SatelliteServer: My friend in JKT Indonesia is Chinese and I was always scared her dad would get me in the middle of the night and throw me onto Komodo Island "Enter The Dragon"
When I was in Indonesia I had a good job at a University in Bandung and had a lot of money relative to the local economy. So my girlfriends' parents considered me to be a pretty good prospective catch. But I just couldn't imagine it working out. Too many cultural and legal barriers.
....why do i have to defend asian woman from american and european ladies...(so called).. why do they think they are so much better than asian woman... That's always been an anglo-american tendency, to consider themselves wiser and better than the natives of the lands they exploited. Delusions of supremacy are essential for the colonialist mindset.
Personally, I agree that Asian women are more materialistically minded when it comes to relationships, but So what?
They are mature adults applying the values of their own culture and they have every right to do so.
Asian marriages, while perhaps lacking in romantic love, are nonetheless functional and much more stable than marriages in western countries.
As the new economic realities take effect over the next few years I would guess that western nations will begin to emulate Asia in many ways, including being a lot more pragmatic about love and marriage.
phoenixrising2OPnotrh, British Columbia Canada162 posts
RayfromUSA: oops messed that up.
trying again. phoenixrising2:
....why do i have to defend asian woman from american and european ladies...(so called).. why do they think they are so much better than asian woman... That's always been an anglo-american tendency, to consider themselves wiser and better than the natives of the lands they exploited. Delusions of supremacy are essential for the colonialist mindset.
Personally, I agree that Asian women are more materialistically minded when it comes to relationships, but So what?
They are mature adults applying the values of their own culture and they have every right to do so.
Asian marriages, while perhaps lacking in romantic love, are nonetheless functional and much more stable than marriages in western countries.
As the new economic realities take effect over the next few years I would guess that western nations will begin to emulate Asia in many ways, including being a lot more pragmatic about love and marriage.
phoenixrising2: IN ANOTHER THREAD RUNNING ....SEVERAL PEOPLE HAVE STATED CLEARLY THAT ASIAN WOMAN ONLY MARRY FOR MONEY OR EXIT VISA...
HOW IS THIS? .....SUCH A GENERALIZATION
AND WESTERN WOMAN ,, SOME CLAIM IN THIS THREAD .. MARRY FOR LOVE?......
BUT HOW CAN YOU SAY SUCH A THING?...i quote!
And its not just asian but I also have south american friends. Same dealio. They marry the guy for his money ONLY!!!! Dont think any different no matter how "nice" they act. I know what they say in private.......
Welllllllllllll I am foreign!!!! But from almost the same culture as america. Though most american men find me "different" in a nice way. I dont go for people because of their money, prestige, or what it can "get me". I dont put on "airs"...I am not fake to get what I want, call me crazy for this. I marry for love.....only. A foriegn bride will be gone like a bat out of Hell as soon as she can maintain citizenship without you.
Call it what you want, political correctness if you like but do you think Asian woman are not capable for marrying for love. Pull the political correctness card on me if you so desire but I tend to keep an open minded correctness.
NOW... I LOVE TO EXPOSE THE CLASH OF CULTURES....but this is not the clash of the cultures.....its assination
I think you are talking about they marry to get residence permit in US but most asian mens go to EU and US and they pay some woman not all money accordind to the paper marriage agreement between them for getting residency
well i think those that married for money and exit visa,s, are the smartest people around, who the hell in todays world wants to marry some broke s.o b. just be lucky they just want your money, the women in my country want your money, the house, the car,the boat, and would dig up the dog that died two years ago and take it. so if you want to marry for money or exit visa,s no matter where the hell your from, you certainly have my undying alliance and support..and may god bless all gold diggers..the smartest people in the whole damn world
Jack68: I think you are talking about they marry to get residence permit in US but most asian mens go to EU and US and they pay some woman not all money accordind to the paper marriage agreement between them for getting residency
I just like to waste my brain cells on analyzing this kind of boring threads...
Phonexing:
could you pls answer me three questions:
1.If you think S.E Asian women are so terrible...only eye money...why still sent me so many messages flowers and eCard....You should know I'm an absolutely Asian woman with yellow skin...right? I know you like to say "I love you" to women...but why not select others from western country?
2.Now that you sent those messages said.....you love me so much....etc...that indicate you don't think I'm like what you said in your post...if thus why still posted this kind of boring low quality threads?
3.If you want to tell male CS members something like this...you think they can believe this kind of unresonable thread?....I think you might study some philosophy...Can we say ALL Asian women are bad and ALL western women are good? Is it in order to always use the word "ALL"? It's too extreme!
Even my daughter understand...there are good and bad person in everywhere...right? dear sir?
Anyway, phoenixing....I like you aboveboard...at least you post this kind of thing without hiding yourself in a white face...I like frank and righteous brave man....
phoenixrising2OPnotrh, British Columbia Canada162 posts
Amenda: I just like to waste my brain cells on analyzing this kind of boring threads...
Phonexing:
could you pls answer me three questions:
1.If you think S.E Asian women are so terrible...only eye money...why still sent me so many messages flowers and eCard....You should know I'm an absolutely Asian woman with yellow skin...right? I know you like to say "I love you" to women...but why not select others from western country?
2.Now that you sent those messages said.....you love me so much....etc...that indicate you don't think I'm like what you said in your post...if thus why still posted this kind of boring low quality threads?
3.If you want to tell male CS members something like this...you think they can believe this kind of unresonable threadwhy still posted this kind of boring low quality threads?
Even my daughter understand...there are good and bad person in everywhere...right? dear sir? Anyway, phoenixing....I like you aboveboard...at least you post this kind of thing without hiding yourself in a white face...I like frank and righteous brave man....but without beard!!!
Amadna !...you did not read the thread?..please read the introduction
1...why still sent me so many messages flowers and eCard....You should know I'm an absolutely Asian woman with yellow skin...right? I know you like to say "I love you" to women...but why not select others from western country? i love ur yellow skin....lol i did not ...say asian woman marry for money.... i am upset with those who say that kind of talk..
2...why still posted this kind of boring low quality threads?..its all i can do with my low I Q
3..why still posted this kind of boring low quality threads? same answer as 2...hahaha
cherrybrandycambridge, Cambridgeshire, England UK7,473 posts
i agree Liebe2 what is this all about actually and i must say,whichever opinion,possitive or not is still derogating about women,their choices and reasons to get married
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AGE IS HOW YOU LIVE DUDE
i just do not think its fair ....to say woman from 1 culture or another culture are only looking for money
they all love it