Hi guys..Opinions please (46)
GodsgiftEnnis, Clare Ireland251 Threads 13 Polls 10,040 PostsGuys...the post is 3 months old. I think we're way past advice!
Eamonl: Hi all,Ive been a member of this site for a while but this is my first post.Im curious to hear your views on the following;
I have a 20 month old daughter who lives in the UK.I pay maintenance monthly like any father should but recently my ex has started asking for more..ie a new laptop so I can see my daughter on the webcam and cash for a deposit to rent a new place,she maintains the place she is in at the moment is damp and it will better for the child if she moved,she has asthma.Now I have no problem paying out for stuff for my daughter but this seems a bit excessive to me,Is it just me or is this a bit unreasonable of her.Interested to hear your views...
I have a 20 month old daughter who lives in the UK.I pay maintenance monthly like any father should but recently my ex has started asking for more..ie a new laptop so I can see my daughter on the webcam and cash for a deposit to rent a new place,she maintains the place she is in at the moment is damp and it will better for the child if she moved,she has asthma.Now I have no problem paying out for stuff for my daughter but this seems a bit excessive to me,Is it just me or is this a bit unreasonable of her.Interested to hear your views...
I`m not sure on this 1 but I think you could get away without paying any maintenance at all seen as your child lives ina different country, a mate of mine did that and didnt get into trouble over it but then again why would you not want to pay for your child, after all she is your flesh and blood
Galwaygirl1970: Eamon, if you have an agreement that is signed between ye, try and stick to it. Personally speaking me and my ex husband stick to everything we agreed on which is he pays child maintenance, half on school stuff, birthdays and xmas. Unless ye can compromise and go half and half on the stuff. I think 20 months is a bit young to be going on a webcam...if the child was older I would agree she would prob like a laptop but at the moment she is too young. Just my personal opinion, nobody bite please
I agree. I'd suggest you pay half. That seems fair.
As for the laptop, 20 months old does seem a bit young to be going on webcam. Its not like you are going to be talking on skype or anything. Whats wrong with regular photos via email?
I'm not being mean here but it would be cheaper to buy her a basic digital camera and have her email you photos regularly. If you do decide to buy her a laptop, i'd go for a netbook (mini laptop) instead of a laptop. From what I've heard and red, they are not as powerful as a laptop but do the same job more or less, most of them come with a built-in webcam and are far cheaper. One way of finding out if she is taking the mick is to ask what kind of laptop she is looking for. If its top of the range she is looking for instead of a netbook or even a used laptop, then you'll have your answer.
Godsgift: Guys...the post is 3 months old. I think we're way past advice!
i never even noticed, it got bumped up this morning and i just dived in...
Ladybee42: i never even noticed, it got bumped up this morning and i just dived in...
I was thinking of posting an advice thread for England to win the world cup too!
tgwstw: Sound enough advice, but friend or not no real need to be giving out the dudes past. In fairness.
I agree!
blipper2000: this thread is rhubarb
spidey knows
spidey knows
please to explain rhubarb? my english no good i think it for pie!!
Ladybee42: please to explain rhubarb? my english no good i think it for pie!!
i have a rhubarb patch out the back garden
oh yeah and i recently threw some magc beans in there too
it all went a bit crazy then
i hope i cleared up your confusion
i know i did in fact
blipper2000: i have a rhubarb patch out the back garden
oh yeah and i recently threw some magc beans in there too
it all went a bit crazy then
i hope i cleared up your confusion
i know i did in fact
oh yeah and i recently threw some magc beans in there too
it all went a bit crazy then
i hope i cleared up your confusion
i know i did in fact
Ah so thats what it means
blipper2000: i have a rhubarb patch out the back garden
oh yeah and i recently threw some magc beans in there too
it all went a bit crazy then
i hope i cleared up your confusion
i know i did in fact
oh yeah and i recently threw some magc beans in there too
it all went a bit crazy then
i hope i cleared up your confusion
i know i did in fact
ah rhubarb = crazy..
don't suppose you have any of those smokin' magic beans left over though!
if she wants to move, let her sort that out for herself...if you like "help" her out with a bit....if it is damp.
