i cant believe this happened!!! (19)
milford1382vermilion, Ohio USA3 Threads 1 Polls 2 Postsmy daughters mother left me last week. are daughter is 2 months old and she wont even let me see her because she is now seeing somebody else and she dosnt want me around! i have never felt so horrible in my life! i have done everything for her. gave her a home, paid her bills, took her to every appointment, and the list goes on! to be treated like this after i made my whole life revolve around her for the past year is horrible! i dont understand how some people could be that way! so i really need something to occupy my time, because all i do is mope around and its not good for me. its just making things worst!!!
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Welcome to CS
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What can anyone say, i am so very very sorry for what you are going thro 
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That is very sad news, I hope CS is a good distraction for you.
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Sorry to hear about your trouble. I find it surprising that a woman who had given birth only 2 months prior would just up and leave. 
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Scubadiva: Sorry to hear about your trouble. I find it surprising that a woman who had given birth only 2 months prior would just up and leave.
I thought that to Scuba and as often happens we only hear one side, but like you said horrible to go thro it 
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im so sorry this is happen to u,but i feel more sorry for your 2 months old daughter,i cant believe there is woman like her,cant wait her daughter to grew up before she decide something for her self.but we didnt know maybe she have another reason why she does that,but anyway just takecare of your daughter and try to consult in your lawyer..
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Scubadiva: Sorry to hear about your trouble. I find it surprising that a woman who had given birth only 2 months prior would just up and leave.
I find it very odd too that a woman found another man within two months of giving birth.........
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Its really sad.
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HONEST OPINION? Forget the mum right now. This is about you and your child.
If she is your daughter, do NOT allow the mother to take her away for good.
I last saw my daughter when she was 10 months. She is now 14, and we ONLY JUST found each other again on Facebook, 2 months back. I missed so much of her life and I can NEVER get that back. IT's not an episode of a show that you can get later on DVD.
I don't mean to be rude - but you'll always find another person to love/hold/screw (whatever level you need), but your child's life is just that once.
Get legal council if you feel you need it. Even if you don't believe you do, get paperwork done legally and do NOT trust an 'agreement'.
This sounds abrupt and is certainly lacking any 'gloss', but, Trust me, you do NOT wanna be spending the next 13 years an empty man!
And for those doubting Thomas's out there - I'll happily add you to my FB and you can see it for yourselves!!
If she is your daughter, do NOT allow the mother to take her away for good.
I last saw my daughter when she was 10 months. She is now 14, and we ONLY JUST found each other again on Facebook, 2 months back. I missed so much of her life and I can NEVER get that back. IT's not an episode of a show that you can get later on DVD.
I don't mean to be rude - but you'll always find another person to love/hold/screw (whatever level you need), but your child's life is just that once.
Get legal council if you feel you need it. Even if you don't believe you do, get paperwork done legally and do NOT trust an 'agreement'.
This sounds abrupt and is certainly lacking any 'gloss', but, Trust me, you do NOT wanna be spending the next 13 years an empty man!
And for those doubting Thomas's out there - I'll happily add you to my FB and you can see it for yourselves!!
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illu_66: HONEST OPINION? Forget the mum right now. This is about you and your child.
If she is your daughter, do NOT allow the mother to take her away for good.
I last saw my daughter when she was 10 months. She is now 14, and we ONLY JUST found each other again on Facebook, 2 months back. I missed so much of her life and I can NEVER get that back. IT's not an episode of a show that you can get later on DVD.
I don't mean to be rude - but you'll always find another person to love/hold/screw (whatever level you need), but your child's life is just that once.
Get legal council if you feel you need it. Even if you don't believe you do, get paperwork done legally and do NOT trust an 'agreement'.
This sounds abrupt and is certainly lacking any 'gloss', but, Trust me, you do NOT wanna be spending the next 13 years an empty man!
And for those doubting Thomas's out there - I'll happily add you to my FB and you can see it for yourselves!!
I'm not doubting his pain at all, my partner lost contact with his children many years ago and it is a tragedy.If she is your daughter, do NOT allow the mother to take her away for good.
I last saw my daughter when she was 10 months. She is now 14, and we ONLY JUST found each other again on Facebook, 2 months back. I missed so much of her life and I can NEVER get that back. IT's not an episode of a show that you can get later on DVD.
I don't mean to be rude - but you'll always find another person to love/hold/screw (whatever level you need), but your child's life is just that once.
Get legal council if you feel you need it. Even if you don't believe you do, get paperwork done legally and do NOT trust an 'agreement'.
This sounds abrupt and is certainly lacking any 'gloss', but, Trust me, you do NOT wanna be spending the next 13 years an empty man!
And for those doubting Thomas's out there - I'll happily add you to my FB and you can see it for yourselves!!
Just pointing out we only ever get to hear one side of the story here
So please you found your daughter
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morgan5: I'm not doubting his pain at all, my partner lost contact with his children many years ago and it is a tragedy.
Just pointing out we only ever get to hear one side of the story here
So please you found your daughter
Just pointing out we only ever get to hear one side of the story here
So please you found your daughter
Sorry Morgan, I obv. didn't phrase it too well - No, I meant doubting MY story - you know how trolls like to accuse us of BS!
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morgan5: So please you found your daughter
You have NO idea hon - After 13 years - I am 'complete' again. But this isn't about me - this may be an important thread for the OP. I'll happily chat (and chat, and chat) privately tho.
