Are some older men too set in their ways? (65)
tainogirl: Are you trying to tell me that you loved every single thing about every partner you had - that there was nothing that annoyed you, no habit they had that you disliked, if so you are quite unique.
Perhaps it was acceptance, for the way they are.
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tainogirl: Are you trying to tell me that you loved every single thing about every partner you had - that there was nothing that annoyed you, no habit they had that you disliked, if so you are quite unique.
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tainogirl: Are you trying to tell me that you loved every single thing about every partner you had - that there was nothing that annoyed you, no habit they had that you disliked, if so you are quite unique.
Yes, believe it or not, i except people for what they are. We are human being, we are not perfect. There is no such thing as a perfect partner.
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spiderbulgaria: Yes, believe it or not, i except people for what they are. We are human being, we are not perfect. There is no such thing as a perfect partner.
I see it this way we all have crap we do, just because a person CHOOSES TO ignore my crap even though it bugs the hell out of them means they've made a compromise for the sake of the relationship - does not mean they don't STILL dislike the crap I'm doing.
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kidatheart: Perhaps it was acceptance, for the way they are.
Thank you, i think you understand where i am coming from.
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I get it 
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tainogirl: Well there has been much debate about whether older men or younger guys are better for a relationship. I feel both have their pros and cons. In my experience although a lot of younger men may lack the life experience and years of older men, many are more open to new things and willing to learn new things as well. On the other hand a lot of older men though brimming with loads of life experience are not always as open, they have done things a particular way all their life and wish to continue despite the fact that their partners may change, if they cannot have things done a certain way then this is the beginning of problems.
Now don't get me wrong their are many older men who are a breath of fresh air but there are those who are eternally stuck in one way of thinking and expect their partners to always be the ones to accommodate. How does this work if their partner is way younger than them?
How many would already have found someone if they were less inflexible? Many will divorce and go off to marry a younger woman because they say that she keeps them young, but in this case there will have to be some accommodating to this younger person and who will be more willing to accommodate them a younger or an older woman? Would like to hear what you guy's think.
Now don't get me wrong their are many older men who are a breath of fresh air but there are those who are eternally stuck in one way of thinking and expect their partners to always be the ones to accommodate. How does this work if their partner is way younger than them?
How many would already have found someone if they were less inflexible? Many will divorce and go off to marry a younger woman because they say that she keeps them young, but in this case there will have to be some accommodating to this younger person and who will be more willing to accommodate them a younger or an older woman? Would like to hear what you guy's think.
SOME???? hahaha
we is ALL inmovable objects by now..... just get me my beer, my remote and watch me become one with my spot on the couch !!!!!
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spiderbulgaria: Thank you, i think you understand where i am coming from.
Nice to know you are so accepting of everything.
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seekndestroy: SOME???? hahaha
we is ALL inmovable objects by now..... just get me my beer, my remote and watch me become one with my spot on the couch !!!!!
we is ALL inmovable objects by now..... just get me my beer, my remote and watch me become one with my spot on the couch !!!!!
I can hardly wait to hear about you more loveable qualities.
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tainogirl: I can hardly wait to hear about you more loveable qualities.
i would tell you them....but you'd get all lovey dovey on me, start gettng pushy and subsequently outright demandng and shortly after you' be asking me to marry you.....
already have enough womens in the "psycho" time out corner.... no room for more... but when a spot opens up....i'll be sure to let you know...
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seekndestroy: i would tell you them....but you'd get all lovey dovey on me, start gettng pushy and subsequently outright demandng and shortly after you' be asking me to marry you.....
already have enough womens in the "psycho" time out corner.... no room for more... but when a spot opens up....i'll be sure to let you know...
already have enough womens in the "psycho" time out corner.... no room for more... but when a spot opens up....i'll be sure to let you know...
WHAT!!!
Lovey dovey on you?
My acting skills are not that good. And besides I know the only way you're going down the aisle is probably hog tied, HMMMMMMM!
Can I practice the hog tying just for fun and take my spot in the psycho corner after?
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That trait is Hard-headed stubborness!
I totally agree with you on that, even with younger or older men. As we get older it's difficult to adapt or change but we have to understand that if you have a partner it is so important that personal relationship you should have, doing things together
(you are not changing anybody) what you are trying to do is making the relationship better.
Just to say if he is a hunter and you don't know how to pull a trigger of a gun at least I'll try to back fire surely taking care that my head doesn't get blown off....
If you love dancing and he doesn't enjoy music try to show him how to appreciate playing some maracas......and get him moving to bed...........
I mean everything is about attitude...
It's so nice when you hear words like ...what can we do to make this better .
And for the younger ones sometimes they don't want to give in and only satisfy their own needs I mean in all levels.
I totally agree with you on that, even with younger or older men. As we get older it's difficult to adapt or change but we have to understand that if you have a partner it is so important that personal relationship you should have, doing things together
(you are not changing anybody) what you are trying to do is making the relationship better.
Just to say if he is a hunter and you don't know how to pull a trigger of a gun at least I'll try to back fire surely taking care that my head doesn't get blown off....
If you love dancing and he doesn't enjoy music try to show him how to appreciate playing some maracas......and get him moving to bed...........
I mean everything is about attitude...
It's so nice when you hear words like ...what can we do to make this better .
And for the younger ones sometimes they don't want to give in and only satisfy their own needs I mean in all levels.
