Leaving the Nest (14)
as much as it is easy for everyone of us to suggest on this to you, i will still say your childrens happiness shud be yours; how much ever you love them, they will some day fly for what they belive inn and would be happy if your on their side....
<-- to a super mom.
<-- to a super mom.------ This thread is Archived ------
smiling_assasin: as much as it is easy for everyone of us to suggest on this to you, i will still say your childrens happiness shud be yours; how much ever you love them, they will some day fly for what they belive inn and would be happy if your on their side....
<-- to a super mom.
<-- to a super mom.
Thank you.
I am trying my best to support her and be happy for her. She's so excited and I don't want to crush her spirit. I share all my pride and excitement with her, but I have to vent off some of this negative energy somewhere...
------ This thread is Archived ------
Letting go will not be easy and you will always be their Mom..I myself have only one and he is only 13 but I have always been an independent person and I am raising him to be independent also..just be there for her when she needs you..and give advice when asked for help her when she has fallen on her nose..and she will ..more than just once..like all of us..and her joining the Marines..don t worry..you said she is a good candidate for the ROCT then she'll make it..and the Marines are a class for themself they do look out for each other..better than any other Military Branch..she will have another family that will look out for her..
------ This thread is Archived ------
LadyPhoenix1965: To all the experienced empty nesters:
My baby girl has taken the oath to become a US Marine. I'm all mixed up inside. On the one hand, I'm so proud of her! She's taking a stand on the side of freedom and justice. She's making a plan for her life. She's a strong candidate for the ROTC Scholarship, and she's looking at a career in criminal justice somewhere down the line... Yes, I'm very proud.
On the other hand, she's my baby girl. What if she doesn't get the scholarship, and she gets treated like just another corp-man, just another body to be used as a piece of government property...??? On top of that, I'm a conscientious objector, anti-war. This goes completely against anything I would decide for my own life.
I know I have to let her make her own decisions and I have to let her lead her own life... I'm really struggling with this, and I have two more coming up behind her. What will they decide for their lives???
How do I let go???
You don't . You will see her go and leave the home but she will never ever leave you. She will have her own life, many friends, even her own family in time but she only ever has one MUM.... and she knows that .... Kids go but they never leave, the umbilical lasts a lifetime and then more...My baby girl has taken the oath to become a US Marine. I'm all mixed up inside. On the one hand, I'm so proud of her! She's taking a stand on the side of freedom and justice. She's making a plan for her life. She's a strong candidate for the ROTC Scholarship, and she's looking at a career in criminal justice somewhere down the line... Yes, I'm very proud.
On the other hand, she's my baby girl. What if she doesn't get the scholarship, and she gets treated like just another corp-man, just another body to be used as a piece of government property...??? On top of that, I'm a conscientious objector, anti-war. This goes completely against anything I would decide for my own life.
I know I have to let her make her own decisions and I have to let her lead her own life... I'm really struggling with this, and I have two more coming up behind her. What will they decide for their lives???
How do I let go???
------ This thread is Archived ------
First of all let me salute YOU for obviously doing a great job with your daughter. So many kids these days are heading in the wrong direction.. so to have a young lady who is as you describe, that is a great accomplishment on your part.
I am also dealing with letting go of my soon to be 16 year old son who has left my care to stay with his dad.. While its not the same as your situation, it holds the same principle.
We just have to realise that we brought up really great kids and we've taught them all we can in order to help them transition from teen to adult.. and well the best we can do is to keep in touch and let them know that we will always be here for them, if they need us.. being careful not to become too clingy, cause that drives them away.
I say to you, good luck.. and all the best to your daughter on her new adventure in life!
I am also dealing with letting go of my soon to be 16 year old son who has left my care to stay with his dad.. While its not the same as your situation, it holds the same principle.
We just have to realise that we brought up really great kids and we've taught them all we can in order to help them transition from teen to adult.. and well the best we can do is to keep in touch and let them know that we will always be here for them, if they need us.. being careful not to become too clingy, cause that drives them away.
I say to you, good luck.. and all the best to your daughter on her new adventure in life!
