baggage-experience? (89)
bob1959otisfield, Maine USA54 Threads 3 Polls 1,874 Postsdemonfairy: Im gulliable i trust to much,can get you hurt at times when you find out you have been a fool.But i still trust people till i find out different,you can't let a few bad apples turn you bitter.With out trust you have nothing.Thats just my opinion.
It can be a tough line to figure out, trust vs. blindness can't it. 
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woohoo128: I'm still good friends with most of my exesCannot see the point of making enemies just because the relationship didn't work
I am baggage-free and have gathered a lotta experiences along the way....
Yep... I do agree with you woohoo
My two divorces were quite acrimonious because my ex's were determined that I should not benefit financially. On both occasions I walked away hurt, broken hearted and empty handed, picked myself, dust myself off and started all over again.
In time I opened up the lines of contact with both ex's to the point of being friends again, but carried on with my life without them having access to, or sharing any of the intimate areas of my life.... instead of expending my energy hating them I focus that energy in repairing the damaged me and enriching my life in preparation for future relationships... (hopefully)
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demonfairy: Im gulliable i trust to much,can get you hurt at times when you find out you have been a fool.But i still trust people till i find out different,you can't let a few bad apples turn you bitter.With out trust you have nothing.Thats just my opinion.
You're not the only one..I pride myself on detecting the ppl who use sweet talk to win you over..but sometimes..they can slide past and I get all gooey..then hurt..then angry..then calm..then sad....well you get the pic lol
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nanners2863: You're not the only one..I pride myself on detecting the ppl who use sweet talk to win you over..but sometimes..they can slide past and I get all gooey..then hurt..then angry..then calm..then sad....well you get the pic lol
You silver tongued devil you!!!!
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nanners2863: You're not the only one..I pride myself on detecting the ppl who use sweet talk to win you over..but sometimes..they can slide past and I get all gooey..then hurt..then angry..then calm..then sad....well you get the pic lol
So nan, you're looking lovely tonight!
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bob1959: Stress Do you mind if I mail you with a health and fitness question?
Sure Bob
trish123: I think what John said earlier too, about being able to listen constructively, that goes both ways too, the other has to be able to speak constructively as well or its as Veritas says, its a rapid descent into mayhem........
Communication breaks down preconceived walls and opens up new doors of perception and understanding, true!
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I think the difference between baggage and experience is usually in the other persons perception.
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I like the naked experience.
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bob1959: So nan, you're looking lovely tonight!
Oh no you don't 
...really..you think so..I did do something different with my hair...will you marry me!?!?!------ This thread is Archived ------
Big_John: You silver tongued devil you!!!!
My sweet John.. I am definitely watching my heart around you!!! 
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nanners2863: My sweet John.. I am definitely watching my heart around you!!!
I don't steal hearts; I provide shared dreams.
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nanners2863: Oh no you don't ...really..you think so..I did do something different with my hair...will you marry me!?!?!
That's a BIG box, not a little box.
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Big_John: I don't steal hearts; I provide shared dreams.
Here I go..gettin gooey..damn it 
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bob1959: That's a BIG box, not a little box.
That's ok..I like BIG diamonds!!
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Kattsrose: I think the difference between baggage and experience is usually in the other persons perception.
Not exactly Kattsrose.
The difference is in how one deals (acts/reacts) with adverse situations in a new relationship as well as one's approach in a new relationship. I can explain more if needed, I've invested a lot of time in this area.
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nanners2863: That's ok..I like BIG diamonds!!
I feel like coffee, I've been filtered out. 
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bob1959: Whats the difference? Both can make you cautious. Many examples. cheating for one. Whats the difference between being trusting and burying you head in the sand. Please don't focus too much on cheating. Lets have a general discussion please. anyone?
Experience is learning from your past, the things that went right and the things that went wrong. In the process of openly looking at why the relationship, either failed or didn't work out. Being honest with your self, with respect to your own role, and how you could have dealt with it better or smarter. Experience teachs us many things if we allow it too, rather then just being bitter and blaming someone else,for everything that went wrong.
Baggage, is something we didn't take the time to get over, maybe moved to fast to start dating again, before letting go of all emotional ties and thoughts to another. Which often time leads to accusing or thinking someone new is guilty of the same crimes someone else did, It's unfair to the new person. Some even compare their new love to a past love, How unfair and hurtful that can be. We're suppose to take the lessons from the past and not repeat history in the furture, especially when it's distructive. Each relationship should be afforded the luxury of standing on it's own merits, never to be compared to another. After all, your not him and she's not her..
Good Luck..
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bob1959: I feel like coffee, I've been filtered out.
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StressFree: Not exactly Kattsrose.
The difference is in how one deals (acts/reacts) with adverse situations in a new relationship as well as one's approach in a new relationship. I can explain more if needed, I've invested a lot of time in this area.
The difference is in how one deals (acts/reacts) with adverse situations in a new relationship as well as one's approach in a new relationship. I can explain more if needed, I've invested a lot of time in this area.
I am currently reading a book on The Time Principle where our past, present and future influences our actions. It is very interesting in how we deal with 'things' based on where we are act. Everyone of us looks at baggage and experiences so differently. No generalizations should be made. I think it is best to listen, understand and then talk about it.
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Pocoloco44: Experience is learning from your past, the things that went right and the things that went wrong. In the process of openly looking at why the relationship, either failed or didn't work out. Being honest with your self, with respect to your own role, and how you could have dealt with it better or smarter. Experience teachs us many things if we allow it too, rather then just being bitter and blaming someone else,for everything that went wrong.
Baggage, is something we didn't take the time to get over, maybe moved to fast to start dating again, before letting go of all emotional ties and thoughts to another. Which often time leads to accusing or thinking someone new is guilty of the same crimes someone else did, It's unfair to the new person. Some even compare their new love to a past love, How unfair and hurtful that can be. We're suppose to take the lessons from the past and not repeat history in the furture, especially when it's distructive. Each relationship should be afforded the luxury of standing on it's own merits, never to be compared to another. After all, your not him and she's not her..
Good Luck..
Thank you for your thoughtful, well written advise.Baggage, is something we didn't take the time to get over, maybe moved to fast to start dating again, before letting go of all emotional ties and thoughts to another. Which often time leads to accusing or thinking someone new is guilty of the same crimes someone else did, It's unfair to the new person. Some even compare their new love to a past love, How unfair and hurtful that can be. We're suppose to take the lessons from the past and not repeat history in the furture, especially when it's distructive. Each relationship should be afforded the luxury of standing on it's own merits, never to be compared to another. After all, your not him and she's not her..
Good Luck..
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