GUYS! Men are visual. (97)
friends4now: Yes I have had kids and my body shows that but I still work out and watch what I eatbut men are visual that's why no matter how much they love you they WILL look at other women. Perfect example my gramps is 85 my grandparents have been married 60 years-that man will run into a ditch watching a young 20 something jogging down the street
Them looking does NOT bother me! My mum always used to say that it would only worry her if my dad STOPPED looking. I just want to know what keeps a man involved if he sees a beautiful young woman. I know it happens! My mum and dad are now married 46 years, and still going strong. What is it that keeps him so captivated with her? And how do I develop that in myself.
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LadyPhoenix1965: Them looking does NOT bother me! My mum always used to say that it would only worry her if my dad STOPPED looking. I just want to know what keeps a man involved if he sees a beautiful young woman. I know it happens! My mum and dad are now married 46 years, and still going strong. What is it that keeps him so captivated with her? And how do I develop that in myself.
Funny, LP, my mom said the same thing! My parents' philosophy was that the day you stopped looking, you were dead. They celebrated 48 years of happy marriage two weeks ago, and my dad is a retired pilot who spent years on trips for a good portion of the week with beautful, fit women and trusted his wife to be faithful while he was gone as well. I don't ever remember one of them considering it disrespectful when the other was looking. It was touching that wasn't allowed.
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LadyPhoenix1965: Looking for some honest responses please.
I've read more than a few books on how to relate better to men. One factor that keeps coming up is that they are 'visual'. In many profiles I read that men want a woman that 'takes good care of herself'. Now *I* take that to mean that they want someone young, thin, and gorgeous, and I tend to move on to the next profile cause, hey, I'm 44 and wearing the body of a woman that's had 3 kids. Am I wrong???
Also, if men are so visual, what makes them walk into a room full of people, with a date on their arm, and not simply seek out the 'next best thing', so to speak? What makes them stay with that woman?
I've read more than a few books on how to relate better to men. One factor that keeps coming up is that they are 'visual'. In many profiles I read that men want a woman that 'takes good care of herself'. Now *I* take that to mean that they want someone young, thin, and gorgeous, and I tend to move on to the next profile cause, hey, I'm 44 and wearing the body of a woman that's had 3 kids. Am I wrong???
Also, if men are so visual, what makes them walk into a room full of people, with a date on their arm, and not simply seek out the 'next best thing', so to speak? What makes them stay with that woman?
LadyPhoenix! What a great post :) Men are visual! They all want a Barbie Doll. Some are in touch with reality, some are wishful thinking. Some look to the surface. Many like the wrap, never to see in the box. The one that stays with his wife / mate that is less than the perfect is the ones that are not blinded by societies computer generated starlets. If a man is that shallow I to move beyond his profile. Granted a few extra pounds at 57 or 44 is not sinful. Who says with the right combination /mate we to could be a princess in barbie doll land. If a man looks at a few extra pounds as disgustingly repulsive, (he isn't looking deep enough) and we will probably see him here in the year 2020. Nope your not wrong.! Not one bit wrong.
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Boban1: yep... me too...
but the million dollar question is
do we really care???....
but the million dollar question is
do we really care???....
oh i know that one.... me me me ... pick me !!!!!
NO !!!!!!
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LadyPhoenix1965: EXACTLY!!!! This is what I'm trying to get to. Thanks for your comment.
Glad to be of assistance.
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LadyPhoenix1965: Them looking does NOT bother me! My mum always used to say that it would only worry her if my dad STOPPED looking. I just want to know what keeps a man involved if he sees a beautiful young woman. I know it happens! My mum and dad are now married 46 years, and still going strong. What is it that keeps him so captivated with her? And how do I develop that in myself.
i would say that men chose to stay with the woman they are with because of love and respect-another poster pointed that out
if it is true love he won't go looking for another-but he doesn't want the "married life syndrome" where you-not you personally-get so comfortable you no longer worry about eating right, working out, using makeup, dressing up that kind of thing.
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These books , some have good knowledge, but that book wont find you love, if you all women think that you have the scars of two or three kids is your problem, Ghange it,, the things in my life that that matter, and if I dont like it , I change it, I dont just complain..... if you thimk you need a Diet to find Love, Then Start a Diet, a book on relationships wont fix that problem or excuse u use, YOU HAVE to ghange it, not talk about it, I had a problem with Drinking, it was a problem, I fixed it, i havnt drank in over 6 yrs, now i dont have that problem, I was actually loosing too much weight for a few months, I worked to put some weight on.... talking does nothing.....
Action is nessasary, if we have a problem, we need to fix it, not assume we are a looser????
Action is nessasary, if we have a problem, we need to fix it, not assume we are a looser????
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friends4now: he is but he is funnyi just shake my head and ask if he wants me to take a pic for him he always likes that one
I see, he has a favourite. He observes her jogging regularly?
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MrAngel: I see, he has a favourite. He observes her jogging regularly? How does Gramma react to that?
as long as he isn't feeling her up she doesn't care and he has several favorites around here
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These books , some have good knowledge, but that book wont find you love, if you all women think that you have the scars of two or three kids is your problem, Ghange it,, the things in my life that that matter, and if I dont like it , I change it, I dont just complain..... if you thimk you need a Diet to find Love, Then Start a Diet, a book on relationships wont fix that problem or excuse u use, YOU HAVE to ghange it, not talk about it, I had a problem with Drinking, it was a problem, I fixed it, i havnt drank in over 6 yrs, now i dont have that problem, I was actually loosing too much weight for a few months, I worked to put some weight on.... talking does nothing.....
Action is nessasary, if we have a problem, we need to fix it, not assume we are a looser????
Action is nessasary, if we have a problem, we need to fix it, not assume we are a looser????
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friends4now: i would say that men chose to stay with the woman they are with because of love and respect-another poster pointed that outif it is true love he won't go looking for another-but he doesn't want the "married life syndrome" where you-not you personally-get so comfortable you no longer worry about eating right, working out, using makeup, dressing up that kind of thing.
Yep yep yep!
I can guarantee that the cause of 100% of divorces, is marriage! LOL! People get married then stop trying to attract one another anymore and thus fall out of love and start hating each other. It's sad.
- Michael
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LadyPhoenix1965: Understanding that men and women are different helps us keep our perspective, I think, on the parts of them that might seem 'bad' to us. Knowing that that they are wired differently, that we can expect them to 'look', helps us to respect them as men, and - as we discussed in another thread - men who are respected feel loved, and men who feel loved won't wander.
Maybe I've just answered my own question...
Maybe I've just answered my own question...
Women look too, LP. My boyfriend and I have had this conversation, and you did. He says it well...there are only two reasons why anyone cheats in a marriage. Either they're just wired that way and will always cheat, or they're unhappy. Find one who isn't wired that way (and the blessing is we can usually spot them at our age), and keep him happy, and you have no reason to be insecure in the relationship. That's the course he and I are following.
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MrAngel: Has he feeled any up lately?
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friends4now: i would say that men chose to stay with the woman they are with because of love and respect-another poster pointed that outif it is true love he won't go looking for another-but he doesn't want the "married life syndrome" where you-not you personally-get so comfortable you no longer worry about eating right, working out, using makeup, dressing up that kind of thing.
That's a good point...and it goes both ways. I know many men who have let themselves go after getting married too.
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druidess6308: That's a good point...and it goes both ways. I know many men who have let themselves go after getting married too.
a male friend of mine has gained about 100lbs since getting married
and he was already huge to begin with
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1fawn: LOL..which one is you?
your guess is as good as mine.....
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......on all counts
yep... me too...
but the million dollar question is
do we really care???....