------ This thread is Archived ------
patmac: You don't . You will see her go and leave the home but she will never ever leave you. She will have her own life, many friends, even her own family in time but she only ever has one MUM.... and she knows that .... Kids go but they never leave, the umbilical lasts a lifetime and then more...
Thanks, Pat. I think you're right. My own mum never let me go...
------ This thread is Archived ------
nicki_love: First of all let me salute YOU for obviously doing a great job with your daughter. So many kids these days are heading in the wrong direction.. so to have a young lady who is as you describe, that is a great accomplishment on your part.
I am also dealing with letting go of my soon to be 16 year old son who has left my care to stay with his dad.. While its not the same as your situation, it holds the same principle.
We just have to realise that we brought up really great kids and we've taught them all we can in order to help them transition from teen to adult.. and well the best we can do is to keep in touch and let them know that we will always be here for them, if they need us.. being careful not to become too clingy, cause that drives them away.
I say to you, good luck.. and all the best to your daughter on her new adventure in life!
I am also dealing with letting go of my soon to be 16 year old son who has left my care to stay with his dad.. While its not the same as your situation, it holds the same principle.
We just have to realise that we brought up really great kids and we've taught them all we can in order to help them transition from teen to adult.. and well the best we can do is to keep in touch and let them know that we will always be here for them, if they need us.. being careful not to become too clingy, cause that drives them away.
I say to you, good luck.. and all the best to your daughter on her new adventure in life!
So sorry, Nicki.
I have heard of boys going to stay with dad when they're a little older. I can't imagine that, but you're right. We can't be too clingy, always leave the door open and your ams open for when they come home.
------ This thread is Archived ------
we had a thread the other day about diamonds or love which is more inportant an my quote was...
you can loose a diamond but never love...
your not loosing her at all as she will beat in your heart always!
you should give yourself some praise for such a good job!!
hey and they do let them home...now and again you know
you can loose a diamond but never love...
your not loosing her at all as she will beat in your heart always!
you should give yourself some praise for such a good job!!
hey and they do let them home...now and again you know
------ This thread is Archived ------
Home is where the heart is. Her heart and love will never leave you. Just be confident that you have done all the best to teach her what she needs in life. Good Luck, all will be well.
Now its time to party harty Mom, enjoy a little youth and redecorate the house. When she comes back she will see her new lively mom!
Now its time to party harty Mom, enjoy a little youth and redecorate the house. When she comes back she will see her new lively mom!
------ This thread is Archived ------
------ This thread is Archived ------
I_am_Cherished: Home is where the heart is. Her heart and love will never leave you. Just be confident that you have done all the best to teach her what she needs in life. Good Luck, all will be well.
Now its time to party harty Mom, enjoy a little youth and redecorate the house. When she comes back she will see her new lively mom!
Now its time to party harty Mom, enjoy a little youth and redecorate the house. When she comes back she will see her new lively mom!
Still got two more babies flapping, Cheri, but it's worth thinking about!
------ This thread is Archived ------
LadyPhoenix1965: To all the experienced empty nesters:
My baby girl has taken the oath to become a US Marine. I'm all mixed up inside. On the one hand, I'm so proud of her! She's taking a stand on the side of freedom and justice. She's making a plan for her life. She's a strong candidate for the ROTC Scholarship, and she's looking at a career in criminal justice somewhere down the line... Yes, I'm very proud.
On the other hand, she's my baby girl. What if she doesn't get the scholarship, and she gets treated like just another corp-man, just another body to be used as a piece of government property...??? On top of that, I'm a conscientious objector, anti-war. This goes completely against anything I would decide for my own life.
I know I have to let her make her own decisions and I have to let her lead her own life... I'm really struggling with this, and I have two more coming up behind her. What will they decide for their lives???
How do I let go???
I felt like you when my daughter left home so I can understand how you feel.My baby girl has taken the oath to become a US Marine. I'm all mixed up inside. On the one hand, I'm so proud of her! She's taking a stand on the side of freedom and justice. She's making a plan for her life. She's a strong candidate for the ROTC Scholarship, and she's looking at a career in criminal justice somewhere down the line... Yes, I'm very proud.
On the other hand, she's my baby girl. What if she doesn't get the scholarship, and she gets treated like just another corp-man, just another body to be used as a piece of government property...??? On top of that, I'm a conscientious objector, anti-war. This goes completely against anything I would decide for my own life.