DO NOT BUY HER A LAPTOP!!
stick to your original maintenance payments!....
If she thinks she can get away with this...what else will she do!...
(this is from a person who doesn't get maintenance)....
jmo!
best of luck.
DO NOT BUY HER A LAPTOP!!
stick to your original maintenance payments!....
If she thinks she can get away with this...what else will she do!...
(this is from a person who doesn't get maintenance)....
jmo!
best of luck.
Mummy: if she wants to move, let her sort that out for herself...if you like "help" her out with a bit....if it is damp.
DO NOT BUY HER A LAPTOP!!
stick to your original maintenance payments!....
If she thinks she can get away with this...what else will she do!...
(this is from a person who doesn't get maintenance)....
jmo!
best of luck.
DO NOT BUY HER A LAPTOP!!
stick to your original maintenance payments!....
If she thinks she can get away with this...what else will she do!...
(this is from a person who doesn't get maintenance)....
jmo!
best of luck.
did someone tell ur ex not to pay up aswell?
Godsgift: I was thinking of posting an advice thread for England to win the world cup too!
Good idea; 1966 is definitely their year
L1977C: did someone tell ur ex not to pay up aswell?
pay up for a laptop? have no idea, wouldn't ask for such a thing anyhow! lol!....all i know is, i was out working to provide for myself and my kids....so i became dependent on the kids father....but dads should pay maintenance anyhow...afterall it does take 2 to tango and they are their responsibility too. am i making sense?
but to ask for laptops and the likes, i feel is a no no....
jmo...
Mummy: pay up for a laptop? have no idea, wouldn't ask for such a thing anyhow! lol!....all i know is, i was out working to provide for myself and my kids....so i became dependent on the kids father....but dads should pay maintenance anyhow...afterall it does take 2 to tango and they are their responsibility too. am i making sense?
but to ask for laptops and the likes, i feel is a no no....
jmo...
but to ask for laptops and the likes, i feel is a no no....
jmo...
well the laptop is also to benefit him aswell so cant see his problem None of us know how much maintenance he is paying lets face it I've heard guys boast about paying maintenacne and moan about their ex in the same breath only to find out he was payin up 40 a week for two kids and she had them 24/7 ... You and I kno 40 is chicken feed when it comes to kids so my opinion is if they can afford to give their children a god quality of life so be it...JMO
L1977C: well the laptop is also to benefit him aswell so cant see his problem None of us know how much maintenance he is paying lets face it I've heard guys boast about paying maintenacne and moan about their ex in the same breath only to find out he was payin up 40 a week for two kids and she had them 24/7 ... You and I kno 40 is chicken feed when it comes to kids so my opinion is if they can afford to give their children a god quality of life so be it...JMO
good
Mummy: pay up for a laptop? have no idea, wouldn't ask for such a thing anyhow! lol!....all i know is, i was out working to provide for myself and my kids....so i became dependent on the kids father....but dads should pay maintenance anyhow...afterall it does take 2 to tango and they are their responsibility too. am i making sense?
but to ask for laptops and the likes, i feel is a no no....
jmo...
but to ask for laptops and the likes, i feel is a no no....
jmo...
I remember when times were bad i sold my skil saw to make my maintence payment, kids cost money! if your not paying for them your denying them, jmo
trouble1: I remember when times were bad i sold my skil saw to make my maintence payment, kids cost money! if your not paying for them your denying them, jmo
great post
L1977C: well the laptop is also to benefit him aswell so cant see his problem None of us know how much maintenance he is paying lets face it I've heard guys boast about paying maintenacne and moan about their ex in the same breath only to find out he was payin up 40 a week for two kids and she had them 24/7 ... You and I kno 40 is chicken feed when it comes to kids so my opinion is if they can afford to give their children a god quality of life so be it...JMO
ah yeah, i see where you are coming from there....no that is true, we don't know how much he was paying....
lets go and ask him!...
how are you anyhow....
Mummy: ah yeah, i see where you are coming from there....no that is true, we don't know how much he was paying....
lets go and ask him!...
how are you anyhow....
lets go and ask him!...
how are you anyhow....
broke but happy lmao
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