How do you cope? (63)
bestat45: How would any of you handle it when your mom tells you that she thinks that it will be your dad's last Christmas? He had a major stroke last year, and is starting to go down hill in the last few weeks, and isn't doing very well now.
I feel like i am going to throw up just hearing this. My son and I are supposed to go down Christmas Day, and will have to pretend that everything is semi fine.
I have seen that he has not been doing well, and there is not much that anyone can do, as he is of the old school, and does not beleive in seeing the doctor overly much.
I think the fact that he has lost alot of the ability to do things he used to has affected him badly as well, and maybe he is just giving up.
Any advice would be appreciated.
thank you
I feel like i am going to throw up just hearing this. My son and I are supposed to go down Christmas Day, and will have to pretend that everything is semi fine.
I have seen that he has not been doing well, and there is not much that anyone can do, as he is of the old school, and does not beleive in seeing the doctor overly much.
I think the fact that he has lost alot of the ability to do things he used to has affected him badly as well, and maybe he is just giving up.
Any advice would be appreciated.
thank you
I had this happen and you do it by appreciating the time left and tell him what he means to him and make it as comfortable as you can. You also bring up accomplishments; I asked him his opinion on things that happened in his life and it helped a lot.
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I really understand how you feel.
This is life. It happens...
Take care of your self, and your family. I wish he gets well soon. God knows what will happen. And believe me, he knows what is the best for us.
This is life. It happens...
Take care of your self, and your family. I wish he gets well soon. God knows what will happen. And believe me, he knows what is the best for us.
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I feel like i am going to throw up just hearing this. My son and I are supposed to go down Christmas Day, and will have to pretend that everything is semi fine.
I have seen that he has not been doing well, and there is not much that anyone can do, as he is of the old school, and does not beleive in seeing the doctor overly much.
I think the fact that he has lost alot of the ability to do things he used to has affected him badly as well, and maybe he is just giving up.
Any advice would be appreciated.
thank you
everyone copes differently for different things....
some need others to offer emotional support, others hold everything in and only let those close in on the situation, others resort to alcohol or drugs and yet some will just get depressed and atill a few will bury themselves in work or something to keep them busy thus not having time to think about it.... you just need to do whatever works for you just like im doing what works for me!!!!
it all depends on the kind of person you are.... if you are the emotional attachment prone type then you'll need as many people as possible to offer you a shoulder to cry on, if you are prone to depression and have an addictive personality, you are likely to go for the dope or alcohol, if you are the independent, emotionally distant type, then you are likely to deal with stuff that people will never know about, on your own....
in essence, no one can tell you how to cope, you gotta figure that out on your own based on your needs, but if i were to throw a guess and based on your post, i'd say you best find lots of people to offer you their support and shoulders to cry on