I know I have to let her make her own decisions and I have to let her lead her own life... I'm really struggling with this, and I have two more coming up behind her. What will they decide for their lives???
How do I let go???
But she is living her life and you have helped her to do that. My relationship with my daughter changed once she left to being her best friend as well as her Mother.
Many have lost their children thro illness and accidents, this has happened to my closest friend, and I lost a Grandaughter kinda put it into perspective for me.
You have not lost her, its another stage of life she still loves you, you can talk to her and still and be there for her.
------ This thread is Archived ------
LadyPhoenix1965: To all the experienced empty nesters:
I know I have to let her make her own decisions and I have to let her lead her own life... I'm really struggling with this, and I have two more coming up behind her. What will they decide for their lives???
How do I let go???
I know I have to let her make her own decisions and I have to let her lead her own life... I'm really struggling with this, and I have two more coming up behind her. What will they decide for their lives???
How do I let go???
Hey Lady P
I know where you are coming from girlfriend, it is never easy... as parents, but more so as mothers, that protective instinct will always surface if at any time one of our brood is about to leave the nest - for whatever reason....
I only have one child (adult), and he was 4 years when I became a single parent following my divorce; we went through some pretty tough times and my level of being "the protective mother" zoomed up the scale.... Then a few days, just before his 16th birthday, out of the blue, he asked my permission to sign the papers for him to join the Army... I felt as if I was being kicked in the stomach... both his father and I had been ex-army, but we had absolutely no indication that our son had any interest in following a career in that direction....
After much persuasion by family and friends, I eventually had to accept the inevitability that one day my child will get to the point where he will want to / will have to make his own decisions that could have great impact on his future development, and that I as his parent will just have to stand back and let him get on with it. Our kids know that we are the ever present safety nets hovering there ready to catch them if they fall.... so I went ahead and signed the papers...
The result of my decision was that some months later I felt another kick in the stomach, but this time it was a kick of pride... following 8 monts of tough training in a top infantry regiment, my son's father and I stood there proudly watching our son wearing the beret of the regiment that he had earned, and being acknowledged by Queen Elizabeth I at his "passing out parade".... that day I realised that this was another very important chapter in my son's life... the transition from being a boy to a man...
Honey, let your girl go if that's what she wants... if her choice of career at this stage of life fails, she will still love you and thank you for allowing her to at least give it a go, and she know that fail or succeed, you will be there for her...
------ This thread is Archived ------
This Thread is Archived
This Thread is archived, so you will no longer be able to post to it. Threads get archived automatically when they are older than 3 months.
« Go back to All Threads
« Go back to All Threads
More Threads
The GOP Representatives owned by Vladimir Putin
s*xual skills
your favorite topic?
men's perspective towards women
the way you look
More Proof The GOP is a Criminal Organization
Kultur-multur
Ladies
Unions support Democrats!
Karen McDougal - Playmate Model will testify in Hush Money Trial
More Threads
Report threads that break rules, are offensive, or contain fighting. Staff may not be aware of the forum abuse, and cannot do anything about it unless you tell us about it. click to report forum abuse »
If one of the comments is offensive, please report the comment instead (there is a link in each comment to report it).
If one of the comments is offensive, please report the comment instead (there is a link in each comment to report it).
Stats for this Thread
664 Views
13 Comments
Created: Mar 2010
Last Viewed: Apr 28
Last Commented: Mar 2010
0 Likes
My baby girl has taken the oath to become a US Marine. I'm all mixed up inside. On the one hand, I'm so proud of her! She's taking a stand on the side of freedom and justice. She's making a plan for her life. She's a strong candidate for the ROTC Scholarship, and she's looking at a career in criminal justice somewhere down the line... Yes, I'm very proud.
On the other hand, she's my baby girl. What if she doesn't get the scholarship, and she gets treated like just another corp-man, just another body to be used as a piece of government property...??? On top of that, I'm a conscientious objector, anti-war. This goes completely against anything I would decide for my own life.
I know I have to let her make her own decisions and I have to let her lead her own life... I'm really struggling with this, and I have two more coming up behind her. What will they decide for their lives???
How do I let go???