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I don't believe that I am set in my ways, after all I am starting a new life in a new country at 50, I can't afford to be set on a one track road, I have to be flexible, and I carry that through to any relationship I have.
I do however, think you are not far off the mark for many, both male and female, They are guys/gals younger than me living nearby who to me appear like 70 statues, they just don't do anything other than work, come home watch tv sleep go to work again, even back in the UK I would go out and have a bit of fun.
I do however, think you are not far off the mark for many, both male and female, They are guys/gals younger than me living nearby who to me appear like 70 statues, they just don't do anything other than work, come home watch tv sleep go to work again, even back in the UK I would go out and have a bit of fun.
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I think we all young, old, male or female find comfort and security in routines and habits
my ex husband was "set in his ways" to the extent that he was unable to compromise to save the marriage..
and to tell the truth it probably would only have been like sticking plaster on our troubles..
we just didn't bring out the best in each other
he now has an exciting life with a new older partner, the old boring ways are gone he's never home always off to exciting places..
am I jealous?
nope
truth is we didn't bring out the best in each other and I am happy that he has found someone who does
if we bring out the best in each other then we do find ways to venture beyond our comfort zones
compromise becomes easy
my ex husband was "set in his ways" to the extent that he was unable to compromise to save the marriage..
and to tell the truth it probably would only have been like sticking plaster on our troubles..
we just didn't bring out the best in each other
he now has an exciting life with a new older partner, the old boring ways are gone he's never home always off to exciting places..
am I jealous?
nope
truth is we didn't bring out the best in each other and I am happy that he has found someone who does
if we bring out the best in each other then we do find ways to venture beyond our comfort zones
compromise becomes easy
In response to: Well there has been much debate about whether older men or younger guys are better for a relationship. I feel both have their pros and cons. In my experience although a lot of younger men may lack the life experience and years of older men, many are more open to new things and willing to learn new things as well. On the other hand a lot of older men though brimming with loads of life experience are not always as open, they have done things a particular way all their life and wish to continue despite the fact that their partners may change, if they cannot have things done a certain way then this is the beginning of problems.
Now don't get me wrong their are many older men who are a breath of fresh air but there are those who are eternally stuck in one way of thinking and expect their partners to always be the ones to accommodate. How does this work if their partner is way younger than them?
How many would already have found someone if they were less inflexible? Many will divorce and go off to marry a younger woman because they say that she keeps them young, but in this case there will have to be some accommodating to this younger person and who will be more willing to accommodate them a younger or an older woman? Would like to hear what you guy's think.
Now don't get me wrong their are many older men who are a breath of fresh air but there are those who are eternally stuck in one way of thinking and expect their partners to always be the ones to accommodate. How does this work if their partner is way younger than them?
How many would already have found someone if they were less inflexible? Many will divorce and go off to marry a younger woman because they say that she keeps them young, but in this case there will have to be some accommodating to this younger person and who will be more willing to accommodate them a younger or an older woman? Would like to hear what you guy's think.
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tainogirl: WHAT!!! Lovey dovey on you? My acting skills are not that good. And besides I know the only way you're going down the aisle is probably hog tied, HMMMMMMM! Can I practice the hog tying just for fun and take my spot in the psycho corner after?
as soon as a spot opens up i'll make sure to give you first dibs!!!
but just remember .... this old bull still has a wild streak left in him and very sharp horns..... and i can still move my ugly mug switfly.... in short bursts of course !!!!
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seekndestroy: as soon as a spot opens up i'll make sure to give you first dibs!!!
but just remember .... this old bull still has a wild streak left in him and very sharp horns..... and i can still move my ugly mug switfly.... in short bursts of course !!!!
but just remember .... this old bull still has a wild streak left in him and very sharp horns..... and i can still move my ugly mug switfly.... in short bursts of course !!!!
I'd really love to hold my breath and wait but it might take so long that I might turn blue and die.
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tainogirl: I'd really love to hold my breath and wait but it might take so long that I might turn blue and die. And I don't know if I can move fast enough to escape your HORNS.
smart guuuurl ....
now if only we could get all the other womens out there to accept defeat like you did.... we'd be all good up in here !!!!
nothing wrong with admitting yall cant hang with the big boys !!!! i dont know why they all keep resisting.... its just........futile !!!!
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seekndestroy: smart guuuurl ....
now if only we could get all the other womens out there to accept defeat like you did.... we'd be all good up in here !!!!
nothing wrong with admitting yall cant hang with the big boys !!!! i dont know why they all keep resisting.... its just........futile !!!!
now if only we could get all the other womens out there to accept defeat like you did.... we'd be all good up in here !!!!
nothing wrong with admitting yall cant hang with the big boys !!!! i dont know why they all keep resisting.... its just........futile !!!!
Defeat? I wasn't even trying! I'm not THAT INSANE. If I was trying REAL HARD, you'd already be hog tied to some post somewhere begging to be set free. Didn't know there were still brave women out there trying to convert you. Like any wild Mustang you give them plenty wide open space with nice thick fencing.
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I know who i am and i am happy with it.
It's alot more than them being happy with you. It's about you being willing to do without something because you know it bothers them, however, they still choose to be with you. It's about not being selfish. Just because people put up with things, doesnt mean they like them. Compromise is about giving up those things even though they put up with it. Again, not being selfish.