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illu_66: HONEST OPINION? Forget the mum right now. This is about you and your child.
If she is your daughter, do NOT allow the mother to take her away for good.
I last saw my daughter when she was 10 months. She is now 14, and we ONLY JUST found each other again on Facebook, 2 months back. I missed so much of her life and I can NEVER get that back. IT's not an episode of a show that you can get later on DVD.
I don't mean to be rude - but you'll always find another person to love/hold/screw (whatever level you need), but your child's life is just that once.
Get legal council if you feel you need it. Even if you don't believe you do, get paperwork done legally and do NOT trust an 'agreement'.
This sounds abrupt and is certainly lacking any 'gloss', but, Trust me, you do NOT wanna be spending the next 13 years an empty man!
And for those doubting Thomas's out there - I'll happily add you to my FB and you can see it for yourselves!!
If she is your daughter, do NOT allow the mother to take her away for good.
I last saw my daughter when she was 10 months. She is now 14, and we ONLY JUST found each other again on Facebook, 2 months back. I missed so much of her life and I can NEVER get that back. IT's not an episode of a show that you can get later on DVD.
I don't mean to be rude - but you'll always find another person to love/hold/screw (whatever level you need), but your child's life is just that once.
Get legal council if you feel you need it. Even if you don't believe you do, get paperwork done legally and do NOT trust an 'agreement'.
This sounds abrupt and is certainly lacking any 'gloss', but, Trust me, you do NOT wanna be spending the next 13 years an empty man!
And for those doubting Thomas's out there - I'll happily add you to my FB and you can see it for yourselves!!
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illu_66: You have NO idea hon - After 13 years - I am 'complete' again. But this isn't about me - this may be an important thread for the OP. I'll happily chat (and chat, and chat) privately tho.
Great news for you!
The OP is here on a dating site, but I hope the advice he is given is good and works for him re. his lovely daughter.
I hope to see my youngest son who is 20 and I've never seen within the next few months; he is now an adult so I don't have to fight his mother to get to see him as he is now an adult.
I know he's had a good and stable upbringing with his mother and a man who treated him as his own son (for which I am grateful).
What terrible distress would have been caused to my son if his legal and biological father (ME!) had constantly tried to interfere in his life?
We all have 'rights'. Mothers and fathers have rights, but so do children!
The hardest decision of my life was to not fight my second wife for my 'rights' in what I considered to be the best interests of our child.
I hope he eventually understands what I did for him and that it was the greatest sacrifice of my life.
The most important thing is NOT your own happiness, but the security and happiness and wellbeing of your child as he/she grows up (in my opinion).
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RobertC2: Great news for you!
What terrible distress would have been caused to my son if his legal and biological father (ME!) had constantly tried to interfere in his life?
The most important thing is NOT your own happiness, but the security and happiness and wellbeing of your child as he/she grows up (in my opinion).
What terrible distress would have been caused to my son if his legal and biological father (ME!) had constantly tried to interfere in his life?
The most important thing is NOT your own happiness, but the security and happiness and wellbeing of your child as he/she grows up (in my opinion).
For all our piss taking - I agree 100%. However, if he can remain a part of his child's life from the beginning, he won't go through what you and I did.
I am SO very happy for you. You will find that vast gaps in your life are filled and you'll realise you'd been trying to fill them with the wrong things.
I 'stayed' away under the mistaken belief that there was a 'daddy', little knowing that my daughter would write to me in a diary and tell me her secrets.
Her mother's done a fantastic job, and my daughter is better than perfect, but she and I missed out greatly through her mother's decisions, and I would not wish that on ANYONE.
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illu_66: For all our piss taking - I agree 100%. However, if he can remain a part of his child's life from the beginning, he won't go through what you and I did.
I am SO very happy for you. You will find that vast gaps in your life are filled and you'll realise you'd been trying to fill them with the wrong things.
I 'stayed' away under the mistaken belief that there was a 'daddy', little knowing that my daughter would write to me in a diary and tell me her secrets.
Her mother's done a fantastic job, and my daughter is better than perfect, but she and I missed out greatly through her mother's decisions, and I would not wish that on ANYONE.
I am SO very happy for you. You will find that vast gaps in your life are filled and you'll realise you'd been trying to fill them with the wrong things.
I 'stayed' away under the mistaken belief that there was a 'daddy', little knowing that my daughter would write to me in a diary and tell me her secrets.
Her mother's done a fantastic job, and my daughter is better than perfect, but she and I missed out greatly through her mother's decisions, and I would not wish that on ANYONE.
Thank you so much for your positive response!
I've had an amazing 16 months.
I met a wonderful woman last year who just happens to be German.
My second wife was German.
The woman I met last year traced my son and actually spoke to him!
He didn't want to know me.
Out of the blue he rang her in May this year and wanted all my details. He said he was going to write to me, but hasn't so far.
Within a few weeks my world was destroyed and I lost the love of my life. Within 24 hours she destroyed everything to do with me - all my clothes at herhome in Germany, every photograph, every piece of paper - including my son's telephone number.
A week ago I spoke to my son's mother - the first decent conversation we've had in 20 years!
It was great to be able to discuss our son, and to know a little of what he is like.
There was no animosity between us........ just a certain sadness.
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belive it or not my friend,these days will pass and once in a peacfull time you are not going to belive that you have had such time.
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I can usually knock down the why but it might take some time, and I have hardly any of that....
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