My Heart Is Really Breaking (42)
LoveMoviesBellevue, Washington USA21 Threads 3 Polls 536 PostsIt is hard to see a love afair come to and end. My parents have been married 55 years and now my father has Altimers Disease. A while back my father got confused and could not find his way home. Luckily the police found him. He said he had a flash of light in his head, but later things began to clear up. My sister told me that my father told her he doesn't feel he has much longer to live, but asked her not to tell my mother because he didn't want her to worry about him. I talked to my mother today and she said that the day my father got lost, he told her how much he loved her, and how much she meant to him. I think he knows he is slipping away and wanted to tell her this before it was too late. This is a really hard stage to go though.
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Im so sorry to hear this. Best wishes to you and your family during this difficult time.
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justpeachie: Im so sorry to hear this. Best wishes to you and your family during this difficult time.
I'm sorry for you. We have a member in my family in the same situation. Very sad to watch.
I guess in a way it can also be used as a reminder to tell the ones who matter to us how we feel. Be awful to leave without telling someone what you think of them just in case of illness or a rogue bus with our name on it stopped you from being able to express yourself.
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CrosstownTraffic: I'm sorry for you. We have a member in my family in the same situation. Very sad to watch.
I guess in a way it can also be used as a reminder to tell the ones who matter to us how we feel. Be awful to leave without telling someone what you think of them just in case of illness or a rogue bus with our name on it stopped you from being able to express yourself.
I did have a chance to tell my father I loved him, and he said thank you. I had to laugh. He has always been a sweet and gentleman. I know my mother will be lost without him. I tell her I'm here for her, but I know it's not the same. Usually, I try to be strong for her and be that person she can talk to and a shoulder to cry on. At least she is able to tell him she loves him and slowly say goodbye.I guess in a way it can also be used as a reminder to tell the ones who matter to us how we feel. Be awful to leave without telling someone what you think of them just in case of illness or a rogue bus with our name on it stopped you from being able to express yourself.
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LoveMovies: It is hard to see a love afair come to and end. My parents have been married 55 years and now my father has Altimers Disease. A while back my father got confused and could not find his way home. Luckily the police found him. He said he had a flash of light in his head, but later things began to clear up. My sister told me that my father told her he doesn't feel he has much longer to live, but asked her not to tell my mother because he didn't want her to worry about him. I talked to my mother today and she said that the day my father got lost, he told her how much he loved her, and how much she meant to him. I think he knows he is slipping away and wanted to tell her this before it was too late. This is a really hard stage to go though.
sorry a bout that darlin has your father been diagnosed alsheimer or something?i mean did you find the reason he lost the first time when a police found him?police again can find him ,i think.------ This thread is Archived ------
sad to know this LM, be strong....
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strict: sorry a bout that darlin has your father been diagnosed alsheimer or something?i mean did you find the reason he lost the first time when a police found him?police again can find him ,i think.
Yes he was diagnosed. Altimers is a where a person slowly looses their memory. It can get to a point where they don't even remember their loved ones. He isn't lost now, but his memory is getting worse. It is hard seeing him like that and watching my mother deal with it.------ This thread is Archived ------
LoveMovies: I did have a chance to tell my father I loved him, and he said thank you. I had to laugh. He has always been a sweet and gentleman. I know my mother will be lost without him. I tell her I'm here for her, but I know it's not the same. Usually, I try to be strong for her and be that person she can talk to and a shoulder to cry on. At least she is able to tell him she loves him and slowly say goodbye.
sad and sorry to hear this 
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smiling_assasin: sad to know this LM, be strong....
I usually am. It just kills me to know that my father knows his time is short and is saying his goodbyes to my mother. I do feel grateful that they have been married for so many years, and that he has lived a long life, it is never easy though when it is nearing the end.------ This thread is Archived ------
LoveMovies: Yes he was diagnosed. Altimers is a where a person slowly looses their memory. It can get to a point where they don't even remember their loved ones. He isn't lost now, but his memory is getting worse. It is hard seeing him like that and watching my mother deal with it.
my granmother is suffering it.it is sad,and life is not always kind,i could feel for you and can see you crying sometimes there are lots of researches done on this topic,please do refer to it ,and you know ,family of the ill person do need to have some special cares for themselves too,and it is serious.another thing is from some stages he must have a nurse to take care of him.
all my prays for you
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strict: my granmother is suffering it.it is sad,and life is not always kind,i could feel for you and can see you crying sometimes
there are lots of researches done on this topic,please do refer to it ,and you know ,family of the ill person do need to have some special cares for themselves too,and it is serious.another thing is from some stages he must have a nurse to take care of him.
all my prays for you
My mother is 10 years younger than my father, which is a good thing. She said she can take care of him for now. We had alarms put on the doors of their house, so if my father opens the door it makes a ringing sound. My mother does not want to put him in a nursing home, nor assisted living and she doesn't want to move yet. I told her they could live with me, but she said she doesn't "want to be a burden." So, I am trying to respect her wishes for now. I sometimes feel so helpless. Is your grandmother in a nursing home?there are lots of researches done on this topic,please do refer to it ,and you know ,family of the ill person do need to have some special cares for themselves too,and it is serious.another thing is from some stages he must have a nurse to take care of him.
