are younger you get pictures of you and a pretty girl as your wife that you care about. Living in a nice little house, with a cute pet and a baby on the way. Everybody smiling and laughing, then reality slaps you in the face. You meet a girl, passion flows, instinct over-rules judgement. Few days pass and you realize that this isn't really the girl you want. You care about her but you aren't in love with her. Wait, that's not the best part; there might be a baby on the way from her?
Not sure why I posted this but I really have nobody to really vent to. I'll stop whining now.
life takes detours, and they aren't necessarily the ones that you would have personally chosen...however...later, you realize they were the ones that you were MEANT to take. things you would have never have been blessed with seeing...are sometimes on that road.
Natural consequences of actions ... sometimes are short and sweet and sometimes they result in a baby. Hindsight is always 20/20 but all you can do is deal with the reality of what is.
The girl needs to get tested ASAP and after that a paternity test if she is in fact pregnant and decides to keep the baby. I just went through this with my daughter - it ends up she was just late but the reality is that everyone panics and it doesn't help. Your life is not over or ruined it may have just changed.
You are more than welcome to write me as well Johnny.
Sending you hugs of encouragement and know that I care.
cutelildevilsmomportsmouth, New Hampshire USA7,772 posts
Jon get the tests and if indeed a baby is in the works discuss your options together.It is very important no matter what happens to keep the lines of communication open.Big hugs to you and mistakes are how we learn.
Johnny sweetheart you know we are here if you need a shoulder...I'm sorry that's all we can offer right now...but be strong...things have a way of mysteriously working itself out when it seems like there is no hope left....Hugs and Kisses to you love...Urs
I'd say, you earn from your mistakes, deal with the consequences of your actions and get bck on track. Easier said than done of course. But possible, as I've seen it happen.
Hang in there, we're all here for you, assuming this is a real situation.
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When you are younger you get pictures of you and a pretty girl as your wife that you care about. Living in a nice little house, with a cute pet and a baby on the way. Everybody smiling and laughing, then reality slaps you in the face. You meet a girl, passion flows, instinct over-rules judgement. Few days pass and you realize that this isn't really the girl you want. You care about her but you aren't in love with her. Wait, that's not the best part; there might be a baby on the way from her?
Not sure why I posted this but I really have nobody to really vent to. I'll stop whining now.