Too young to get Married (26)

God I wished you were all here to back me in my arguments with the Ex.

This was our theme song. She expected to run around after the kids regardless of how it interferred with her worklife and our houselife.

Our kids have no idea. More accurately. If they can't get there and back by a motor vehicle that doesn't have to be walked to, to catch. Then they just won't go. They won't move unless a car is supplied. My Ex quotes all the trials and tribulations that have come across the headlines in the past month to support her stance in being a taxi to her kids. And yet its more the fact that she wants her kids to need her. She wants to ensure there are as many strings tied to them that they won't leave her to go off and do there own thing.

Which is what we both did to our Parents.

I try now to constantly make my son stand on his own feet. But as soon as I turn my back he rings his Sisters or his Mother and they run around and pick him up and cart him to where he wants/needs to go.

Apparently my son won't get a job because I'm going to make him get to work under his own endeavours. Where his Mother will run him to and from. And he doesn't want to cycle from my place into town. (A 20min cycle if fit)

As has been said. How do you make a kid learn to take responsibility for themselves if you keep molly coddling them.

If we enforced these ideals in our kids earlier in life who knows how many fewer Teenage Mothers there'd be.

Yes there are Pros and Cons. I assume everybody knows of Supernanny. I haven't watched much. (Very little actually) But modern parenting ideas work. She proves it. (Under the assumption these scenario's aren't staged for television) But it was way more about educating the Parents to work as units and not indiviuals or Prima Donnas. To be consistent and to follow thru. Its hard work to get the discipline parameters set. But once they are it becomes so much easier. But i think (And this is because i haven't watched much) That modern Parenting is very much a two man effort. And there aren't many two man households these days.