all my prays for you
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LoveMovies: My mother is 10 years younger than my father, which is a good thing. She said she can take care of him for now. We had alarms put on the doors of their house, so if my father opens the door it makes a ringing sound. My mother does not want to put him in a nursing home, nor assisted living and she doesn't want to move yet. I told her they could live with me, but she said she doesn't "want to be a burden." So, I am trying to respect her wishes for now. I sometimes feel so helpless. Is your grandmother in a nursing home?
hell no!we felt guilty and ashamed to send her anywhere.she is having a nurse at her home and we are available all the time too.her disease got worse when 3 years ago my dear granddad passed away.the had lived for 60 good year together.anyway,this is the way life goes.
but after some time your mother will need help.
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LoveMovies: It is hard to see a love afair come to and end. My parents have been married 55 years and now my father has Altimers Disease. A while back my father got confused and could not find his way home. Luckily the police found him. He said he had a flash of light in his head, but later things began to clear up. My sister told me that my father told her he doesn't feel he has much longer to live, but asked her not to tell my mother because he didn't want her to worry about him. I talked to my mother today and she said that the day my father got lost, he told her how much he loved her, and how much she meant to him. I think he knows he is slipping away and wanted to tell her this before it was too late. This is a really hard stage to go though.
So sorry to hear that you are suffering so much. My grandmother and my aunt had it, and it took its toll on all the family. It is never easy watching anyone disappear right before our eyes.
The only consolation is that at least the person with the illness has no clue of the kind of hurt they cause us in our grieving for them, particularly in the later stages, and end their days being cosseted like a much loved child.
There are also many medications these days that delay the onset of the illness, and keep them in remission, so to speak, for sometimes years. Worth looking in to maybe.
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LoveMovies: I usually am. It just kills me to know that my father knows his time is short and is saying his goodbyes to my mother. I do feel grateful that they have been married for so many years, and that he has lived a long life, it is never easy though when it is nearing the end.
I can feel what you are going thru,
some time i fear that my Dad might have to go thru the same as time goes by, and my heart cries just thinking of it.I hope it never happens.
I think in this entire situation, your mom has to be the strongest and all of you have to be with them, sharing our thoughts and fears during such times makes us feel better and together.
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LoveMovies: It is hard to see a love afair come to and end. My parents have been married 55 years and now my father has Altimers Disease. A while back my father got confused and could not find his way home. Luckily the police found him. He said he had a flash of light in his head, but later things began to clear up. My sister told me that my father told her he doesn't feel he has much longer to live, but asked her not to tell my mother because he didn't want her to worry about him. I talked to my mother today and she said that the day my father got lost, he told her how much he loved her, and how much she meant to him. I think he knows he is slipping away and wanted to tell her this before it was too late. This is a really hard stage to go though.
So sorry Love to hear your very sad news, my Aunt lost her husband to parkinsons last year and now she is lost without my Uncle......it is very sad to see someone we love dearly fade before our eyes and we can do nothing to prevent it...
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LoveMovies....I am truly sorry that your father is ill. All I can say is...take each day as it comes.
As far as a pic...I can send you one of mine....????LOL...
As far as a pic...I can send you one of mine....????LOL...
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GingerBe: So sorry to hear that you are suffering so much. My grandmother and my aunt had it, and it took its toll on all the family. It is never easy watching anyone disappear right before our eyes.
The only consolation is that at least the person with the illness has no clue of the kind of hurt they cause us in our grieving for them, particularly in the later stages, and end their days being cosseted like a much loved child.
There are also many medications these days that delay the onset of the illness, and keep them in remission, so to speak, for sometimes years. Worth looking in to maybe.
I was going to post the same thing Ginger, I take comfort that my Mother was unaware.The only consolation is that at least the person with the illness has no clue of the kind of hurt they cause us in our grieving for them, particularly in the later stages, and end their days being cosseted like a much loved child.
There are also many medications these days that delay the onset of the illness, and keep them in remission, so to speak, for sometimes years. Worth looking in to maybe.
I arranged for my Mother to go to a Nursing home, because Having worked with people that suffer with this I knew the pressure it would place on my father to care for her, and although he loved her in his own way, knew he would not be able to cope with the caring she would need
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LoveMovies: It is hard to see a love afair come to and end. My parents have been married 55 years and now my father has Altimers Disease. A while back my father got confused and could not find his way home. Luckily the police found him. He said he had a flash of light in his head, but later things began to clear up. My sister told me that my father told her he doesn't feel he has much longer to live, but asked her not to tell my mother because he didn't want her to worry about him. I talked to my mother today and she said that the day my father got lost, he told her how much he loved her, and how much she meant to him. I think he knows he is slipping away and wanted to tell her this before it was too late. This is a really hard stage to go though.
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Thanks everyone. I know some stages of life are harder than others. It was helpful taking about it.
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